brothers are so confusing!~

[gothiclovemonkey]

im not sure where to even put this, its about esrd and transplant and dialysis...mostly stupid brothers

Idk if i should even be bothered by this but....

Recently my brother, who has a severe god complex, and is completely insane, asked me for the info for transplant because he wants to find out if he can give me one...................

First off, when i first got on the list, he had me call them and i handed him the phone and he told them he has High BP.....so obviously couldnt give me one....
Now hes saying he doesnt have High bp (ok i can understand lying because at the time he didnt want to give me one but that potentially screws any chance, id guess, at giving me one)

Now, hes saying he wanted that info, getting my hopes up, and he hasnt said anythign about it since... I know i need to be patient, but when he called me he wanted the number asap like he was going to call then, so i had to stop what i was doing lol

also, im not really sure i want his even if i could, because i know hed continually hold that over me. Thats how he rolls. him and his god complexed self lol
besides, if my aunt found out, shed probably forbid it

he constantly does this, so hot and cold. one min he says how much he wishes he was in my shoes. the next he tells me how he can feel my pain and it makes him sad inside. i dont understand him at all.

So with that said, idk if i should even accept it or not, i mean, i really hate dialysis, and would love to be transplanted and feeling better, but at what cost? would i "owe"  him now? he already thinks hes God, wouldnt that only make this worse? i just dont know what to do.

Im not sure why im even worring about it, the odds of him actually going through with finding out are really slim. My fathers the only person who was willing to be tested, and hes not well enough to donate.

[lmunchkin]

GLM, given the dynamics of what you just said, I would respectfully decline and move on to other avenues.  Of course, Im not in your situation, but if I were, I believe I would decline his offer!

Too much going on there to feel comfortable excepting, IMHO.  I do hope something comes along for you, as you have been through a whole lot!

God Bless,
lmunchkin

[cariad]

Oh, GLM. From what you've written, that boy is not going to be able to pass the psychological screening. I would stop holding out any hope right now to preserve your sanity. Please don't let him string you along like this. If I'm wrong and he does surprise you, then great, I'll apologise to his face if you want, but for now I just want to scream Danger! Danger! Run away!

[jbeany]

Some free gifts cost too much.  I think I'd just completely drop the subject with him.

[jeannea]

I'd say pass. It's not worth it. I guess I was luckier than I thought that my brother never offered.

[MooseMom]

I agree with Cariad.  I don't think he'd pass the psychological screening.  There is a reason that potential living donors are required to speak to the social worker/psychologist.  It is as much for your protection as it is for the protection of the donor.  The potential for emotional blackmail is a real and present danger.

[gothiclovemonkey]

im totally not kidding when i say hes insane btw...
its actually quite sad. he seemed sane for the most part, growing up, just the thinking hes King of the world and gods gift to everyone, but now hes lost his mind...

i really dont think id want a kidney from family. i think ill have trouble enough dealing with having a strangers kidney, but someone i know personally? that would just be akward, i think lol

[gothiclovemonkey]

(good?) bad news. He was denied. Due to high cholesterol and risk of heart disease. No surprise there lol

[MooseMom]

Yeah, hard to know whether this is good or bad news.  At least he tried.

[okarol]

(good?) bad news. He was denied. Due to high cholesterol and risk of heart disease. No surprise there lol

It's always nice to have an offer, the hope is what kept us going.

[gothiclovemonkey]

it was nice. kind of a shock, considering a few years ago hed told me hed rather see me die than give me a kidney... but that was before i even knew i needed one. (i knew eventually it would be a possibility...had no idea i actually would, or had no idea it would be so soon)

[Poppylicious]

Awww, GLM *huggles* ... I'm glad he went through the beginning stages of offering even if the outcome wasn't a positive one.  Maybe now he'll get his cholesterol sorted, eh?!