If I told you everything would you still like me?

[Duane]

I'm a born again Christian, and I know God has forgiven me of my sins on a daily basis, and i'm to put off the old man of sin and walk in newness of life etc.

I've told God all and i know he listens and answers prayer.

I want so bad to talk about my pain within to somebody like i do with God, is that right or wrong?

I feel like i have to release 50yrs of tension inside me in order to experience God's blessings for me.

I'm tired of this personal bondage of mine. Scripture says you can't put new wine in old skins, it won't hold it. You must put new wine in new skins.

If i told you and released my thoughts here for help would you still like me? Would you be honest with me here?

I've read responses to many honest and open concerns many have posted here and some of the responses are uplifting to some. In other words it appears to me that some replies are replies that you think the person wants to here and not what they need.

Will you like me here if i told you the truth about my life?

[Duane]

I have a lot i want to say about my life starting from a child till now, i got to get it out somewhere so i can move on to the next level in my life. Can i do it here?

[Chicken Little]

I would, but I'm not sure a message board is the place to do it.   

Maybe you could do it by private message?  I would be willing to do that.  Although I'm probably not the best candidate if you're looking for faith based support, as I am not a believer.    

[keefer51]

I don't know Duane. I think a my space blog might work better. Here your space might be limited. If you do write a blog i will listen. I'm not a believer either.

[Sara]

Well I think some people don't necessarily want "honest feedback."  They just want to be told "it's ok."  But I think if you say you want honest feedback you'll get it.  And I'm sure people would still like/support you.

[boxman55]

Let her rip Duane you will get what you asked for and maybe more. But it will be honest feed back or maybe non at all..................Boxman55

[tweetykiss]

I have to go with what Keefer says and this would not really be the place to do it since it is really a message board......myspace blogs are very good and you can also have blog on bloggers and writingup as well......

Now on here, you will get honest responses and one major reason I like this place a lot.......

I don't believe in organized religion of any kind but I am willing to hear you out and keep an open mind and we can have a friendly debate, but I would rather it be on a blog.......

[glitter]

while baring your soul is cleansing, if you can take people discussing it, then you can say it wherever you want- a long rambling post or whatever. some people might be uncomfortable with such a public display of emotion...but if you are not then its your decision, It would be interesting to hear your story.

[jbeany]

Duane, we're a mixed group on here with a common interest in kidney problems.  Most of us will give honest answers if you ask honest questions.  How much of yourself you wish to put out there for others to see depends on how sensitive you are to people's reactions.  Is it going to bother you to read what people really think about your life, your actions, your beliefs?  If you really want that kind of feedback, then there's nothing stopping you from posting anything about yourself that you please.  If getting responses about your life and your faith from those of us who don't believe is going to hurt you, then you might want to take the religious discussion to a Christian message board where others share your faith. 

If you want an idea of what kind of debate a religious discussion on here can lead to, you might want to read Epo's post here .. . http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=635.0

[kitkatz]

If I told everything, no one would like me. I think you have to pick and choose what you are going to say on a message board.  Being an open book may lead to things you never wanted to know about people or yourself.

[angela515]

I'm listening Duane.

[Razman]

Hi Duane,  I have also trusted Christ as my Saviour.  As you said in your message when you accepted God He forgave you for your sins and  you have started a new life. You can leave the past behind you and go forward. I don't know if this is the best place to talk about your concerns. Why not see the pastor at your church and  just arrange for a time to sit down and talk.  You can say a little or a lot and he can maybe help you join a group at the church.  Let us know how things work out.

[Earlinda]

Dear Duanne,

First let me tell you that no matter what you say I will still like you.  I too am Christian and if there are things that you need to talk about then my heart and ears are ready to listen and give you the most honest responses to your thoughts and concerns.  Feel free to send a personal message to me whenever you want.

Earlinda

[tamara]

Hi Duane,

I am not religous and I don't think what you are asking has an effect if I am religous or not, it depends to me on how you have been as a human being on this earth and treated the fellow

man (and Woman!)

The post put in off topic, can be about absolutely anything(except dialysis LOL  )

If you think it would help you to release whatever is on your mind here, go right ahead. As you would have noticed by now we are a pretty supportive group of people.

I will be honest in my response, but cannot say before I know what we are dealing with if I will still like you,once I know the truth about your life. That absolutely depends on what you

have done to build up all that tension. But hey we are here.And I am being totally honest.

Just my 

[Duane]

Ok, as the saying goes: Patience is a virtue, and it surely is here. All replies to my topic are well received and none were bad, all good, thanks everyone.

Miracles and answered prayer have been falling on me for the past 30 days now and continuing on a daily basis. This "faith" and "trust" thing really works, i'm living proof of that.

I respect all opinions from believers and non-believers for we all breath the same air. I love you all.

I'm reminded of a story told in the greatest book of all time, the bible. In brief and to sum up the story very fast it's the story about a man of God living in a town of un-believers, his name is Lot.

Lot is instructed by God to leave this town and go where he could worship God completely and in doing this God is going to destroy this town as Lot and his family is leaving. The instruction God gave Lot and his family was "don't look back" as you're leaving or you will die, well as the story unfolds, Lots wife looks back and she dies and turns into a pillar of salt at the same time God destroys the town. (his past)

The moral of the story is: Leave the past in the past, especially if your past is un-healthy for you and killing you, stay in today and press forward in your new walk in life.


So after much thought, patience, listening and reading posts, it was revealed to me to keep the past in the past, it's dead and gone, stay in today. So that's where i'm at now.

Thanks all

[Sluff]

I look at it this way Duane. I am who I am, and as long as I am right with the God of my choosing, I don't care if others approve of my past because that's just what it is, the past. I've had many trials and struggles over rights and wrongs in my past, but everyone has their own level as to what is acceptable and tolerated.

If you are at that time in your life that you need to spill the beans, kind of a internal cleansing so to speak then you need to do that. God may be leading your direction and put it upon your heart to do so. How you handle the reactions of others depends upon where your heart is.

Ask and you will receive and sometimes it may not be what you wanted to hear.

[thegrammalady]

i think the question really is "do you like you?" what i think shouldn't really matter.