Lessons Learned

So, since my last rant, things had improved, I wasn't (still am not) allowing people to walk on us and had had enough with the In-Law (out law is more appropriate). My husband has now been home for 2 weeks since the colonoscopy has been reversed, while he was in the hospital my mother in law did something so offensive that I truly blew a gasket and told my husband that he now had to make a choice, me or her. I told him she was no longer allowed to visit him when I was home, I don't care if it's a holiday or not (not like she'd make the effort, but still....) I was so angry I was actually calm. He was completely dumbfounded. We will have been married on the 19th of this month for 27 years. I will no longer tolerate her nonsense and I will not be a 3rd wheel in my own marriage. He was to get her out or I am leaving. No if ands or buts. So far, it's been very nice. He no longer discusses what we are doing or that I even exist. His calls with her are very short. The world of a dialysis patient is hard enough without somebody who couldn't care less causing as much grief as possible. I don't care if it's his mother or a complete stranger. We DO NOT have time to waste on such senseless nonsense.

Now on the other side, when he came home from the hospital, they hadn't closed up the wound which was 13 inches long and 4 inches wide. The reason was because he gets pretty bad infections so easily, they were hoping this would avoid one. It worked! I had to learn quickly how to pack this wound twice a day. The first few times, I had to leave the room, take a deep breath then come back and start over. Now I can help change this fairly quickly and when the surgeon saw him, she told him that we were doing an excellent job. The incision is now 8 inches long and 2 inches wide!!! I guess I can learn to do anything I need to do. Right now I can't get near him as I have some summer virus which has kept me home from work for 3 days now, my doctor says that I should start feeling better in a couple more days. I can't chance passing it on to my husband. I'm not complaining because what he goes through is a thousand times worst.

It's amazing what I've learned on how to take care of my husband, I wish it wasn't so, this disease is horrible. It doesn't pay a sliver of attention to how it affects people or what it does to people. But, what I'm discovering is that the people that stand by you are the priceless friends to keep. My husband lost almost all of his friends because he had gotten sick. It used to break my heart when he'd call one of them and they wouldn't take his calls. He's no different than before, just now has an extensive medical history. At the same time, the few people who come around are so special to us. He goes into the hospital, they want to know what they can do to help out and they take the time to call and/or visit him. I guess in the end, being sick from this disease has brought out the best in some and driven others off. We take what we're given and run with it!