A morbid subject

[Kitty Cat]

My hunny and I are going to be cremated. Who ever goes first will hold the ashes until they pass. Our daughter and son in law know that we want to be dropped into the ocean. That's always been our place. But, for both of us, whatever can be donated, goes first before the barbecue 

[Sluff]

I thought about cremation because it is cheaper than burial, but we already have a hole in the ground for me and Christy that my Mother-in-law gave us.

[angela515]

My mom will come back and haunt me if I have her cremated, she will be buried by her parents and siblings. She also will be buried in her Jeff Gordon t-shirt and blue jeans.. anything else, and she will come back and haunt your ass. 

[okarol]

I thought about cremation because it is cheaper than burial, but we already have a hole in the ground for me and Christy that my Mother-in-law gave us.

You can resell burial plots, if you don't want to use them.
My husband's grandmother passed away at 92, she wanted her ashes interred on top of her own mother's burial plot in NJ, so I flew there, they dug a little hole in the middle of the plot and we said a few prayers. It was a nice solution as she really didn't want a burial but wanted to be by her mom.

[Jannie]

When I was a kid I was taken to several wakes . I got creeped out looking at the corpses. I don't want anyone looking at me after I'm dead. I told my family I want a one day wake, closed coffin and cremation.  I found an organization that does cremation and then spreads your ashes in the ocean. Sounds like fun. I do like the beach.

[paddbear0000]

When I was a kid I was taken to several wakes . I got creeped out looking at the corpses. I don't want anyone looking at me after I'm dead. I told my family I want a one day wake, closed coffin and cremation.  I found an organization that does cremation and then spreads your ashes in the ocean. Sounds like fun. I do like the beach.

Part of my reason for cremation, besides cost, is due to seeing the way my father looked at his open-casket funeral. It was devastating. He looked nothing like himself. And it's not like he was disfigured from an accident either. He died from Lou Gehrig's Disease (ALS). I still picture it 7 years later and it sickens me.

[JBLadyB]

When we buried our second son at 32, he wore a baseball cap, Harley Davidson sweatshirt, and it was a family service at the funeral home.  Except for the service the background music was Guns and Roses, Pink Floyd etc.  His casket left the funeral home while Motely Crue's song " Home Sweet Home" in the background.  I am propbably the only person that gets teary over that song.  he was on dialysis 23 days.   Diabetic since age 2.  Now it is my turn for dialysis for a different reason.  Oh, he had long hair, his plan was to die as a grey long haired man.  Half of his plan came true.  His elementry school pricipal who had become a minister did the service.  It was him.Mel

[Patton]

I thought about cremation because it is cheaper than burial, but we already have a hole in the ground for me and Christy that my Mother-in-law gave us.

You can resell burial plots, if you don't want to use them.

Maybe they should just charge rent....

[Falkenbach]

It is almost Halloween after all.     Do you want to be buried or cremated (or something else) after you die?

cremated.

[mcjane]

First I'm going to donate any usable organs & then what's left of me to science.

Will do the same with my husband's body if he goes first.

And it's free.

[Falkenbach]

First I'm going to donate any usable organs

Same! Naturally.

Didn't think about science - that would be the other option I would consider, if not cremation. No burial for me, is all.

[okarol]

It's not Halloween but here's a bump anyway 

[monrein]

I'd like anything that can be donated, donated and if a medical school wants me for research, I'm theirs.  If not, cremation and burial of ashes in husband's family plot.  Whatever kind of service my family wants to do or feel they need is great with me and if nothing that's fine too. 

[Romona]

I have a wonderful supervisor. He is going through some scary health problems. He is facing heart surgery for an aneurysm and has a spot on his lung. He is looking into burial plans,it is so expensive. I just want to cry. He was so supportive from the time he started working with me. He won't let me lose faith when I was down. He is a retired Air Force dentist that eats healthy, doesn't smoke and has an occasional drink once in a blue moon.

[pelagia]

I want to get back into the cycle of life asap. I rest assured that my spirit will know where to go when the time comes.  As for my ashes, I am planning to have them spread over the Chesapeake Bay, preferably during a spring plankton bloom. 

[G-Ma]

Cremation...scattered in the mountains..don't need a service but if the family does, just a small one and no viewing.  I am comfortable with the circle of life that I know will happen, I'm just trying to get my kids comfortable with it.  Their father was murdered and the following two years my parents died, then their stepfather died so they want to wrap me in bubblewrap but life doesn't work that way.

[flip]

I don't think about it...I'm far from ready to

[KT0930]

Organ/tissue donation first and foremost. However, I saw part of some movie when I was a kid, and someone was being burned alive. Ever since then I've had an almost overwhelming fear of cremation. Burial for me, thanks!

After attending my husband's grandfather's funeral last week, we both agree there will NOT be a ten minute altar call at either of our funerals!

[pelagia]

I did forget to mention that I am planning to give away as many parts as anyone wants before I go to sea!

[PD Wife]

Cremation for both me and my husband.  (My father was cremated and my mother was told that they don't use fire, they use intense heat to disintegrate the body...if that's any consulation?)  We both want lots of our favorite music, food, drinks, laughter at an informal family only "service".   

[meadowlandsnj]

I want a closed casket.  I can't stand the thought of people looking at after I'm dead with the remarks and comments like at my uncles funeral....all the inane remarks and stupid observations like "he looks so thin, he lost all his weight" It's called the CANCER diet, you nitwit.  I didn't go up to his coffin when he died--I wanted to remember him as I knew him--6'4, 300 lbs, a big bear of a man.  I was critized for not going up there but tough, it was my decision and he knows how much I loved him.

Anyway, Instead of flowers I want everyone to plant a tree or a bush or a flower in my memory.  I have a list of songs I want played already, Elton John, Beatles, U2, Pink Floyd, Stones, things like that.  I want to exit the place with Hey Jude with everyone singing along!  I'm thinking of making a pre recorded of it with me saying "You're not all singing" in the middle.  I dont want some melodramatic, drawn out morbid wake.  I want a party.

Donna

[kitkatz]

I want a party before I go and after I go!

[okarol]

(Maybe this should be in the thread about how we want to be remembered, but I am too tired to look for it now.) 

On the flight home from Chicago I met a woman who is 84 years old. She told me that in her brother's will it stipulated that funds were to be available to cover the cost of organizing a family reunion - room rental and catering - for all the family - for 20 years! He even added that family members who could not afford to travel to Detroit should be paid for. The woman said this year was the 20th reunion and there were 250 family members there. She said her brother had never married but loved his nieces and nephews and that family was very important to him. I thought that was a pretty cool gift he left his family.

[Chris]

However, I saw part of some movie when I was a kid, and someone was being burned alive. Ever since then I've had an almost overwhelming fear of cremation. After attending my husband's grandfather's funeral last week, we both agree there will NOT be a ten minute altar call at either of our funerals!

The movie I saw that had it when I was a kid was a James Bond movie (Sean Connery one) and that freaked me out as a kid and still does a little today, but so does being buried alive. Better stick a fork in me and call me done before burying me.

What is an altar call?

[kitkatz]

If someone stands up and tries to save someone's soul at my funeral I will probably jump up and deck them.  None of that!  No, none, no!  If you feel your soul needs saving do not do it at my service.