how will u be remembered

[keith]

I was just thinking (i sometimes do that ) but this was one of the times i caught myself asking myself and i had to honestly think , if and when my time comes what will people remember me for ?

So i ask u what will u be remembered for?


I hope that I'm remembered for being a man that loved life starting with his kids and wife he would all ways but them first and he did right by them.My starting a support group .da kidney walk in dover honestly i would not want to be remembered for these things because they really don't tell who or what i was it says that i wanted to help my kids and wife will all ways carry my name on the support group and the walk may be 4gotten my wife and kids will make sure that my memories will live on through them

[mcjane]

I'm still thinking this one over.

[rose1999]

I'd like to be remembered as the person who got a local dialysis unit to save people like my Dad travelling an hour each way to clinic - it really knocks him about - I am trying but getting answers from the NHS is  . though I won't give up and will fight to the last.

Apart from that I hope I'll be remembered as being a good Mum who loved her family more than anything else and someone who would help others - but I'll probably just be forgotten by most people 

[Sluff]

I'm not sure but the one thing I do know is when I turned 32 years old I had a reality check. I fgured I screwed up the first 32 years and I wasn't going to screw up the next 32 years. (Relationship wise.) I'll probably be remembered for having more month at the end of my money.

[Romona]

I hope I am not remember as a "Crazy Old Lady". I would like to be remember with laughter and happiness. I don't want people to remember because of the trials and tribulations in my life.

[flip]

As a survivor with a sense of humor

[twirl]

As a survivor with a sense of humor

me too!

[LightLizard]

i don't think that i will be remembered, generally. i will be by my kids, i guess, and i've always treated them as equals, so i hope their memories of me are fond ones...

[Rerun]

As a survivor with a sense of humor

me too!

Me Three!   

[st789]

Spiritual.

[KR Cincy]

unless I get my s**t together, it'll be "he was that fun guy who got sick and cranky and never got his spirit back."

that would suck...

[Ang]

i  hope  i'm  remembered  as  a  person  who  gave  plenty  but  rarely  took  for  myself

[monrein]

Well, you're right on track for the first part Ang.   

[Meinuk]

Ok, I wasn't going to post in this thread - too morbid.

But, after reading the last two posts.  I have to post...

Ang, take a little for yourself.  You do give so much, but your life shouldn't be all about giving.  Take a few moments and think "what about me", and let those who love you do that.  Life is about finding the balance.  Not being selfless, sometimes,you have to be a little selfish.

And Kevin, you are allowed to be sick and cranky some of the time.  Your spirit is there, I've seen it.  Maybe it needs to come out to play a bit more, but it is there.  Stop selling yourself short.  (after all, you set the bar pretty high in the "sex on dialysis" thread!)

And as for me, how I'll be remembered, well, I'm just happy that I'll be remembered.  When we talked about my funeral non-plans (no funeral, just dump me in the boating pond at Kensington Palace), Robbie asked me to amend my will, so that he could have some of my ashes.  He wants to be able to take them out of  the cupboard every once in a while and remember the good times.  There are days when a sixteen year old boy can put your whole life in perspective.  And for that, I love him even more.

[Ang]

thank  you  meinuk for  your  kind  words,  but  i  guess  i'm  more happier  than  usual when  i'm  giving or  doing  something  for others,we  all  have  to live  with  our  disabilities (aussie  sarcasm)

[Meinuk]

Ang, you've done so much for people on these boards, I just want to make sure that someone is doing for you.

And Aussie sarcasm is encouraged.  That is a part of what makes IHD such a special place.

[Treasure]

I hope I will be remembered as the Supreme Goddess Bitch of the Universe...

...because that is totally who I am!

Oh, and I hope my boys will totally get that I was a kick-ass, if imperfect Mom, and that I really, truly, lived for them. I hope they will learn to be tenacious, because I certainly have modeled that for them.

And... absolute humility, too....can't you tell? hehehe. 

[twirl]

what Flip said and
 an awesome mom
a teacher who gave a damn
and a person who could pee with the best of them

[KR Cincy]

Anna...thanks for the kind words...nice knowing my old self still shines through sometimes...I often wonder if it's gone forever.

YOU inspire me with your perseverance, sense of humor and appreciation for life...I'm tyring to be more like you!

[donnia]

I hope I am remembered for the love I have for people.... all people... especially children. 

I have spent my whole adult life working with special needs children.  Most  of my  career has involved interpreting for deaf children.  Many interpreters have that "I am an interpreter not an aide" attitude. 

I never did. 

I would help everyone... all kids... teachers... cafeteria staff..... custodians... everyone. 

I actually had 2 of my previous students (no, not deaf students...students that were in "my" student's class) that were tested to be a donor for me!  Wow! I cannot tell you how that made me feel! 

My husband's best friend got a job at a saddle shop and came to my house after his first day.  He told me, "Donnia, I met someone who knows you, he said he wouldn't have graduated high school without you".  That made my day.  No, he wasn't deaf either... just another of the students that I helped out in class.  The children are our future.  I LOVE our children! 

First I want to be remembered as a great step - mother, wife, aunt ...... and a great educator of our youth.

But, I also hope I am remembered as having a love for all people, no matter where on the "totem pole" they fall.

[thegrammalady]

by giving i receive. i learned a long time ago it's a matter of perspective when i complained to a friend who was giving me tomatoes from her garden, enough every couple of days to can tomato sauce, that she should let me do something for her, she was always doing for me. i only saw that i was getting tomatoes she only saw that she had so many she didn't want them to spoil and i was doing her a favor by taking them off her hands.

i hope i am remembered for being a "crazy old lady"

i have spent the last 2 years doing "things" with my grandchildren. i know that my grandmother got me something for each and every birthday and for every christmas, but i couldn't tell you what they were. what i remember are the things we did and the places we went.  chayton is spending 4 weeks with us this summer. last year for his birthday i took him to the circus. that's what i hope he remembers.

[Deanne]

It depends on who you ask.

If you ask my Mom, she'll probably tell you I was an ornery cuss who was just like her father.
If you ask my Dad, he'll tell you I was independent and intelligent. (I'm a daddy's girl, obviously!)
If you ask my siblings, they'll tell you I was the one who escaped the family dramas by moving away. (they're jealous!)
If you ask my friends, they'll tell you I was a crazy cat & dog lady.
If you ask my co-workers, they'll tell you I could be counted on to get things done.
If you ask my cats & dogs, they'll tell you to throw a ball and feed them.

[okarol]

When I think of the person that I most admire, it's my grandma Lula.

She was a good wife, a great mother, and an incredible grandmother. She made me feel special and loved.

Somehow she made everyone feel as though they were "her favorite."

I hope I am remembered like she is, with love, devotion and respect.

It's a tall order.

[keith]

I'd like to say  to everyone how replied to this and I'd like to say I'm sorry if i offend any one wit dis  but I'm very sure dat all of us has asked ourselfeves dat same ? on many different occasions @ one time in my live i was scared to ask myself dat ? cause i kept coming up wit da same old answer NOTHING , but since my transplant  i find myself coming up wit alot of different answers. I wanted to see how many different answers people had and i did. Now i find myself asking if i had it to do all over about making dis topic part of me says yes BUT majority of me says no so if i offend u but some of de topic and things da me say I'm sorry but dis is talk about anything dat u want.

[twirl]

I am not offended by this topic, I think it is an appropriate topic by reading what everyone wrote, give you something to reflect about.