Ignorant things people have said to you

[tubes]

if im getting slippers to match i MUST have the panties also.

midnight blue crotchless panties kitkatz...now thats what im talking about, all lacey thou

[kitkatz]

Now, you are sending me the cash for these things?  No? Oh well.  It will have to be a dream.

[angieskidney]

Okay - I want my official club membership card now!
 
I got my dialysis schedule - it's T-TR-Saturday, starting at noon.  The family Christmas party for my side of the family is scheduled for Saturday.  I don't expect them to change it - it's been scheduled for almost two months now, and everyone else has reworked their schedules to fit.  But I did tell dad and stepmom that I would be arriving late, since the party will be starting at 4, and I have an hour and half drive from the center to their place. 

Stepmom says "Can't you just skip it?

I just love it when they say "can't you just skip it"....  i'm like, were you even listening to me when I explained to you what dialysis is and why I need it? Obviously not if your saying just skip it... 

Ya no kidding! That is exactly how I felt when family members have said that to me (not immediate family but close enough where they have heard me explain dialysis at least a few times over the last 5 frickan years!! )

I really feel like they do NOT listen to a word I say! Yet they ask as if they are interested and I am dumb enough to fall for it and believe they really want to know. My mom has always told me that I am too dumb to realize when people are "just being polite" .. 

[kitkatz]

People who are just being polite usually do not make insensitive comments to you about your disease!  A little foot stomping may be in order around some people!

[gizmar]

I hate to talk about my own family ... but... when I come home from dialysis and feel like crap they phone and tell me - "oh well, tomorrow you'll be better".  I find this kind of conversation very dismissive. 
Or...I love it when they tell you - "gee you look great, you must be exaggerating how crappy you're feeling".  I don't get how the exterior is an indicator of the interior.

[kitkatz]

Or the cowroker who walked up to me one day I am feeling pretty good and says: "You look awful".   Well thanks a bunch!

[Lucinda]

Hey Richard

I'll come and drink it with you Richard......I am always in Melbourne on business.

I can't believe it....my dad is a lawyer and he would have done exactly the same...and he is on dialysis himself

You wonder how they got through uni don't you...

Sorry, I just had to LOL because it was all too familiar

[kitkatz]

How about the medical professional who says: You look pretty good for someone who has been on dialysis for as long as you have."
Just what is the right answer to that one?? "Gee thanks. I try hard." or "See what dialysis can do for you." or "Yeah, it is great way of life."

[hemohortensia]

So the medical field doesn't know all that much either....everytime I go to the ER, they ask for your history of course, and I have to say I had a kidney transplant before. Everytime, this is the first question after I say that.. "Which kidney?"... Which kidney WHAT?? I had a whole new kidney put in... WTF.... where do these people go to school??? .."Was is it the right or left kidney?" uhm, neither? My kidneys failed and I had a new one put in.. so I have 3 kidneys in me, all of which dont work now. 

Forgive me for my ignorance but I have been asked the same question because my transplanted kidney was put in my right abdomen. Knowing the answer is extremely important should you need further abdominal surgery. So you may have 3 non-functioning kidneys in your body but one is a left kidney, one is a right kidney and the transplanted one is? If your torso is like mine, you have so many scars, you can't tell which is for what!

And you might be interested in knowing that the left kidney has longer vessels and is usually the one used. This is now the subject of debate since the left kidney is routinely taken from living donors even if the right doesn't function as well (which doesn't seem fair - to give the better kidney to the recipient) It is now also the subject of studies as to whether laparoscopic donors can just as easily donate the less functional kidney.

Frankly, I don't find this ignorant at all.

[devlinswife]

OK, so Tuesday was my first double stick for my fistula, They have to stick me way done by my wrist so it's pretty sensitive, needless to say I started crying ( I normally do not cry) Anyway my one nurse had the guts to tell me I would never be able to get a tattoo, Granted I don't have any tattoos, but I have to say that a dialysis needle is a whole heck of a lot bigger than a tattoo needle. What do all of you that have tats and do dialysis think? Should I be upset?

