considering giving up dialysis treatment

[Sluff]

There's a saying  "He's not heavy, He's my Brother" I believe it was a song too but In a married relationship you would not be a burden.

If you are a burden than you are not truly in love.

[Rerun]

There's a saying  "He's not heavy, He's my Brother" I believe it was a song too but In a married relationship you would not be a burden.

If you are a burden than you are not truly in love.

That's right.  But you are still married and I don't take that lightly.  I'd rather stay single than go through another divorce. 

[mmmmdeedee]

I think there are obviously pros and cons to having a mate when one has a disability. If it's a good marriage - then great. If not, it just adds one more burden onto an already full plate! For me, right now, I've got me to worry about. I become a raving bitch at times when I'm sick and would rather not have a mate to take it out on right now.

And whether to stay on dialysis or not. Such a personal decision should be left up to that person. Although we are a tight community, everyone's circumstances are different. No, dialysis is not the end. But if your quality of life is such that the cons outperform the pros, then you decide, on your own, what is important to you.

[Sluff]

There's a saying  "He's not heavy, He's my Brother" I believe it was a song too but In a married relationship you would not be a burden.

If you are a burden than you are not truly in love.

That's right.  But you are still married and I don't take that lightly.  I'd rather stay single than go through another divorce. 

Your 100% correct. If I weren't married I would not even consider getting married. My wife is not the most understanding but when she doesn't feel good well lets just say no one will feel good.

When I tell her I'm having a bad day or I feel really sick, she just says she don't feel good either. Definitely no sympathy in this house. So I understand you and mmmmmdee.

Technically I am legally separated but we do share the same house. separate bedrooms also.

[vandie]

Your 100% correct. If I weren't married I would not even consider getting married. My wife is not the most understanding but when she doesn't feel good well lets just say no one will feel good.

When I tell her I'm having a bad day or I feel really sick, she just says she don't feel good either. Definitely no sympathy in this house. So I understand you and mmmmmdee.

Technically I am legally separated but we do share the same house. separate bedrooms also.

I divorced before I was diagnosed with CKD.  You all are making me think twice about ever getting married again.
I imagine it's hard to live in the same house, but be separated.  I'm sorry she's not supportive.



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[kitkatz]

It is very hard to deal with your partner's illness.  When both of us, my hubby and I, both came up with something; me on dialysis and him with an amputation below the knee; our lives changed.  We both have had to adapt to new changes in our lives.  I look on it as we are leaning one each other and staggering through life together.  It is difficult I will not lie. I have no big advice to give on relationships.  I do know my hubby loves me and I love him.  It works for us.