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Title: Another family member passes away.
Post by: Lucinda on October 05, 2008, 05:04:11 AM
My aunt died this time two years ago from renal failure, my Dad died exactly this time last year from renal failure and my auntie (another of his sisters) died this morning from renal failure.  Brings a whole new meaning to hereditary disease. It gets depressing that so many members of my family have died from renal failure.  I am the only one left with it now.  With our type of renal problem, our family has really bad heart and vascular problems as well - probably more than most with this disease.  As much as it is really sad, I am still going to wake up in the morning to a new day and while I keep waking up every day, I am going to cherish every minute.  Last year I had to cancel my trip to Vegas to meet you all because my father died but this year I am still going to go to Italy on Saturday as planned.  I am not being cold-hearted about it, it is just that our family has been touched by so much death over the past few years that I am becoming a bit emotionally shattered and after the funeral I will be just happy to fly away from all the sadness.  Is that selfish?  I would like to think none of my family will judge me for making that decision.   
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: Joe Paul on October 05, 2008, 05:22:02 AM
Lucinda, so sorry to hear of your Aunts passing. And ,to answer your question about being selfish, you've answered it yourself - cherish every minute of your life. Go to Italy and try to enjoy, God knows, life will be there when you return. My sympathies to you and your family.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: kellyt on October 05, 2008, 05:26:21 AM
100% agree wi th Joe Paul.  I would like to think that your family would understand.  I believe mine would if I were in your shoes.  Bless you all and have a safe trip!
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: RichardMEL on October 05, 2008, 05:38:56 AM
Life is too short Lucinda, and I'm sore your aunt would want you to live yours the best you can from now on... so going to Italy would be best thing to do.

*hugs* for Lucinda  :grouphug;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: pelagia on October 05, 2008, 05:53:56 AM
I am sorry to hear of your loss.   :grouphug;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: lola on October 05, 2008, 06:39:30 AM
Cindy, I'm sorry to hear about your Aunt :cuddle; but I think you need your vacation and your Auntie would want you to go also. :cuddle; :grouphug;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: willieandwinnie on October 05, 2008, 06:42:29 AM
Lucinda, so sorry to hear of your Aunts passing. And ,to answer your question about being selfish, you've answered it yourself - cherish every minute of your life. Go to Italy and try to enjoy, God knows, life will be there when you return. My sympathies to you and your family.  :cuddle;

Lucinda, I' so sorry for your loss.  :cuddle; I agree with JP.
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: del on October 05, 2008, 06:43:32 AM
Sorry to hear about your aunt  :cuddle; Go tpo Italy and enjoy yourself. I'm sure your aunt would want you to go and have a good time and your family should understand.  :grouphug;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: Lori1851 on October 05, 2008, 06:57:48 AM
(((Lucinda)))
Your in my prayers. Go on your trip you need it!

Lori/Indiana
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: Sluff on October 05, 2008, 07:43:52 AM
Cindy, we only get one go around with living. Go on your trip and enjoy yourself. Live while you can, we never know when our number is up. Sorry about your Aunt.
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: paris on October 05, 2008, 10:11:06 AM
I am so sorry, Lucinda.   As we have all learned, today is the day--don't wait for tomorrow.  Enjoy your trip.  Your family will understand.  Celebrate your Aunt's life by living.  You will honor her memory by living the best life you can.   Prayers for all your family during this difficult time.  :grouphug;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: okarol on October 05, 2008, 10:15:46 AM

 :cuddle; Sorry about your aunt and all the losses in the past. I am happy to hear you're going to Italy. Make some good memories!
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: monrein on October 05, 2008, 01:30:50 PM
I feel sure that your family would want you to proceed as planned with the trip to Italy.  So sorry to hear about your aunt and I hope that this is the last of the losses for a long time.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: Lucinda on October 05, 2008, 02:53:12 PM
Thanks everyone.   I am feeling much better today.  New day and all.  The funeral will be on Thursday and then I leave on Saturday so the timing works. I agree, hope that is the end of the losses for a while too as I am the only one left with the problem now!!!  I'll be in touch from Italy and I will post some pics along the way.  xxx
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: Ken Shelmerdine on October 05, 2008, 03:33:03 PM
Lucinda you and your family have my deepest sympathy. Of course you should take your vacation you deserve it with all the sorrow you've endured during the past year. :grouphug;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: Mimi on October 05, 2008, 08:19:45 PM
My condolences, Cindy, to you and your family.  Life goes on, so you must,too.  Have
a good trip and don't feel guilty.

Love, Mimi

 
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: kidney4traci on October 11, 2008, 09:41:27 PM
Sorry for your loss and the hurt it is bringing up.  Enjoy your trip - seize the day!  I bet your aunt would be happy for you!!
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: dkerr on October 12, 2008, 08:21:34 PM
I'm sorry for your loss ..
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: rose1999 on October 13, 2008, 02:09:55 AM
 :grouphug;
Title: Re: Another family member passes away.
Post by: haemogoblin on October 13, 2008, 02:15:26 PM
I don't know whether you have any beliefs in religion, God or spirituality, and forgive me for being so forthright in my opinion, but I'd like to think that your family members that have passed would be so proud of you right now with what seems like your unshakeable love of life.  You are an inspiration to me and I'm sure no one on this website would begrudge you a little happiness after what has been such a tough time for you.

Love from across the pond,

Haemogoblin