So tired of house chores

[Sunny]

I am so tired of all the house chores required to keep my house in shape.
Over the years I've learned to break it down into very small portions. Lately it's too tiring to even to do that.Once I do the rundown of all the chores, it's usually time to start again from the beginning. I don't even want to go to the grocery store. I can't even plan a menu because I have lost my appetite.I can't just leave the bathrooms filthy, that would be a bio-hazard considering my kids and husband using them (tee hee).I don't mind dust anymore and I have cut chores down to the basics.I go to the grocery store two times a week for small loads and even that can be difficult. Cooking used to be a joy.I used to take pride in the cleanliness of my home.
How will I ever get through this?

[cariad]

I don't know, Sunny, but I feel exactly the same way.

I never liked cleaning house, but having no energy makes me hate it even more. It's a shame, because there is nothing like a nice, clean home to put everyone at ease. When the boys are home and the weather is grim I feel like our house is too small, but go to clean it and I suddenly wonder why we live in this oversized beast of a building.

It's fine to give yourself a break and not keep everything spotless. Use the bursts of energy and inspiration you do get, and try not to feel bad about the rest. Good luck.

[sullidog]

I have family/friends do all that for me.
Troy

[jbeany]

On dialysis, I did the bare minimum to keep things from looking like a pigsty, and had to just lower my standards for everything else.  Before I got sick, I could clean the entire house from one end to the other in an afternoon, and still have the energy to go out that evening.  On D, a few chores meant being sick from exhaustion all the next day.  I went from cleaning the whole house every week to cleaning one room a week.  Thankfully, I have a small house, so everything got done once a month, in weekly rotation, except for the bathroom, which was a weekly chore no matter what.

I'd demand the kids and hubby start on a chore chart.  Share the burden, at least in public areas.  Ignore the kid's rooms, and make the hubby scrub the tub.  Demand that they deal with their own clutter.  Even undusted, a room looks pretty good if things are hidden instead of cluttering up visible space.  Some of the less visible stuff can slide.  Vacuum half as much.

Friends who will clean are a great help.  My mother-in-law cleaned my house instead of giving me gifts on special occasions.  She did the window washing/wall scrubbing/carpet shampooing stuff that I simply didn't have the strength to manage.  If you can afford it, how about a cleaning service, even if it's only once or twice a year, just to do the big stuff like my MIL did for me?

[Jean]

Yp, I think you just have to lower your standards a whole bunch and by now, I figure, so what? On the funnier side, I have a friend who is an absolute fanatic about her house being clean, and guess what? She has bedbugs and they are eating her alive. Now she has to throw the mattress away and have the whole house sprayed, since they are also in the carpet. So, face it, you can't win either way. I do miss the pleasure of cooking and baking tho.

[MooseMom]

My husband thinks he is one of the smartest men in the history of history, so I told him that I reckon he can therefore figure out how to run a vacuum or prepare a meal or run the washing machine.  Delegate!  One thing I've done is to get rid of a lot of crap.  I would never EVER part with any book, but lately I've joined the library and have donated close to 50 books to various charities.  Less stuff means less work.  I am seriously considering, though, getting a cleaning service to come in once a month.

[paris]

This is timely for me.  I have been internally ranting about this subject for a week.  It takes me all day to straighten one room.  It use to take me part of Saturday to do the entire house - sweeping, dusting, scrubbing, laundry, everything.   Now, I run the vacuum and take a break.  Dust and take a break.   Why I am upset is that three people live in this house.  Why am I the one responsible for cleaning the refrigerator?  Making sure the bathroom is clean.  (I throw up a lot and want a very clean bathroom).   When family stops by, I end up with a messier house.  More work.  I deligate, but I shouldn't have to.  Everyone should see what needs to be done and do it.  I have felt like a very second class citizen lately.  My husband says I make people feel quilty ---- well, they should feel quilty!       Doesn't he want to help and take on part of the load?  He sees me struggle.     Wow--I am ranting online now instead of just internally!!   Sorry! 

MooseMom, my daugher works about 60 hrs a week, has four kids and decided a few months ago she could afford a service to come in once a month. She is happier person!  They do all the heavy cleaning, even change all 7 beds, scrub every surface and she just has to keep up a little until they come again.   My husband doesn't understand the need and thinks it is frivolous.   My advice--get the service and enjoy it for all of us!!!   

Sunny. are you sure we aren't related?   

[Sunny]

Ahhhh, a cleaning service! maybe even a gardener!
That would be the life! If I could just talk my husband into spending the $.