Welcome ESM. Sorry, but I'm going to be EE advocate. You didn't talk much at all about the kidney patient part. Maybe you need to read up on JUST the kidney part. We are exhausted most of the time. We who have hips can only walk a short distance. When you do make him eat is it on his renal diet? There is a LOT to this kid to feel sorry for. I don't think he will out live any of you. Read up on that.