7 Things NOT to Do When You are Depressed

[okarol]

7 Things NOT to Do When You are Depressed

Article written by Christine Miserandino

We all have been there. It is 2am, you can't sleep, you have a lot on your mind... and let's face facts- you are depressed. After doing all of the wrong things to combat depression, I thought I would pass on some of my knowledge to you. Hopefully you can find better things to do with your time at 2am then I did. Why only 7 things? I fell asleep, and I was too depressed to think of 10.

1. Whatever you do, stay away from Google.

Normally I am a HUGE Google lover, but at 2am when things are looking bleak, Google has a funny way of turning on you. I call this "Depression Googling". It seems like a smart idea in the moment to start searching for all the
wacky symptoms of your illness, or the side effects of your medications, but to read all this technical data when you are on little sleep, just leads to trouble. It is overwhelming and depressing and no matter how much medical
information and experience you have, you are not a doctor.

Google also tends to get addicting. One search leads to another and 3 hours later you still don't have answers, just a load of websites that tend to confuse and depress you even more.

2. Now is NOT the time to Stroll Down Memory Lane.

It is fun to look at pictures or talk to old friends etc, but not when you are down in the dumps. When you are sad, comparing yourself to your fat/ skinny/ pretty/ prom/ sick/ healthy pictures is not productive. You are not that person and you will never be that person again, You can't, it is in the past. We have a funny way of picking ourselves apart when we want to. We can be our own worst enemies. We notice every flaw, every unfulfilled desire and we focus on it. When looking at old pictures or talking to old friends, we reminisce about the way things were, or how things could have been and rarely do we focus on the now and how great some things currently are.

3. Do not watch Lifetime Movies.

It might seem like a good idea to watch movies to distract yourself when you are sad or can't sleep, but there are some movies that should come with warning labels. If you think the movie might be a tear jerker, don't watch
it. Have self control. The news isn't even safe anymore. Turn your TV channel to a comedy station or the Disney cartoon network- anything that will make you laugh, but not make you think.

4. Now is NOT the time for Major House Re-Organization

I know you are awake, and you think that you might as well make good productive use of your time, but you will just end up tired, achy and with a 1/2 accomplished project. You do not need more reasons to be depressed. Looking at the cabinets in your kitchen and deciding to re-organize your Tupperware is not the way to cheer up. You will only be mad at how the cabinets got so messy in the first place, or you will start the project and be too tired to finish. Waking up to a messy kitchen, with random lids of Tupperware all over the place, will only make you feel worse. Trust me, I am writing this article with a 1/2 erected Christmas Tree in front of me and it is sad.

5. Eating the whole bowl of Fudge Brownie Mix, although yummy will just give you a tummy ache.

Eating a whole bowl of anything is probably not a good idea. You will either get an upset stomach, or get a sugar rush that will just keep you awake even longer. An easy rule of thumb is do not bake, cook, or binge. You do not
want to wake up in the morning and feel more upset about what you ate, than about whatever it was that was upsetting you. If you want to bake, eat one piece of whatever it is and put the rest away.

6. Do not Drink away your troubles

You had problems before 1 glass of wine or a beer and you will have problems after them. Drinking will just make your issues seem bigger, fuzzier and just plain messy. Drinking makes everything seem sad. Drinking by yourself
at 2am is just pathetic. Have a drink to toast and celebrate good occasions, not to drown your sorrows.

7. Do not change your blog or myspace page to reflect your mood.

Do not take the time to change your background to black or your song list to Alanis Morissette just yet. Wait a few days and make sure that dark mood is really what you want to express. Probably after a few days and a good
night's sleep you will not be feeling so Goth. Before you spread your dark mood to the world, wait a few days. You will be happy you don't have to just figure out how to undo everything you did, and your friends will be happy to
not have to find an appropriate "comment" on the new depressing theme of your blog.

Article written by Christine Miserandino, © 2006 butyoudontlooksick.com
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[keefer51]

If you don't mind Karol i would like to add a few things. If you are in your late forties or fifties DON'T listen to any of the following; Fountain of sorrow by Jackson Browne. Nothing By Leonard Cohen, Your leaving now. by Asia, Joni Mitchell, or Janis Ian wouldn't be good either. When mid-night train to Georgia comes on the radio quick change it!

[jamescfs]

I went through some serious depression about a year ago. There wasn't much that could really snap me out of it, but what barely kept me going was music, particularly music that I loved when I was growing up in the 80's (my iPod and iTunes were getting maximum use back then). That and re-watching some of my all-time favorite movies. Things that were distracting, and would bring me back to better times.

[goofynina]

Lately i have been noticing that i will burst out crying at the most oddest moments and for the silliest things,  just watching my cat lie on my lap and purr made me cry a little while ago,  i was watching T.V. and on a commercial the kid kicked a field goal or something and was so happy, i got so happy for him i started crying, i wonder if that is a sign of depression or am i just 

[Bette]

If you are overweight, as I am, do not go shopping for cloths when you are depressed.  You will end up feeling fat.  I learned this the hard way.  It is a good lift to go shopping for the kids in your life.  Nothing is happier than the toy section!

[keefer51]

We are having some rather Grey weather. This time of the year will bring some of it. When it is like that it is very depressing. I wish i could hibernate in a cave till the spring.

[okarol]

Songs on the radio that talk about losing someone, or love that has gone... WAAAAA makes me cry.
Is it every song? Seems like it.

[keefer51]

Yes Karol you are right. The worst anyone can do in that situation is listen to country. When i moved to Nashville and my wife left me i had just started my job at the newspaper. I was running a printing press that can be rather loud. That didn't stop the country girls that worked i there too. They had rigged three radios with allot of speakers to listen to. So i was standing there feeling very sad and Vince Gill came on singing "I've been trying to get over you" I had to fight the tears. Next day i came in with my CD player and head phones slapped some ac/dc on and turned the volume up. No more tears!!

[ODAT]

Lately i have been noticing that i will burst out crying at the most oddest moments and for the silliest things,  just watching my cat lie on my lap and purr made me cry a little while ago,  i was watching T.V. and on a commercial the kid kicked a field goal or something and was so happy, i got so happy for him i started crying, i wonder if that is a sign of depression or am i just 

I do the same thing, I guess we have a lot of empathy. What I have to stop dwelling on is when the day comes my oldest son moves out (hopefully not far away...). I will miss him SOOO much! I still have (I hope) at least three or four years with him home. Explaining to my sons that I am crying happy tears just makes them roll their eyes!

Songs can take you where ever you want to go. My nephew (18) lost his brother 5 years ago. He said the song "Don't Stop Dancing" by Creed helped him get through it. It is a beautiful song.

[Ken Shelmerdine]

Don't listen to Lenard Cohen Songs.