Hubby had an accident

[kitkatz]

I hate my life!
I hate this crap!
I hate having the hubby in the rehab facility.
I really hate not having him with me!
I hate having to leave him every night.
I hate everything about this situation!
Hate it hate it hate it!!!

Did I say I hate it?

Katherine

[kitkatz]

I am in a better mood this morning.  Last night I felt like crap. I had had a run in with an assistant principal at school and ended up in tears over something stupid.  Felt pretty lame.  Today I have to go apologize and make it right. 
They put Victor into the rehab facility.  He will have physical therapy twice a day.  They fitted him for a wheel chair so he can be up and around most of the day.  He looked tired yesterday. but looked okay. It is going to be a lot of work for him to learn how to walk and do things for himself. 
I am off to work now.

Katherine

[Sluff]

Nothing like taking the road less traveled. Please try to take care of yourself. In times like these people have a tendency to forget themselves in the shuffle of helping others. I think thats why my mom's illness took her life when it did because she was so busy trying to help dad. After he died she started to pay more attention to herself but too late. Not trying to be morbid I'm trying to help as best I can through a keyboard.

Highest respect to you and your husband kitkatz.

[Epoman]

I hate my life!
I hate this crap!
I hate having the hubby in the rehab facility.
I really hate not having him with me!
I hate having to leave him every night.
I hate everything about this situation!
Hate it hate it hate it!!!

Did I say I hate it?

Katherine

Just think of all the places you and your husband will travel too, when you get a vulture (lawyer) and sue the pants off the city. Life will get better. Some don't believe it, but I believe everything happens for a reason. I am not down playing your husband losing a leg, not one bit. But I know when I broke both of my hips, that started changing everything in my life for the better.  well after 4 months of laying in a hospital bed and having my wife wipe my butt.  then things started to get better. The good things that have happened to me would never have happened, if not for me breaking my hips. I'm STILL in a wheelchairr almost 6 years later, but i would do it ALL over again (break my hips) 

- Epoman

[Bajanne]

Kikatz,
I just wanted you to know that I am standing with you in this.  It is hard sometimes to be able express sympathy when someone is going through as challenging a situation as you have been asked to face.  But I feel your inner strength and I know you will come through.
God is not against you - He is for you, and He will make it all clear to you, if you let Him.

[kitkatz]

By the way the city weighed the garbage truck packing blade that fell on the hubby.  It weighed in at 2300 pounds.  Oh Hell! 

I saw him today. He was up and about in the wheel chair.  He has had several visitors so far and even the ex-wife's family has said hello.  That is really weird, because he has not heard from some of them in over 26 years.  We have been married over twenty years and never heard word one from that family!  He has been really nice about it, too.  (I want to yell hypocrites at them, and other names, but I just shut my mouth.)
He looks good.  He says he feels pretty good.  The nueropsychologist was on the way to see him when we left today.
I took the day off.  I could not TAKE anymore! I paid bills.  Ran errands he needed run. Went to WalMart and bought him some clothing he needed.   All I seem to do is run from one place to another.
I get up, go to work, go see him, run errands, go to dialysis, then go see him, then fall into bed and sleep pretty soundly

Katherine

[kevno]

Katherine,
Still a  bit of a shock what as happened to you husband Katherine. The way the have posted, he seems to be getting through the ordeal, as well as can be expected. You and yours husband are going through so much just now. Here's me, just can not decide what to do. When your husband had no choice. Keep waving that big stick.

Yours

Kevno

[kitkatz]

I keep waving the big stick, only now I have people to wave it at.  The hospital crew he has seem to be really working towards getting him home.  A timeline has not been established for when he comes home.  The grapeviners say 10 days to 4 weeks.  He looks good and is keeping a good attitude.  I saw him this morning.  I bought him a card that says:

Things people say to cheer you up:
1. Look on the bright side
2. Things could be worse.
3. Hey, it's not so bad!
Things you can say back to them:
1. shut up
2. shut up
3. shut up
I may keep this one and not give it to him.  It expresses my feelings towards this!

I have 10 days of school left to work this year.  I only have to go through NINE more with the 6th graders.  I am moving them ALL up to seventh grade.  Good luck to them. 
Then I am going to play chauffeur to the husband when he come home.  Then it is back to work July 28 or 29th.  It will be a new group of sixth graders coming in to me. 
Thanks for the support, prayers and good wishes.  I am trying to stay not crazy!

[kitkatz]

The things we mark progress by are funny.Yesterday he got from the wheelchair to the bed on his own and back again.  He got hollered at by the nurse for doing it on his own, but he felt good about it. He says he had to figure out how to pee again in the wheelchair.  Oh the conversation was a fascinating one.  I won't go into details here.   So life continues here.

Katherine

[Sara]

LOL Kat, I can imagine.      

Good for him for taking control.  Still thinking of you guys.

