I need advice from da ladies

[keith]

 I feel like a ass for asking dis but one of da members of my support group called me and asked how to deal wit his girlfriend cause they both think dat she is going thru de change of life. Now i kno dat i run a support group but dis is da second time i didn't kno what to say so what  do i say plz help me I for once have no idea as what de hell to say  i'm

[kitkatz]

The change of life often changes the woman that the man knows.  She is irritable and grumpy and fed up with a lot of things easily.  Tell him patience and love and he will get through it with her.  Buy some fans and an ice maker for the hot flashes and an extra sweater for when she complains about the cold. Dr. Phil's wife wrote a book on the change in woman and it might make a good read for him and her.

[MIbarra]

I haven't been through "the change" but I do have terrible mood swings. My husband has learned to just nod his head and say "uh huh" until I'm done instead of arguing with me. Usually later on, I figure out I was wrong or really blew it out of proportion. Of course I NEVER admit that, but we do laugh about it sometimes afterwards.

[Romona]

She needs love and support or maybe some wine and lots of it. 

[twirl]

Keith   I am interested in the kinds of support groups you have--------------maybe, I will join one on the net

I do not know about change of life,if I had it, it was mild and I missed it.
I can tell you that I trust your judgement, how would you handle the situation if you were the person asking the question?
a friend of mine said she was hot all the time ( not for sex; from heat ) pissed her off if her husband even looked at her, now she drinks a lot of peach, icy liquor drinks. I can not remember what they are called. ( in little glasses)
just keep his mouth shut if he has nothing wonderfully nice to say,
she is always right,
be positive, ( be positive; this too will pass)

[keith]

for the feed bac ladies  i don't care what everyone says about u all U LADIES R GOD SENT  for the help I'll pass it on



twirl  i only run a dialysis support group for patients friends and family's and i tell the 15-20 people that show up that my support group is to help support dialysis patients and their family and friends to the best that we can no matter what it is. the NKF has even started sending me money to get money 4 refreshments for my groups and reimbursed me

[rose1999]

Hi Keith
I was going to post a link 
http://www.irishhealth.com/?level=4&id=78
But remembering Epoman didn't like those I've copied and pasted the article - hope it's useful, bless you for caring so much about people. 

How can I support my partner through the menopause?

Understanding the physical causes of the changes that are taking place for your wife or partner is important. You can also provide practical support:

Encourage her to talk about what she is experiencing — open communication always promotes understanding between partners.
Participate in the choice of contraception. Even after several months without a period, a woman has a chance of ovulating again. To be really secure, some form of contraception should be used for a full year after the last period. There are health reasons for avoiding pregnancy at this time. The possibility of birth defects in babies increases as women get older.
Understand the physical reasons why intercourse may be uncomfortable and even painful. Both men and women may find that sexual response isn't as quickly achieved as it may have been. Foreplay may need to be longer. Lubricating with contraceptive-type jelly or a water-based jelly may be helpful.
Help your partner to develop a healthy lifestyle — eating a balanced diet, limiting caffeine and reducing salt intake are positive approaches to a healthy lifestyle. Exercising with each other and getting enough rest will also reduce stress and improve mood.
Help your partner to weigh the pros and cons of taking HRT. More and more doctors are prescribing HRT because of its ability to reduce physical changes including hot flushes, vaginal mucous membrane changes, emotional symptoms including depression, sleep loss or changes in sleep, loss of sex drive and also for the long-term benefits in the prevention of osteoporosis and heart disease. Understanding the benefits of HRT and knowing the risks are important for you and your wife/partner.
Love, care and communicate to manage the adjustments that always need to be made, to a greater or lesser degree, during these transition years

[twirl]

Keith you are a  dude