[Sluff]

Devlinswife    attack on nurse <SMACK>

Unbelievable.

[nextnoel]

I take it the nurse (1) doesn't have any tattoos, (2) doesn't have any sense, and (3) may be in the wrong business.

I have a tattoo of flowers that encircles my wrist, which took a very long time to execute.  Yes, I felt it, and yes, it hurt sometimes, but it couldn't have been anything compared to getting big needles poked in your fistula!  The tattoo needles are smaller, and do not actually penetrate very deeply.

Pfffbbttt to that nurse!   (and feel free to quote me!)

[goofynina]

Pfffbbttt to that nurse!   (and feel free to quote me!)

I second that.. Pfffbbttt,

[Sara]

I've had 3 tattoos done, the last of which was VERY painful, and I'd still run in fear of those dialysis needles.  So the very fact that you were able to sit there and allow them to stick you, is testament to your pain threshold.  Don't let the stupidity get you down!   

[Epoman]

Pfffbbttt to that nurse!   (and feel free to quote me!)

I second that.. Pfffbbttt,

I third that.. Pfffbbttt, 

It amazes me to think about some of the ignorant nurses I have met in my time. It makes me wonder if they were "giving" away free nursing licenses at one point. Some people should just NOT be a nurse, but what really bothers me are nurses who talk about things like they have the facts, yet they know nothing about the matter and they do it to save face.

[DeLana]

OK, so Tuesday was my first double stick for my fistula, They have to stick me way done by my wrist so it's pretty sensitive, needless to say I started crying ( I normally do not cry) Anyway my one nurse had the guts to tell me I would never be able to get a tattoo, Granted I don't have any tattoos, but I have to say that a dialysis needle is a whole heck of a lot bigger than a tattoo needle. What do all of you that have tats and do dialysis think? Should I be upset?

You have every right to be.  As I nurse, this makes me cringe 

DeLana   

[goofynina]

Hi DeLana,  great to see your back, hope all is well with you 

[downranger]

there's being a few, I've only being on dialysis for 6 mos.,there  is plenty of time!!
well, the most recent one was from a friend who told me to drink a gallon (per day) of this wierd
mexican herb tea. another was about the weight I've lost. A friend told me,
man, I need to get on that dialysis thing so I can loose some weight!!

[sugapea]

Girl at a party I was at last night, "Wow I wish my skin was that pale".  Said this after hearing me discussing my lack of rbc to a friend. I just gave her the "you poor stupid girl" smile and walked away.

[okarol]

Girl at a party I was at last night, "Wow I wish my skin was that pale".  Said this after hearing me discussing my lack of rbc to a friend. I just gave her the "you poor stupid girl" smile and walked away.

Sometimes all you can do is just shake your head.

[Sluff]

Wonder why carrying weapons in public dwelling is illegal these days..... some people are only alive because it is against the law to kill them.     

[Sara]

Girl at a party I was at last night, "Wow I wish my skin was that pale". 

That's when you say, "Really!?  Because I could arrange that for you."   

[sandman]

Wonder why carrying weapons in public dwelling is illegal these days.....

There are lots of reasons actually but #1, It's against the law.   Only law enforcement officers are allowed to brandish weapons in public.  Simply because the officers are properly trained in the use or their firearms and they are the ones getting paid to up-hold public safety.

[Sluff]

Wonder why carrying weapons in public dwelling is illegal these days.....

There are lots of reasons actually but #1, It's against the law.   Only law enforcement officers are allowed to brandish weapons in public.  Simply because the officers are properly trained in the use or their firearms and they are the ones getting paid to up-hold public safety.

Sorry I must have forgotten to put up my Sarcasm Flag.

[Zach]

Simply because the officers are properly trained in the use or their firearms and they are the ones getting paid to up-hold public safety.

Yeah, tell that to the guys in NYC who were shot just for being black.   

I know, off topic ... but maybe not.