To My Real Family NOT my IHD family

[KICKSTART]

I hope you are proud of yourselves and never need anyones help and that you stay fit and healthy all your life. My sanity has been pushed to the edge tonight by my mother with her depression , her boredom, her illnesses that she wont see a doctor for, 12 months solid ive had all this.  Not only do you not acknowledge there is anything wrong with me , i even think you just think im lazy. Im screaming out for help from you tonight and one of you just told me to get lost , the other, well you just screened my calls and didnt bother ringing back. She is YOUR sister and you are not interested and you wont help me. I dont know what to do anymore, my head is going to explode with the stress. I so hope you are really proud of yourselves. I cant wait for the day that you need help.

[boswife]

    hurts to even read.  Im glad you have us, but wish it were more.  Family is everything to me.  Im sorry yours........................... well sucks    It sad, 

[Darthvadar]

I SO know the feeling, KS....

At least you can chose your friends!...

I always say that good friends are God's apology for family!.....

Thinking of you!...

Power to the Pawed People!....

Love...

Darth...

[texasstyle]

Yell it-scream it- what ever you have to do right now and then do it again. Yell it-scream it..... Get it all out

[jbeany]

 

[del]

 

[KICKSTART]

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I'M WORSE AT WHAT I DO BEST
AND FOR THIS GIFT I FEEL BLESSED
OUR LITTLE GROUP HAS ALWAYS BEEN
AND ALWAYS WILL BE TILL THE END

Kurt Cobain- Nirvana-Smells like teen spirit
Ive just spent the rest of tonight listening to him .R.I.P and Happy Birthday , he would have been 44 today.

[looneytunes]

   For you, KS. 

[Rerun]

KS I wish you could block everyone out and just could take care of yourself.  But, your mother is your mother and you will not let her go and neither would I.  Blessings girl! 

       

[carol1987]

  So sorry Kickstart... hang in there..  I know as much as my family tried to understand they still thought I was being lazy....

[paris]

I'm sorry Kickstart.  This makes me so sad.  Your mother has no idea of what a wonderful relationship she threw away. Mothers should care and love their children - no matter their age and they should always be there for them.   Sending you loving wishes - you are a very special person and I'm glad to know you.   

[Jean]

That is so sad KS. I could never understand a Mother who puts herself before her children, no matter how old they are. Please, when they treat you like this, know that your IHD family loves you very much and you are so valuable to us.   

[rsudock]

so sorry kickie that you have to deal with insensitive healthy people in your life...I always tell people, "live long enough and you will be sick too!" you are a fighter always have been and always will be...hang tough sistah!     

xo,
R

[Tracy]

I don't know you, but I LOVE reading all your posts.  You are a pistol of a girl and I know you are a strong person!  Sometimes Moms really hurt us.  Not sure they realize how much or the damage they do.  You just smile.  You are a better person.  Hang in there! 

[Poppylicious]

Awww, kickkick.

*huggles*

If nobody else in the family will actually help you could you go and see your mum's doctor (or your own) and see if you can get some professional help for her?  Or, if not, could you just pop her in the car and drive her round to the person who's screening your calls and MAKE them help?!

Hope it gets sorted sweets. 

[*kana*]

How very sad.....I do know how much this hurts because I have a sister that does this same thing to me.  The saddest part is she has the same kidney disease as me, but she was lucky to get a kidney before she even went on dialysis.

Sometimes people just like to ignore that you have a serious medical problem instead of facing it.  I guess they think it is too painful to face the fact that you are suffering, but then they make you hurt more because they refuse to acknowledge you! 

I know we aren't your real family and it isn't the same, but we care about you and know how you feel.   

[KarenInWA]

I'm having somewhat similar issues with my mother, who also needs professinal help.  I find that our IHD family is *wa-a-a-a-ay* more helpful than she is, as are my friends and other family members.  I will never be a parent, but I had always hoped that if I became one, I would be a much better parent than my mother.  She focuses on herself too much.  I like what Paris had to say.  She is to me the ultimate example of a fine, loving, caring, wonderful mother - and the same can be said for Karol, too!  Even though I'll never be a mom, I look at those 2 as heroes and examples of the kind of woman I aspire to. (Oh, and there are others, like monrein, and you too, KS!)

Hugs,
KarenInWA

[billybags]

Sent you a PM. Look after your self. Don't let the buggers get you down.

[Brightsky69]

KS - sorry you have to deal with the stress of family.  I learned a long time ago that just because they are your mom or dad doesn't mean you have to like them or even love them.
There is no "law" that says you have to be there for a parent who does nothing to maintain a health relationship.  Just let go.... you'll be much happier for it.
I had to let go of my father because he was completely toxic to me. I haven't talked to him in a good 7 or 8 years......and I am much happier because of it. I do not miss the realtionship mainly because the relationship was so bad...there was nothing to miss.

[kellyt]