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« Reply #25 on: January 30, 2011, 07:11:37 PM »
Really nothing much I can say except to add to everyone's expressions of sorrow and support for you. You've had such a long battle and he's resting peacefully now. I am glad the end was peaceful for you both.
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« Reply #26 on: January 30, 2011, 07:44:03 PM »
Mizar, my heart aches for you.  I will be keeping you so very much in my thoughts and contemplations; praying you peace and comfort.  May light perpetual shine ever on him.
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« Reply #27 on: January 30, 2011, 11:15:02 PM »
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.   But I am glad for the report of his peaceful passing.  Be assured of the love that surrounds you at this time  :grouphug;
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« Reply #28 on: January 31, 2011, 01:54:33 AM »
So sorry to hear of your loss. Knowing that it is coming does not help to ease the pain at all does it. Greateful to God that his passing was peaceful.    :cuddle;
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« Reply #29 on: January 31, 2011, 04:39:17 AM »
Sorry to read this news.

May god bless you both.
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« Reply #30 on: January 31, 2011, 05:10:45 AM »
I am so sorry for your loss.
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« Reply #31 on: January 31, 2011, 07:39:56 AM »
I'm sorry.  :grouphug;
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« Reply #32 on: January 31, 2011, 09:00:30 AM »
I'm so sorry, Jo Ann.  How wonderful that you shared forty years together; you must have some lovely (and much treasured) memories. Thinking of you and your family.

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« Reply #33 on: January 31, 2011, 09:00:50 AM »
JoAnn, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how you must feel and I have no words of my own to offer you. But here is something I read at my grandmother's funeral; I hope it may bring you even a smidge of comfort.

WHAT IS DYING?

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength and I stand and watch her until at length she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come down to mingle with each other. Then some one at my side says: "There! She's  gone."

Gone where? Gone from my sight - that is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side, and just as able to bear her load of living freight to the place of destination. Her diminished size is in me, not in her; and just at the moment when some one at my side says,
"There! She's gone," there are other eyes watching her coming, and other voices ready to take up the glad shout, "There she comes!"

And that is dying.

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« Reply #34 on: February 01, 2011, 08:38:00 AM »
Thinking of you JoAnn.   :cuddle;
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« Reply #35 on: February 01, 2011, 03:19:15 PM »

 Thank You all, for Your Kind Words. I Read every one. They have meant so much to Me.

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« Reply #36 on: February 02, 2011, 12:26:31 PM »
I am very sorry for you lost. Please take care of yourself. AND ALWAYS remember you are very specail to have stood by your husband.  May the LORD walk with you.
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« Reply #37 on: February 02, 2011, 04:26:59 PM »
Mizar,

I just saw this and have tears in my eyes. I am praying for you through this. I wish you peace and love.
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« Reply #38 on: February 02, 2011, 04:36:51 PM »
hope you're hanging in there, i think of you often.   :cuddle;
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« Reply #39 on: February 02, 2011, 04:42:50 PM »
 :'( 
I like what DesertDancer said.  It took me a long time, but one day maybe this year, I discovered that my Mum is with me again, she died in 2004. 
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Natalya – Sydney, Australia
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1986: kidney failure at 19 years old, cause unknown
PD for a year, in-centre haemo for 4 years
Transplant 1 lasted 21 years (Lucy: 1991 - 2012), failed due to Transplant glomerulopathy
5 weeks Haemo 2012
Transplant 2 (Maggie) installed Feb 13, 2013, returned to work June 17, 2013 average crea was 130, now is 140.
Infections in June / July, hospital 1-4 Aug for infections.

Over the years:  skin cancer; thyroidectomy, pneumonia; CMV; BK; 14 surgeries
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2009 - 2013 PhD research student : How people make sense of renal failure in online discussion boards
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« Reply #40 on: February 02, 2011, 04:44:31 PM »
And I meant to say, sorry and sad to hear this Mizar, thinking of you.   Wish we could take some of the sadness.
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Natalya – Sydney, Australia
wife of Gregory, who is the kidney patient: 
1986: kidney failure at 19 years old, cause unknown
PD for a year, in-centre haemo for 4 years
Transplant 1 lasted 21 years (Lucy: 1991 - 2012), failed due to Transplant glomerulopathy
5 weeks Haemo 2012
Transplant 2 (Maggie) installed Feb 13, 2013, returned to work June 17, 2013 average crea was 130, now is 140.
Infections in June / July, hospital 1-4 Aug for infections.

Over the years:  skin cancer; thyroidectomy, pneumonia; CMV; BK; 14 surgeries
Generally glossy and happy.

2009 - 2013 PhD research student : How people make sense of renal failure in online discussion boards
Submitted February 2013 :: Graduated Sep 2013.   http://godbold.name/experiencingdialysis/
Heartfelt thanks to IHD, KK and ADB for your generosity and support.
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« Reply #41 on: February 23, 2011, 06:09:32 AM »
 :grouphug;  'weeps silently'  My prayers and sorrows for you.
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Who started dialysis 1st week of December 2010.
Complete kidney failure November 30, 2010.
Surgery for 95% blockages in his right carotid and jugular February 22, 2011
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« Reply #43 on: February 23, 2011, 07:28:15 AM »
I'm so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you.  :cuddle;
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« Reply #44 on: February 24, 2011, 06:32:36 AM »
I am so sorry Mizar to read about the passing of your dear husband. I have not been on the site in months so sorry for the delay.  You were a great friend to me when I lost John. I wish there was a space on the site where widowers could come and talk about life that does go on. I know it is very early days for you, but even after 10 months I just wish I could have John back. Not one day goes by without thinking of him.
My prayers are with you  Yvonne
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« Reply #45 on: February 24, 2011, 08:04:53 AM »
I am so sorry for your loss.  You are in my thoughts.
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« Reply #46 on: February 24, 2011, 08:19:19 AM »
Yvonne, Mizar and others,
Please know that we always welcome discussion and offer support even after your loved one has passed. Come back anytime, threads are probably most easily found in the caregiver section, but also may be posted in General Discussion. You are still part of the family. Thanks.

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