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« Reply #25 on: May 09, 2008, 04:22:59 AM »
Love your reply Uniballer... perfect.

I'm glad Sarah has someone as positive as you.
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« Reply #26 on: August 18, 2008, 07:18:39 PM »
www.renalromance.com will be shut down for inactivity.
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« Reply #27 on: August 18, 2008, 08:37:19 PM »
Good move, Sluff although I don't understand the lack of inactivity. I guess most people don't have time for romance.
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« Reply #28 on: August 19, 2008, 04:10:12 AM »
Quote from: kitkatz on April 22, 2008, 03:58:07 PM
Can you please explain to me how celibacy sucks ass?   :rofl;  I thought it was another thing that sucked ass.  :rofl;

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« Reply #29 on: August 19, 2008, 08:30:49 AM »
Quote from: Sluff on August 18, 2008, 07:18:39 PM
www.renalromance.com will be shut down for inactivity.

Sigh, this makes me sad, not because of the romance factor but because that site was a reminder of my times on the phone with Susie.  Susie was in love with being in love, and she wanted everyone to be as happy as she was in the romance department.  She strong armed me into posting there, and well, I really miss her.  Closing the site is a wise thing to do, after all with no traffic, it is expensive to host.  But it will be missed.
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« Reply #30 on: August 19, 2008, 09:45:35 AM »
Sluff and Kitkatz on renal romance
I thought you had to be single to go on renal romance ???
we do have single members
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« Reply #31 on: August 19, 2008, 10:06:51 AM »
Quote from: twirl on August 19, 2008, 09:45:35 AM
Sluff and Kitkatz on renal romance
I thought you had to be single to go on renal romance ???
we do have single members

You mean there's no romance in marriage?
Goofynina was a romantic and loved her man Sam.
I am sorry to see RR go too, but I guess it's time.
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« Reply #32 on: August 19, 2008, 01:30:46 PM »
Quote from: Claudia30 on May 01, 2008, 07:53:21 AM
Quote from: kellyt on April 22, 2008, 02:31:12 PM
Stacy Without An "E" I'd like you to meet Claudia30.         :shy;

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A gentleman who posts on IHD.  He posted on Page 1 on this topic.     :)  I thought  maybe he could help you with your fears and concerns with dating.

How are you doing, anyway?  I hope you don't let dialysis and/or this disease hold you back from love!  I have a good friend who was injured in a a freak accident during her first year of college.  Due to this accident she is now a paraplegic with other physical problems as well.  For years she was concerned with finding a true forever love.  She dated, but I think it was just guys that were interested in being with someone in her situation.  But about two years ago she found a wonderful man via internet dating, they married and he is the best thing for her!  They are total opposites, but it's amazing to see them together and in love!

You'll meet someone who will not be concerned with your illness or dialysis and will love you just for you!    :grouphug;
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« Reply #33 on: August 19, 2008, 02:36:29 PM »
Just my  :twocents;
I was not here during Renal Romance's prime, however I would not have wanted to post on a site where ""everyone"" I knew and loved would know who I was talking to.  I think it would feel ""safer"" to talk to someone on a busy site like IHD and if we wanted to then communicate privately.  That may be why no traffic on that site. ??
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« Reply #34 on: August 19, 2008, 02:40:36 PM »
well, of course there can be romance in a marriage
but I thought renal romance was to meet someone with renal problems or to meet someone who did not care
someone to date or get close too
I signed up with this meet a pen pal thing
and it was a mistake
I wanted a pen pal not a romance
I had to be taken off the list
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« Reply #35 on: August 19, 2008, 02:48:42 PM »
But twirl....did you read the fine print??? it probably said meet a pen pal for *****.........  :rofl;
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Gortex clotted off Thanksgiving Week of 2007, was unclotted and promptly clotted off 1/2 hour later so Permacath Rt chest.
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2 Step fistula, 05/08-elevated 06/08, using mid August.
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« Reply #36 on: August 19, 2008, 03:35:45 PM »
I am sad it is closing down.  Can Rossman put some of those more interesting threads on here, maybe?

Romance is alive and well in my marriage. HE is taking me to the bookstore tonight!
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« Reply #37 on: August 19, 2008, 05:43:06 PM »
Ohhh I drool..........to be taken to the bookstore.......wow........I am properly jeolous........... :bow;  :bow;
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Gortex clotted off Thanksgiving Week of 2007, was unclotted and promptly clotted off 1/2 hour later so Permacath Rt chest.
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2 Step fistula, 05/08-elevated 06/08, using mid August.
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« Reply #38 on: August 19, 2008, 05:50:39 PM »
Kitkatz
what kind of a book store :shy;
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« Reply #39 on: August 19, 2008, 05:53:45 PM »
Oh Lord....I on the other hand just assumed Barnes and Noble...my bro in law used to tell people I was at Bartles and James......hmm would like some.
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Gortex 4/07.  Started dialysis in ND 5/4/2007
Gortex clotted off Thanksgiving Week of 2007, was unclotted and promptly clotted off 1/2 hour later so Permacath Rt chest.
3/2008 move to NC to be close to children.
2 Step fistula, 05/08-elevated 06/08, using mid August.
Aug 5, 08, trained NxStage and Home on 9/3/2008.
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« Reply #40 on: August 19, 2008, 08:45:39 PM »
It's sad about RR... The thing about it for me was the focus on Renal stuff. I mean if I have a romance with someone I don't really want renal issues to be the dominant thing. While I absolutely understand and support the idea of the site and what was behind it, I can also see why it wouldn't have worked out.

