Ignorant things people have said to you

[Brightsky69]

OK....I got one for you. I was in the ER last night. I smashed up my leg....whole nother long story.
Anyway....I was giving the guy who was registering me my insurance card and my medicare card. He asked me how did I qualify for Medicare. I told him it was because of kidney failure...he says..."Oh neat"   I don't know what is so "neat" about kidney failure.

[twirl]

cool    everyone on this site with kidney failure --   we are cool 

[dwcrawford]

from what you wrote I think he meant "neat" that you had medicare.  I think sometimes we are too sensitive and maybe should look for positive angles coming from people who don't understand what its all about. 

I found out in November right before Thanksgiving that dialysis is coming.  Immediately I called my brother and my two best friends.  I've not heard from any of the there since then.  I think they must be scared.  Or perhaps they think I'm going to ask for a kidney (nothing is further from the truth).  Yes, it hurts me that they don't call but at the same time I know there is a reason. 

But I do think that in general people do the best they can. 

[paddbear0000]

My husband told me today that I have no reason to be "bitchy" like I have been this past week. Excuse me? For a week now, I've been in extreme pain, can barely move, I've been throwing up almost every day and I can't stay awake, my kidneys have failed and I'm stuck at dialysis for what seems like half of my week. I have every right to be "bitchy" once in a while!!

[Brightsky69]

I had a sense of humor about his comment.  I told him no really...I am 65 years old.  (Only 39 actually)     (I hope to make it to 65!)

[kellyt]

My trouble is that I think of the smart ass comebacks well after the moment has passed.

Happens to me all the time.

Oh I can, I just don't always say them out loud.

[twirl]

I was at Walmart and I ran into a teacher I used to teach with -
she said, "oh, are you still doing that dialysis thingy'

[MandaMe1986]

Did you say "yeah that dialysis thingy is keeping me alive". Ugh, you know I love life but sometimes I hate people.

[G-Ma]

Oh Twirl...where was your stick??     

[jbeany]

"thingy" - 

[glitter]

I hate it when I am feeling grief-stricken, and someone will point out to me- that bad days are to be expected, and I should expect more of them.....well no SH*T! Like I dont know that!!

[MandaMe1986]

"bad days are to be expected?" No Shit Sher Lock!

[girliekick]

when on hemo my machine was alarming and my after I asked my nurse to please come turn it off (going for 10 min straight) she said ..... and I quote

"I'm not coming back over here unless your machine stops"
 
That was so ignorant that I refused to let her touch me agian and eventually left the clinic. But she is still there listening to the beeping. and awful or not I hope all her dreams are filled w beeps.

[TynyWonder]

and awful or not I hope all her dreams are filled w beeps.

     I loved that one!     I hope they are filled with *beeps* too!   ^5  (high 5)

[G-Ma]

I hope her dreams are nightmares with sirens.........

glitter..I so know what you are talking about...3 weeks after my ""Aunt" walked in, said lets go out today, it's time to get over it....I still don't talk to her and it's been mmm 20 years this December 27 that my first husband was murdered.

Today an acquaintance of mine got back in touch with me.  I havn't talked to her since 2005.  She said "I really hope you recover from this dialysis thing soon"..........yup, like 2 years ago would have been good.  I sent her an email explaining all the facts, straight up.   

[twirl]

G-ma

like going out is going to help you get over someone you loved with all your heart
geeze, did she ever lose someone she loved

[glitter]

G-ma

like going out is going to help you get over someone you loved with all your heart
geeze, did she ever lose someone she loved

You have to think she never had......

[G-Ma]

you got it.........

[Jess21]

My friend lives in a "everything is nice and happy" type of world.  I got a text message that said..and I quote: "hey I just wanted to let you know that I miss you and I hope that you get better.  You have been in my prayers."
Cause you know after 1.5 years of kidney failure my function will come back out of the blue. 
 

[paris]

My daughter in law sent me an email today saying she hopes I feel better.   Better than --what? Crap?   The email made me feel all warm and fuzzy!   

[TynyWonder]

My daughter in law sent me an email today saying she hopes I feel better.   Better than --what? Crap?   The email made me feel all warm and fuzzy!   

You make me laugh, Paris but I sooooo know what you are saying............people just don't get it, do they?     

[twirl]

each baggie had two lemons in it - whole, fresh off the tree lemons - I gave them to patients on my dialysis shift --- I picked the lemons because we were going to freeze Tueday and I did not want them to go to waste -
a nurse sees me and she says, " They better not eat them on my shift!" ( bitch )

[jbeany]

Sounds a bit like the nurse was the one sucking on a lemon. . . .

[paddbear0000]

I was just chatting with my sister-in-law on Facebook and she asked me how I was doing. To be honest, I am not a fan of this person (she is a spoiled brat and is proud of it and demands being the center of attention; the complete opposite from me!), so I told her like it is. I feel like crap, I'm exhausted, I can't sleep and dialysis is not going well. And I told her exactly why dialysis sucks. And do you know what she said to me??? She told me that if I just think of positive things while I'm there, everything will go well. She also said that it's not that bad! WTF??!! She hasn't even got a f***ing clue what it's like to have kidney failure!! Before we had started chatting, I was reading my page and her post about "the great" walks she is participating in this summer for depression and something else I can't remember at this point. So I posted a comment asking her what about walking for kidney failure or diabetes? And she deleted my comment! We started chatting because she decided to tell me she deleted it and why--apparently my comment was going to detract from the fact that she was walking!!!! I was stunned! I called her on it though. It shut her up pretty quick. I hate stupid people.   

[hurlock1]

just today I was telling my social worker and the director of the unit about this web site
the director said,"Why would anyone hate dialysis?"
Gee, I don't know........1. needles
                                 2. sore bottom
                                 3. blood
                                 4. vomit 
                                 5. cramps
                                 6. scales
                                 7. thirst
                                 8. diarrhea
                                 9. lab results
                                

That's a bunch of good reasons! I removed unit directors because she was standing there, and I like her alot!