Child Custody/Child Support

[monrein]

Angela, how stressful this all must be on top of everything else.  I'm thinking of you and the kids and I hope things settle into a more peaceful space very soon.
 

[paris]

I am sorry Angela.  Document everything as it happens.  Make hard copies of emails. This will help you prove his inability to provide child support and have continuous contact with the children.  It has been 5 years for my daughter, and she still has problems with her ex.  He wanted joint custody but had not paid child support according to the court papers. Melissa kept a detailed calender of when he saw the kids and when he called them.  He didn't have a chance, but she was scared to death. And he is a police officer!  You are dealing with so much.  Too much and I am sorry.  I'll keep you in my prayers.  You certainly could use some angels in your life and a rainbow to brighten your day.    Sending you love

[rose1999]

I can only agree with Paris, document everything.  Are the children old enough to tell the courts what they want?  They would certainly get chance here in the UK if old enough but I don't know how your system works.  You are quite right to ask that he comes to them and not the other way round.  I can only send you love and good wishes, hope that helps make you feel a little comforted.

[vandie]

Yes, Paris is right.   Document.   The judges love documentation.  I have seen parents come in with several years worth of calendars with exactly when the other parent had the child.
Here in CA, the children cannot nominate who with whom they want to live until they are 12; not sure of the age in other states.

Good luck, Ang.  We are all in your corner.

[keith]

Ang  take it from me i pay child support for my youngest two I'll b da 1st to admit dat for about 18months i was a DEAD BEAT DAD but i came to understand dat my kids didn't ask to be here and it was my responseability to do right by them and dat da judge was going to lock my ass up i made excuse after excuse i thought dat since i was now paying support dat i could get joint custody to but da judge basically laughed in my face

[monrein]

That was a very honest post Keith and you deserve a lot of respect for the way you have come to understand what your kids need from you.  I think that with the issue of support, of course the money itself is important and necessary but it's also a sign of caring and love for your children and shows them that they are way more important than any differences, big or small, between you and their mother.

It also shows maturity and manliness.  Anyone can make babies, it takes adults to raise them.  Good on you Keith.

[angela515]

Thanks everyone.

It's age 12 here too, and in NV, and in pretty much every state I know, but I don't know them all... lol

keith: Good for you, glad you have turned it around. Unfortunately my ex don't see things that way and never will, and that's ok, better for my case to go my way.

 

[twirl]

Ang 515              what an awesome mom your children are blessed with