Besides, I do all my flirting here... why would I need a seperate site??/ that's just way too much work for a busy man such as myself!!!

ps: Claudia where are you???? I'm wondering....  :cuddle; :-*
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« Reply #41 on: August 19, 2008, 08:47:34 PM »
Ooooh! Bartles and James would have been great!  Instead I got Barnes and Noble and Borders looking for Rikki Tikki Tavi books and a book on Venus.  I found the Rikki books but no Venus book.
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« Reply #42 on: August 23, 2008, 11:27:59 PM »
I love Rikki Tikki
are you teaching it
love it
love it
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damn it; I am living thru U again
STOP TALKING
NO YOU MAY NOT GO TO THE BATHROOM
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PUT YOUR GUM AWAY
THIS IS THE LAST WARNING
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« Reply #43 on: August 24, 2008, 01:09:58 PM »
We were talking about this on another thread awhile ago...I think one of the common themes was we all want someone to be around, but only when we feel like being around someone.  Which for me is only about 10-12 hours a week tops. :)  I'd love somebody to hang out with, go to movies with, somebody to help around the house, somebody to bitch about life to...but at the same time, there is a good chunk of time during the week I just want to be left alone. 

I've dated 3 young women since I was on dialysis and the reason for breakup was universal...I just didn't spend enough time with them.  After working 40 hours a week, and spending 12 hours a week on dialysis, and then typically coming home and crashing most nights after dialysis, I just didn't have enough time for them...and yes, they knew about the situation going in...but it's not fair to them to expect them to completely alter their expectations/lives for me while my life continues as "normal".
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« Reply #44 on: August 24, 2008, 01:32:04 PM »
Robby, you need to meet my daughter!! :rofl;   Single mom of two, works 40+hours a week, volunteers, etc, etc.  She isn't sure if she will ever marry again because she needs her own space.  Everyone she meets wants total control of her time.  She doesn't understand why a guy just can't hang out, or go to a movie,or go out to dinner and not demand every minute.  She doesn't want someone to spend every moment with, just some companionship. She doesn't think she can ever blend a life with someone because of her independent attitude.   Many have told her that she just doesn't have enough time for them.      Oh yea, by the way, she was born in St. Louis :2thumbsup;      OK, I am done matchmaking :rofl; 
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« Reply #45 on: August 24, 2008, 01:57:17 PM »
and robby, her mother likes you which is a huge plus.   :2thumbsup;
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Lost vision due to retinopathy 12/2005, 30 Laser Surg 2006
ESRD diagnosed 12/2006
03/2007 Fantastic Eye Surgeon in ND got my sight back and implanted lenses in both eyes, great distance & low reading.
Gortex 4/07.  Started dialysis in ND 5/4/2007
Gortex clotted off Thanksgiving Week of 2007, was unclotted and promptly clotted off 1/2 hour later so Permacath Rt chest.
3/2008 move to NC to be close to children.
2 Step fistula, 05/08-elevated 06/08, using mid August.
Aug 5, 08, trained NxStage and Home on 9/3/2008.
Fistulagram 09/2008. In hospital 10/30/08, Bowel Obstruction.
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« Reply #46 on: August 24, 2008, 02:16:53 PM »
Sounds like a good match Paris.  As long as she can be converted back into being a Cardinal fan I think it would work.  :2thumbsup;

Also sounds like as long as we met up for dinner or a movie once or twice a year we'd both content with just being able to say we were dating someone  :clap;

*Which is by the way one of my favorite (please note sarcasm) parts of being single.  "So are you dating anyone yet?  When are you going to find yourself a good girl?  You HAVE to get a girlfriend.  Shouldn't you be married by now? Hey, you should meet me older half-sister, she has a GREAT personality!!!" (eeeek!!!)
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« Reply #47 on: August 24, 2008, 02:25:02 PM »
maybe you all should reopen Renal Romance
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« Reply #48 on: August 24, 2008, 02:50:57 PM »
Oh my goodness!  Melissa is SICK of people asking "who are you dating now?"  No one!     Cardinal fan?  :2thumbsup; We are Cardinal fans and Blues fans.   Even though we now support our Hurricanes, we will always be loyal to the Blues.       Back to the topic (matchmaking?) --  relationships seem to be hard no matter what the circumstance. I think this is a great thread.  It is sad to see Renal Romance close.   
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« Reply #49 on: August 24, 2008, 06:47:14 PM »
Had a comment and forgot it! :banghead;
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