When you have to deal with pain and grief...

This is from an article in a newspaper I read. I hope that it may help those who are going through difficulties.

It may be easily said, and not so easy to do, but I feel there is some good here:

Pain and grief often accompany a loss or tragedy.
After you begin to feel the pain, allow yourself to feel the loss, hurt, pain and disapointment.

Dont expect or depend on others to share your feelings.
Acknowledge the reality of the situation. Whatever has happened cannot be changed.

However, you may percieve that these events and their consequences are open to modification.
You can continue to dwell on it, or you can look at alternatives and options.

Try not to let your distress escalate and become paralyzing.
Be aware to avoid prolonged interuption in health as sleep and nutrition.
Realise that rarely is any single event in life necessary for survival, and no single person can destroy you.

There are always measures and choices for a new beginning.

You are responsible for your life by the choices you make and the actions you take.

Compare your hurt to losses from your past. Look back on disapointments you have suffered, and see that life did go on.
Most setbacks are temporary and can be altered with a fresh perspective.

Be realistic about future expectations and avoid dwelling on issues that may be "unfair" for reasons beyond your control.
Decide that you are going to make the best choices you can now , with the circumstances you have around you.

Be flexible. Try another approach to reach your goals. While limitations exist for everyone, alternatives almost always exist.

Visualise what you really want. If it is a new friendship, picture the kind , caring person you seek.
If it is a new career see yourself as succesful, and plan what you want to achieve..
Picture yourself creating what you want.
Keep that picture in mind ,and build on it.

Now take action to get what you want.
Cast aside the lethargy from your negative feelings, and use your energy to rebuild and keep your thoughts on the positive side.

I hope this can be of some help.
Life can be difficult, and yet there are things we can do for ourselves to help, sometimes it takes just a little knowledge, desire, and effort.