For those who feel personally criticized...

[paris]

You are right about posting ------ some are too very sick to post, some are trying to still work 40 hour weeks while dialysizing, some don't have the energy to get out of bed that morning.   Those are the very people who need encouragement and a good place to go for support.      We have valid worries over members not posting for awhile.   Some have died and their relatives didn't know how to let us know.   Others are so depressed, they just can't read about another happy thing happening.    There is a system in place to give your information to say "contact  me after not being online for ___ weeks."     

I hope all that join can find some great connections here.  My husband was totally amazed when I got my transplant that he heard from IHD members all over the world and had more emails, cards, gifts from them than any other group.   We do become real friends.  And it is surprising how real personalities come through and when you do meet in person, it is like seeing an old friend.     So, let's all hold hands and sing kumbaya ----            

[RealityCheck]

Dear Pat and Noah:

a crisis in my family, a really tragic relapse of an addict, inspired me to attend two Alanon meetings today on a day I had off work.

It was my first time at Alanon.

I loved the meetings.  I've always been a supporter of 12 steps and have attended AA with friends to support them.  But today the messages about realizing the importance of focusing on what we can change, versus what we can't, struck me in a  very deep place.  I look forward to more meetings.  This is an awareness I am determined to integrate into my life.

I am grateful to the two of you for having the amazing strength to lift your eyes over personal problems and take action to address issues that are beyond the personal.  I think it is very hard to do this without enormous frustration.  What I am hoping more meetings can do for me is help me to channel the frustration, not give up on the kind of awareness you further with your comments here.

Thank you for what you have written.

Sincerely,
RC

[Bajanne]

Having not been very active recently, I was a bit hurt to see how this was going.  I had been breathing a sigh of relief recently that we have not been having so many confrontational threads.  As one of those who was here from the beginning, you need to know that Okarol and Sluff are fairly easygoing.  Epoman was always quick and ready to ban anyone who threatened the vision he had for this website.
About the name"I Hate Dialysis" , Epoman said that this name was particularly chosen for the shock value.  And it works!  Doesn't mean that everything has to be negative.
I am very thankful for this website.  I came upon it just when I really needed it and it has been a source of information, support and encouragement.
Please let's continue to keep Epoman's tremendous vision alive.
I love my IHD family!

[Sugarlump]

I have no need to make amends or apologies for expressing my opinions.  Your comment on the other hand is "piling on" with nothing constructive in the least added to the conversation.  But if it makes you feel better, go for it. 

As far as leaving here?.  Over a cyberspace spat??  Don't think so.  I don't give over my power that easily!  Not all on here have the time to post everyday.

Suprisingly ( ) there is no responce by the two who complained so much. No surprise, we have seen it before, complain, make bad, comments, no appologies, and pretty much say leave the sight.

NV think you need to read that book I'm reading at the moment
Chris ll wise you up on the title!
POWER??? What Power...
You understand nothing about Power....