Husband 45 with no dialysis for 6 days-says he's quitting

[okarol]

Thanks for the update. 

[cdwbrooklyn]

God do answers prayers!  Glad things are going okay with you.  You and your family are still in my prayers.

[MooseMom]

I'm so glad that hospice is working so well for your family.

[WishIKnew]

So glad you and John and your daughter are getting the support you are getting.  I've never been directly involved with Hospice, but I have heard wonderful things about the emotional and practical support they provide.  I think of you often and pray for you to have what ever you need when ever you need it. 

Wish I knew the perfect thing to say...   

[billybags]

Sending you lots of hugs.

[fuzzyL]

we are doing it at home with next stage--it nowhere has the bad affects your husband gets-and our nurse is very careful about not pulling too much water from me--our nurse has horror stories about clinics--consider the home method

[Lillupie]

we are doing it at home with next stage--it nowhere has the bad affects your husband gets-and our nurse is very careful about not pulling too much water from me--our nurse has horror stories about clinics--consider the home method

I agree. I like the idea of NxStage. But her husband is not going through with dialysis.

Lisa

[willowtreewren]

Thinking of you....

 

Aleta

[johnswife]

Hi guys. Still here. He's starting to hallucinate though and talk alot while sleeping. He's sleeping alot. Hasn't eaten anything since yesterday. He's not in any pain and resting comfortably. Of course as strong willed and stubborn as he is; he will probably be back up and walking in a day or 2. God bless you all and hope you are all doing ok;)

[willowtreewren]

I know he is stubborn, but the sleeping and not eating sounds like he is getting much closer to stepping out of this life. I'm thinking of you. It has been simply amazing that he has held on this long. I'm so glad that he is comfortable.

How are YOU doing?

 

Aleta

[Joe]

Have you both in our thoughts and prayers. 

[Whamo]

God bless you, and keep him comfortable.   

[cassandra]

       


lots of love, and strength Cas

[Jean]

You are on everyone's mind Johnswife, and I like so many others hit this post first thing. I hope he makes it thru Christmas anyways. God will decide that for him. You are all in my prayers.

[MaryJoe]

I'm glad to hear that John is not in pain.  I hope you are able to get more rest now that hospice has made him more comfortable.  You and the girls (as well as John) are in my thoughts often.   

[AnnieB]

Thinking of you and John 

[cdwbrooklyn]

I'm glad John is not in any pain.  You and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers.  Please remember to take care of yourself as well as you are taking care of your family.   God Bless!!!

[babycake]

you can actually if you feel your ready
there was a couple that was at my center he was on diaylsis and his wife would always be there
 and all of sudden they wernt there anymore
so i had ask and i didnt realize he was 8oyrs old'
he didnt look that old and his wife was in her 60s.. she didnt look her age either
but they decided that it was time and he wasent going to come to the center anymore
he had enough.
dont know if he past or not
but im sure he has
for they usually give a patient 6months if they refuse treatment

[The Lady]

Updates?

Still thinking of you guys!

[johnswife]

Hi-This is the hardest thing ive even wrote but my husband died at 5:30 on December 5th. He died in his sleep and you know we are suppose to be ready after all this time but Im not. Id give aqnything for one more hug or just another hour to tell him what he means to me. I just let him go--I should have made him fight harder or go back or someting. aNow i cant. I was awake and I heard the odd breathing and I just laid there hugging him and didnt shake him or wke him back up. WHY??? He might of woke back up if only for a day but I just let him go. Why didnt I do cpr--I mean I was just numb. I cant handle it. We had both granddaughters born within 24 hours before he passed. One only 2 lbs. Our 3 young girls are devastasted and kelly my 11 yr old is walking around with her daddys hat on. This is just bull crap. He was so strong for so long. He was out Hoss and I guess we thought no matter what those doctors say he will pull though. Its 5:50 am on the 6th so hes been gone for just over 24 hours and people please hug htem and love them now---I told him I loved him but you iknow every day I would get aggravated--more scratching his back, more rubbing his legs, shoulder hurting from all the lifting and tugging but what I wouldnt give to rub his back right now. I have t be at the funeral home early in the morning and I just dont know If I can take it. The night before he died he set up on the bed and out 2 youngest girls sung to him and he had them play alabama roll on eighteen wheeler, and a bunch of others. they hugged and kissed him and he cried. It meant the world to him but why didnt I fight harder with him!!!!! I maybe could have woke him back up and i just let him lay there---the pain is unbearable and  all the what iffs I cant deal with. I gotta go but thank you all for the kind words; he never knew about this site or all of you.  My biggest hope and what I pray is that he went to heaven and is ok. AHe isnt in anymore pain. and you know he died with those dam tubes still in him!!!! He was scheduled to get them out at one the day he died. I know he prayed with a preacher the night he passed but I just dont know and its breaking my heart. If I knew I think Id be ok---but what if he needed anothe day to get saved ad I could have gave him that and let him go. It may be a few days before i can get back on here but tell them now what they mean to you and love them please.

[MaryD]

Johnswife   

Don't blame yourself for John's going.  It must have taken great strength to let him go.  And great strength for him to have made the decision to go.  Take care of yourself and your family.  I wish for peace and continuing strength for you

[Sue]

God bless you Johnswife and your family as you mourn the loss of John. John is resting in heaven, no more tears, no more pain (((((hugs))))

[Joe]

Bless you johnswife, and prayers for all that is needed.  It sounds like he was ready to pass over, and delaying that would not have been what he wanted. As rough as it is, it was time. We will be here when you are ready.

[Bajanne]

You have nothing to regret.  We have been with you through this journey and we are amazed at your selflessness and your care for and of John.  He is much happier now.  I am glad that he prayed with the pastor.  Our God is so merciful.  I am also glad that he had such a time with the family.  I know you can't help but miss him, but please look after yourself now.  That is what I know he would want.  My caring thoughts are with you all the way 

[MooseMom]

I am so sorry for your loss, but I am thankful that your husband's suffering has come to an end.  As you chronicled his daily struggles, I grew more and more horrified; we all know how the body and the spirit suffers as the kidneys shut down, and I hated seeing your husband suffer in that way.

If you had shaken him awake, yes, he MAY have survived one more day, but that means one more day of suffering.  Surely you didn't want that.  You let him go because you love him and wanted to show him mercy.  That's real love, selfless and enduring.

You are in our prayers.