Resigning at 25

[-Lady Noir-]

Well, Mikes bosses were very good about him taking some off when he had the parathyroidectomy. And even after the potassium scare, he returned to work the very next week after getting his catheter put in. They knew about his illness, and that if anything happened he may have to take some time off. They understood that he needed to take it easy because of the dialysis, no heavy lifting and all that jazz..
He worked 4 hours a day, 5 days a week.. but he found it hard to find things to do in even the small amount of 4 hours, so they lowered his hours to 3 a day. Still, the same thing. You see, he was a storeman at the local supermarket. He had worked there for over 8 years, so naturally he found it tough to make the decision to resign.

Saddest part was, on his last day.. he never even got a card! No nothing. After 8 long years of slaving away. 

[Rerun]

I'm so sorry.  Now he needs to get his butt to the Social Security Office and apply for disability.  If he starts to feel better and evens out he can look for work and they don't kick you off for 9 months.  They want to make sure you can work.  BUT... I think there is also a six month waiting period before disability kicks in. 

            Best of Luck...........

[sico]

That sux bigtime! Sounds like he's better off without them unaprechiative workmates anyway. As much as work helps keep you sane and all.

[Jean]

Great fellow employees, aren't they? Well, then, phooey on them, who needs friends like that? It must have hurt him tho, and for that, I am sorry.

[-Lady Noir-]

apply for disability

Yeah, when he was working 4 hours a day, he was eligable for a 'sickness benefit' (Which is what they call it here in NZ).
We figure he may have to apply for a 'Invalids Benefit' later on, as the S.B is not permanent.

Sico, i know what you mean about keeping you sane & all. The whole reason he went back so soon was to have some sort of sanity after everything that happened!

[sico]

The whole reason he went back so soon was to have some sort of sanity after everything that happened!

That's understandable. I think i'm going mad some days as i'm not working either. Was retrenched after my kidneys failed.
But hey they don't need me and i don't need them.

[Melissa]

Hi there.  I am sorry to hear he had to stop working.  I stopped working last November after nearly two years of working on dialysis.  I just could not keep up anymore, not performing well and feeling terrible.  Unfortunately my workplace could make no further accommodations, they had done so much already.
I worked there 6 years, and didn't get a card either,  not even a good luck wish....and I haven't heard a peep from anyone since I left.  It is sad, but I think it is common.  I have learned that a lot of people do not know what to "do" with chronic illness.  This might sound really, really weird, but in my case some of my coworkers were actually jealous!  As if this is some sort of vacation!
He will figure out a new routine and I am sure not having the pressure of working will help so much...it did with me.   He can really put his health first if he isn't worried about having to push himself to go into work later.  Best of luck to you both.

[Sunny]

Sorry to hear of his treatment when he finally had to resign. He gave it a good shot and tried his best. A card would have been nice from a place he worked at for so many years.

[-Lady Noir-]

But hey they don't need me and i don't need them.

That's exactly what Mike says 

I stopped working last November after nearly two years of working on dialysis

Wow, that's good going that is! Well done!
Trouble is with being a storeman it's all rush-rush-rush.. everything's heavy, it wasn't really a suitable role for him. But now he's going to start training on the APD machine, he has been told he will be dry during the day (Which unfortunately he isn't looking forward to as he says it feels awful!).. he would like to get another job, but doctors reckon he should take some well deserved rest!

[sico]

But now he's going to start training on the APD machine, he has been told he will be dry during the day (Which unfortunately he isn't looking forward to as he says it feels awful!).. he would like to get another job, but doctors reckon he should take some well deserved rest!

I so no reason why he has to be dry during the day Nik! What's their reasoning behind that?
As i said in the PM i carry 1000ml during the day and i hardly notice it.
It may depend on his prescription, like i use 2 x 6000ml bags. Doing 4x2200ml fills, which adds up to around 9800ml plus some for priming. 

[jpearce]

I completely understand, I was employed with the same company as assistant manager for 8 yrs, when I had to go on short term disability they fired my husband a week later ( he worked as manager for same company)
I have received nothing no card, no flowers nothing. What peeves me is we had to send the secretary a floral arrangement when she had the flu for 3 days. I get diagnosed with renal failure zip nothing nadda. I raised 3200$ for the Kidney foundation I asked the company for a donation they never even replied. My old employer was kind enough to donate 200$.
I get my satisfaction my maintaining my  premiums with them, they'll never get rid of me!!!!!

[Bajanne]

I understand the feeling.  I taught at our High School for 10 years, the last two being on dialysis.  In spite of my doing all my work with an evaluation of 96% when my appointment came up for renewal, they did not renew it.  And at the last staff meeting as a parting gift I got a plaque! (after 10 years)

[Melissa]

Gosh that is crazy so many of us had such heartless send-offs!  I did forget to mention that the same day they let me go they gave me a keychain to mark my 5 years with them.  So, I guess I DID get something!!

[Bajanne]

Gosh that is crazy so many of us had such heartless send-offs!  I did forget to mention that the same day they let me go they gave me a keychain to mark my 5 years with them.  So, I guess I DID get something!!

WOW!

[girliekick]

it hurts when i am dry too, so i do a 500 day fill.
Girl

[brandi1leigh]

I taught at the same high school for 7 years (all with good reviews). I finally left to go on disability for awhile to start dialysis. No card, no goodbye, nothing. The head principal never even saw me, I though the least he could've done was call me or send an email. I also coached the debate team and the kids got me flowers and a goodbye card, but the administration did absolutely nothing. I'm just now having to make decisions about whether I can teach again or not (although probably not at that school since I definitely wouldn't be able to coach anymore and that was a huge part of my job).