Ignorant things people have said to you

[monrein]

Oh Kellyt please don't think I took any offense at all.  Nothing is really simple is it?  He was an odd kid, very serious and lots of trouble in his home life but without knowing all that he could easily have made a remark without it meaning anything or he could have heard some grown up say that,  again not meaning it literally.  I just thought it interesting the contrast between the two reactions and of course it shows how even very young we're all so different.  I promise that if ever I take offense at anything said here I'll follow up and sort it out and I hope (I KNOW some will for sure) that others will do the same if ever I say anything that sounds offensive or whacky or whatever.  I'm glad you found it cute.

[kellyt]

Thanks girl.  I never want to offend.  Life's to short, right?   

[KT0930]

I'm not offended, either, Kelly! I guess having graduated from college just a couple of years ago with a major in psychology got the better of me. I immediately started thinking about what must this child have heard at home? What kinds of coping skills is he/she being taught or not taught? That kind of thing. That's part of the problem with this kind of forum, though, you can't read voice inflections.

[Brightsky69]

An adult asked me how long would I have to wait on the transplant list. I said the average for me (0+ blood type) would be 5 to 7 years. They said "What?? You can't just get one?"

[kellyt]

An adult asked me how long would I have to wait on the transplant list. I said the average for me (0+ blood type) would be 5 to 7 years. They said "What?? You can't just get one?"

Sometimes you just wanna

[kitkatz]

Seems to be my life lately. 

[kellyt]

An adult asked me how long would I have to wait on the transplant list. I said the average for me (0+ blood type) would be 5 to 7 years. They said "What?? You can't just get one?"

"Well, Costco has discontinued them and like a fool I let my Sams card expire.   What do you suggest I do now, all-knowing Oz?"

"Well, I was going to with my tax refund, but I really want an HD Plasma TV."

" Oh yeah!  Would you be a doll and pick one up for me on your way home from work tomorrow?"  "Thanks.....dumbass!"

oh yeah... include  with any of the above responses.

[Brightsky69]

I forgot about this one....

This was more than a few years ago. I think my transplant was only 5 or 6 years old. I was married at the time and we had some people over to the house. A friend brought another friend over. Someone asked about my transplant and this friend of a friend said something to the effect that if your kidneys failed then it was God's will you should die.....it was some crazy mess like that. I don't even remember specifically what she said. Needless to say I never saw her again after that night. 

[paddbear0000]

Oh man! First, my jaw would have dropped, then, I would have told her to leave my house. The gall she had!   

[monrein]

Brightsky that takes the kidney (I mean the cake).  WTF.  I would have wanted to know if her kid had CKD would she feel the same way?  What a twit.

[kellyt]

I forgot about this one....

This was more than a few years ago. I think my transplant was only 5 or 6 years old. I was married at the time and we had some people over to the house. A friend brought another friend over. Someone asked about my transplant and this friend of a friend said something to the effect that if your kidneys failed then it was God's will you should die.....it was some crazy mess like that. I don't even remember specifically what she said. Needless to say I never saw her again after that night. 

ding, ding, ding....WE HAVE A WINNER!  We have finally heard the absolute stupidest thing ever said to a CKD patient!     

[kitkatz]

I just know someone will top it.

[twirl]

I just know someone will top it.

I can not top it but I may be able to equal it-----
I had 4 misscarriages before we found out what was wrong...a fellow teacher remarked that God knows who will make good natural parents..

[kimcanada]

OMG that is horrible, that person needed a good smack!

[stauffenberg]

If God wants people to die when he lets their kidneys fail, perhaps he also wants them to starve to death when he doesn't put food in their mouths and chew it for them.

[kellyt]

OMG!  I can't think of anything else to say, but OMG!   

[kidney4traci]

Twirl, that is absolutly horrible!  And so wrong! 

[Brightsky69]

I can not top it but I may be able to equal it-----
I had 4 misscarriages before we found out what was wrong...a fellow teacher remarked that God knows who will make good natural parents..

twirl...I think that about tops it. Geez...how insensitive can a person be. 

Ever see that movie Two Weeks Notice? I swear in that movie she tells her boss  "Before you speak you should probably check with me first." She says that to him right after he said something really stupid. 


EDITED - Corrected quote error - Bajanne, Moderator

[kellyt]

I can not top it but I may be able to equal it-----
I had 4 misscarriages before we found out what was wrong...a fellow teacher remarked that God knows who will make good natural parents..


twirl...I think that about tops it. Geez...how insensitive can a person be. 

Ever see that movie Two Weeks Notice? I swear in that movie she tells her boss  "Before you speak you should probably check with me first." She says that to him right after he said something really stupid. 

That was a cute movie.  I believe she said that to him after he congratulated the large woman on being pregnant!  I think Huge Grant is adorable.

[lcamanini]

That reminds me of something my brother said to me a few months ago. He said something about how we should just get rid of medicine and let nature go back to natural selection.

[monrein]

Please don't let him get to you.  That's a silly and hurtful thing to say.  Truth is that even though our bodies are flawed and seriously interfered with by kidney disease,  our characters can become very strong indeed and we can develop the ability to feel for other people and be more compassionate.  Its not the cards you're dealt that counts, it's how you play them.  Having said that Laura,  I'm so sorry that you're having to face all this and at such a young age too.  Come here and complain about whatever hurts or bugs you so at least you don't have to feel like you're carrying the burden alone.

 
  That's for your brother.  And so is this    because I suspect he's really quite worried and sad but doesn't know how to show it due to his own immaturity.

[paddbear0000]

Too bad your brother's kidneys don't fail. I'd love to hear what he says then!

[KT0930]

I forgot about this one....

This was more than a few years ago. I think my transplant was only 5 or 6 years old. I was married at the time and we had some people over to the house. A friend brought another friend over. Someone asked about my transplant and this friend of a friend said something to the effect that if your kidneys failed then it was God's will you should die.....it was some crazy mess like that. I don't even remember specifically what she said. Needless to say I never saw her again after that night. 

I would politely explain to her what *I* believe about God's desire for me to live, since he provided scientists/doctors with the ideas to invent dialysis and the ability to perform transplants, then I would have just as politely and calmly invited to get the H*LL out of my house and never darken my doorstep again. DAMN!

[kellyt]

I like KT's response.    Right on the money!

[Hope]

Oh, here is a favorite.....Can't believe a friend asked this.  I told him I haven't peed in 5 yrs.
  He asked....Do you still have a penis? ?   Duh....it shriveled up and fell off! ! !  What the heck do u think  ! !!  If he wasn't twice my size I would of smacked him.   

  Do you still have a penis? Was he serious??  This one definitely takes the cake!