Divorce

[pagandialysis]

Yeah....the wife is divorcing me....

*sad*






Edited: Moved to off topic area- kitkatz,Moderator

[Rerun]

I'm sorry.  Why do you think this is happening?

     

[MaryD]

I'm sorry, too, Pagandyalysis.       

I hope it goes smoothly for you.






 

[Joe]

Sorry to hear that Pagandialysis. I've been there, and while it sucks now, you'll get through it.

[pagandialysis]

She said a million reasons and unfortunately my illness was one of them. That's what hurt me the most.

[drgirlfriend]

I'm sorry, Pagan. Be kind to yourself.

[willowtreewren]

That was a low blow. I'm so sorry.

[geoffcamp]

I'm truly sorry. I hate seeing these posts. It's so hard to find someone strong enough to be their own person and be with a person like us with our unique issues. Usually in my case I've found that I need a woman who has her own established life and career at minimum to even consider dating or marring someone. Emotionally it's pure hell and financially it seems it takes two incomes to have a chance a decent life. I'm assuming by your post there is no chance for cousiling or reconciliation. I've been there where you are just never been married. I wish you the best and you know you have the support of all your IHD family!  I hope better days are waiting as soon as you get thru the tough time. G.

[jbeany]

My ex used the same reason.  When I reminded him that he knew I was sick when he married me, he responded with, "I didn't think it would be this bad for this long."

Peachy.  I'll try to die faster next time.

Seriously, though - he's just as miserable with his mistress/new wife as he claimed to be with me.  (Ah, the fun of knowing everyone in a small town - you hear everything!)  I'm so much better off without him, I should have sent her a thank you note.

You and your illness are NOT why she's leaving.    It's the one thing neither one of you can change, no matter how much you want to.  After all, you can't stop being sick, so there's nothing to deal with in a counseling session.  It's just an oh-so-convenient excuse to use to not try to work things out.

She's breaking a vow - and that's on her head.

 

[MaryJoe]

I'm sorry you're hurting.  I have to agree with jbeany, your illness is probably not the reason she's leaving, it's just the most obvious frustration. (for both of you)  I hope you have friends and family close by for support, and of course, you always have us.   

 

[Poppylicious]

So sorry pagan. 

*huggles*

[okarol]

So sorry. One door closes and another door opens. Hopefully the next chapter is good. HUGS! 

[Rerun]

My ex used the same reason.  When I reminded him that he knew I was sick when he married me, he responded with, "I didn't think it would be this bad for this long."

Peachy.  I'll try to die faster next time.

Seriously, though - he's just as miserable with his mistress/new wife as he claimed to be with me.  (Ah, the fun of knowing everyone in a small town - you hear everything!)  I'm so much better off without him, I should have sent her a thank you note.

 

           

[chiromac]

There is nothing good I can say about Divorce, it really sucks.  I was luck I went through mine about 6 months before I started dialysis, the only positive thing is with that stress removed from your life it makes dialysis a bit easier.  Good luck and I hope things get better.

[BobN]

Hang in there bro.

[kit78]

So sorry Pagan...  please try to keep your spirits up.  Things will get better.

[lmunchkin]

Im sooooo sorry to hear this.  Im like Karol, when one door closes another one opens.  Be good to yourself Pagan. You deserve better!

God Bless,
lmunchkin

[Jean]

So sorry to hear this and I know you are hurting. It does get better in time. Really, I agree with the others. She is just too self centered to deal with your illness and you did not ask for ESRD, so try to work around it and continue with your own life.

[pagandialysis]

Well, I ended up in Buffalo NY living with my sister and her family. I will start looking for my own place on Tuesday and I have to apply for the state Medicaid, food stamps, and go tell SSI....this is going to be soooo fun.

[cariad]

Well, I ended up in Buffalo NY living with my sister and her family. I will start looking for my own place on Tuesday and I have to apply for the state Medicaid, food stamps, and go tell SSI....this is going to be soooo fun.

Sorry to hear what you're going through, pagan. I hope this is the start of a wonderful, new life. Best of luck!

[AnnieB]

I'm so sorry to hear this, pagan. You *will* get through this, no matter how crummy you may feel right now. I will be sending you lots of healing thoughts. 

[rhaggz]

I feel ya man... My wife walked in a month ago and told me she wasn't happy. She never said it was because of my illness, However I had seen her withdraw more and more as other medical issues popped up. She is having a midlife crisis I think... She works with a bunch of kids that party and have a good time most ever weekend. She goes to have fun with them and I never said anything, in fact in 22 years together we only had one fight and that was before we got married. But she just decided to leave... No discussion, no arguing, no nothing. she just left...

[pagandialysis]

I signed the papers today....

[Jean]

As my Mother used to tell me" Time wounds all heels". You will get thru this, keep your chin up.

[MaryJoe]

I'm sorry pagan. I hope you have supportive family and friends close by to help you get through this. I know cyberhugs aren't quite as comforting as the real thing, but    it's the best I can do all things considered.