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« on: August 21, 2013, 08:49:22 PM »
I still am unable to write much about my husband Bo's passing.  It hurts to much.  I miss him terrably.  He passed on august 6 peacefully in my arms with our son holding his hand.  We thought we were just going to hospital to 'straighten' him out, but he was so tired and within  an hour was asleep in our arms.  I loved that man with all my heart and trust God now to hold him and take care of this wonderful man i was so blessed to have as my husband.  God is good and gives us peace knowing of Gods good ways, but it doesnt take the sadness and empty home away.  God bless you all. Your the best friends i could have had through all of this.  I will be peaking in, and i suppose writing once i dont cry every time i open the page.  Peace to all, and love and hold your loved ones while you are able.  with love, boswife/jill 
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im a california wife and cargiver to my hubby
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« Reply #1 on: August 21, 2013, 08:52:28 PM »
Oh boswife, I am so very sorry for your husband's passing. Please accept my deepest condolences. My prayers are with you and your family  :grouphug;
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« Reply #2 on: August 21, 2013, 08:55:22 PM »
May Bo rest in peace. I am so sorry for your loss, words escape me.
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« Reply #3 on: August 21, 2013, 09:05:52 PM »
I am so sorry for your loss BW. At least he was peaceful with the people that mattered most to him close at hand. That is a blessing.

I know it hurts. Not news anyone wants to hear or experience. My best wishes to you at this time.

 :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle;
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27/11/2010: Cadaveric kidney transplant from my wonderful donor!!! "Danny" currently settling in and working better every day!!! :)

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« Reply #4 on: August 21, 2013, 10:23:56 PM »
boswife, I am so sorry!
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« Reply #5 on: August 21, 2013, 10:30:37 PM »
Peace.  Memories.  Smile, he would want you to smile.  The joy was the gift he gave to you, remember the joy.

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« Reply #6 on: August 22, 2013, 01:20:06 AM »
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« Reply #7 on: August 22, 2013, 01:28:35 AM »
Oh, boswife, I am so sorry to hear this. You must be in a world of pain right now. At least he is in peace now and no more pain. Don't be a stranger here, we will be here for you and you are not alone.  Hugs, hugs, hugs.
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« Reply #8 on: August 22, 2013, 02:12:01 AM »
May the Lord bless you and keep you. May his face shine apond you and give you peace.
We can do all things though Chist who strengthens us.
Take care Boswife!
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« Reply #9 on: August 22, 2013, 02:29:04 AM »
I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. I'm praying for you and your family.  :'(
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« Reply #10 on: August 22, 2013, 05:43:39 AM »
My condolences and prayers to you and your family BW. Hopefully you will find the comfort of the group here than can identify with your loss.

Take care.
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« Reply #11 on: August 22, 2013, 06:34:17 AM »
I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you are in my prayers.
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« Reply #12 on: August 22, 2013, 07:10:31 AM »
I am so very sorry for your loss.  It is good that you were able to be with him in the final moments. I lost my husband last year, and it has helped me accept what was going on.  I could see the peace on his face as he took his last breath.   You have a long road ahead.  Take time and take care of yourself.  I still can't do anything with his things. I like to have him around me.   And I still cry everyday.   My prayers are with you now.  I pray God will hold you in the palm of His hands as you honor your husbands life.   No one should have to feel this type of pain.    :cuddle;    :pray;
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« Reply #13 on: August 22, 2013, 08:21:10 AM »
boswife, I am so very sorry about your loss,   Bo has struggled for such a long time,  you have been there for him all the way. I wish you peace my friend. Sending all my prayers and love your way.
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« Reply #14 on: August 22, 2013, 08:49:53 AM »
So sorry for your loss.  Please accept my condolences as I put you and your family in pray.
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« Reply #15 on: August 22, 2013, 09:46:25 AM »
I'm so sorry, boswife. You were such a loving wife and devoted caregiver. I hope that someday you'll be reunited with your beloved Bo.
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« Reply #16 on: August 22, 2013, 01:41:33 PM »
I'm so sorry. I wish that our good wishes could ease your pain. :grouphug;

Bo will live in your memories and be close to you. Take care of yourself during this time and turn to us for help when you need it.

 :cuddle;

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« Reply #17 on: August 22, 2013, 02:01:51 PM »
How lucky he was to have you Jill and your appreciation of him is as nice a tribute as there can be.  I wish you peace and comfort in your memories of Bo.
 :grouphug;
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« Reply #18 on: August 22, 2013, 05:08:37 PM »
My condolences to you Jill   :grouphug;  He will live on in your memories.
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« Reply #19 on: August 22, 2013, 05:45:11 PM »
I'm so sorry, boswife.  :grouphug; You were both very lucky to love one another. <3 Know that, as always, we are all here for you.
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« Reply #20 on: August 22, 2013, 05:45:51 PM »
I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sure you took good care of him.
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« Reply #21 on: August 22, 2013, 06:17:08 PM »
I am so sorry for your loss, boswife.  I know words can't take away the pain, but please know you took wonderful care of him!  Sending you and your family prayers to get through this difficult time.  Wish there was more I could do or say...    :grouphug;
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« Reply #22 on: August 22, 2013, 06:28:32 PM »
Oh Jill I couldnt believe it when I read this. I am so sorry. You were such a caregiver to him. Please know that I will pray for you and Bo tonite. May God bless and keep you.
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« Reply #23 on: August 22, 2013, 08:36:52 PM »
I've been sitting here for five minutes awaiting the appropriate words, but I can't seem to find them.

I was in the car today thinking that I hadn't seen you post in a while, and I was wondering if everything was OK.  And now I come onto IHD and read this, and I'm just so sad for you.  I wish I had a magic wand that would sweep away your sadness, but I don't, so I am instead sending you prayers.  I hope that as God is holding onto Bo, he is also extending his arms out to you, too.

You know I love you and have long admired your courage, your devotion and your overall brilliance.  While I know it may be painful right now to post on IHD, I hope that soon you will find some comfort in coming here and reading our words. 

I wish I could be with you right now and not stuck behind some stupid computer screen.

I hope you find some comfort in knowing that Bo is no longer suffering.  I am so sorry, though, that you have lost the love of your life.  I am praying for you.
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« Reply #24 on: August 23, 2013, 07:46:37 AM »
Sorry to hear of your loss. Hoping and wishing the best for you.
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