[Sluff]

Katz you and your husband are in my thoughts. Hope things are getting better.
Sluff

[kitkatz]

Things are getting better.  We both have tons of questions for people but can't seem to get the people to sit and talk to us.  I am still working. School gets out in SIX days.  Hallelujah!  I am going to need this break like I never needed one before!  I had serious chest pain at 11 this morning.  I went home from school at 12:15 and was at dialysis by 1:15.  I sure had fluid on me and got it off.  I did not realize changing my cup changed the fluid intake so drastically the past few days.  Wow!  5 kilos in two days!  No wonder I hurt!  Anyway I feel better.
They are saying Victor will come home on Thursday. I am pushing for Saturday so I am out of school all the way.  I cannot miss Thursday. It is the last day of school!  That would be bad.

Katherine

[kevno]

Be carefull with your Fluid, you do not need to make yourself more ill than you already are. Nice to see all seems well will your husband. But remember take care of yourself too

Kevno

[Sara]

Is he home yet?

[kitkatz]

I work hard right now to remind myself to take care of me.  I think the chest pain my body's way of slowing me down and reminding me that stress can kill.  
Victor is doing better. He is much stronger and moves from the wheelchair to bed much more confidently. He uses the restroom without help.  He has friends who can help do construction for us as needed so he can come home.  We are going to have to remodel a bathroom.  The doors are only 22 inches across into the bathroom. No access for a wheelchair. What a pain in the butt it all is.
They want to send him home next week but have done nothing to help out at our house.  Is this going to happen overnight or what?  

Oh well.

Katherine

[Sara]

Nevermind, I see you were talking about next week.  Good for him he's becoming more able.  Maybe you can use this re-modeling as an excuse to redecorate the bathroom??     Just say, well while we were pulling everything apart, we might as well replace that tile.   

[kitkatz]

Oh you bet.  I am going for the gusto with these people!  Medical supplies are to be arriving today sometime soon.  Also the people who are to install grabrails are to be on their way tomorrow between ten and 2.  Victor should come home on Saturday!  Hurray!  Three weeks and two days after the accident.  Not a bad recovery time.  A week in hospital and two weeks in rehab.  He will still have therapy and will be seeing a lot of docs throughout the next months, but at least he will be home with me.
    Now all we gotta do is get used to the equipment, wheelchair, walker, crutches, bathchair, and etc.... And of course the public when we go out.  This should prove to be a very interesting time for both of us.  You know I will update you all. I hang out here a lot!

Katherine

[Epoman]

Oh you bet.  I am going for the gusto with these people!  Medical supplies are to be arriving today sometime soon.  Also the people who are to install grabrails are to be on their way tomorrow between ten and 2.  Victor should come home on Saturday!  Hurray!  Three weeks and two days after the accident.  Not a bad recovery time.  A week in hospital and two weeks in rehab.  He will still have therapy and will be seeing a lot of docs throughout the next months, but at least he will be home with me.
    Now all we gotta do is get used to the equipment, wheelchair, walker, crutches, bathchair, and etc.... And of course the public when we go out.  This should prove to be a very interesting time for both of us.  You know I will update you all. I hang out here a lot!

Katherine

Oh and the people WILL stare, that's guaranteed. 

- Epoman

[kitkatz]

I brought him home today.  Hurray!  I am so happy. He made it into the house. He has even been on the computer already.  We are slowly getting the house together and finding our way around. 

Katherine

[Sara]

YEA KAT AND HUBBY!!!

[Ginger]

Kat,
So glad to hear you have your husband back home! Things are always better when you are together. How long before he is fitted with a prothesis? 3-6 months? Anyway glad he's home.
Ginger

[kevno]

Katherine,

Happy to here your Husband is back home. He seems to have done really well after the accident. I hope I do as well with my operation. Your Post about your husband have been a real help to me in making my mind up to have the operation. He as done so well, plus he is now home, which must be great. Seeing Surgeon next week. Have no choice but to say "yes" to the operation. I have let it drag on for too long, three months.

Thinking of you both,

Kevno

[Bajanne]

I am so happy that your husband is back home.  My prayers are with you both.  And Kevno, you know that our thoughts are with you as you have made this serious decision. As the French say, BON COURAGE et BON SUCCES!!!

[kitkatz]

Thank you for the well wishes.
This group has been a strength for me these past three weeks. I know that when I am down someone is always here.

Katherine

[Black]

I brought him home today.  Hurray!  I am so happy. He made it into the house. He has even been on the computer already.  We are slowly getting thehouse together and finding our way around. 

Katherine

Hooray!  Glad to get good news.

My brother-in-law had his lower leg amputated a few years ago (Buerger's disease) and has adapted quite well.  His final prosthesis was a huge improvement over the temporary one, so tell your hubby not to get discouraged when the time comes for the first prosthesis -- it does get much better!

Lorelle