Thanks for the advice. I don't feel sick, so it's hard to remember some times that I am sick. I am more worried about my sister then myself. My doctor and transplant team are both saying it's the perfect situation. I just needed to hear it from someone else. I need to trust my doctor and team. Thanks again!!
Thank you so much for that post, cariad. Of course, worrying about your donor is, I would hope, a normal and desired response, and you are right, donation is an individual experience that could either go swimmingly, catastrophically or somewhere in between. I apologize if I seemed to minimize the incredible gift and sacrifice shown by a donor. However, I am not sure I understand how donation is almost always harder on donors than recipients. Could you explain more about this?As for my experience with pregancy and my hospital stay, since pregnancy/delivery is such an every day occurrence, we lose sight of the very real risks involved. When pregnancy goes wrong, it goes horribly wrong. I sat in that hospital long enough to learn that pregnancy, while a "normal" process, is a dangerous thing when it does not go normally. The stories I could tell you about all the women I encountered and the problems they presented...it would be a good birth control method. The fact that you perhaps chose to become pregnant or somehow expected to benefit from carrying a child becomes rather irrelevant when the process nearly costs you your life. Your expectations don't somehow make the suffering easier to bear or more "acceptable" in some way.Would you have decided that your worry over Gwyn would probably have made you decide to wait until you had to go on dialysis? What would you have done in the poster's position?
My own son is worried that I may die soon, and it breaks my heart to know that he just might be right. I wish someone would step up for me and my son. I know the time is coming when I won't be able to be there for him in the way that I would like.