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« on: March 19, 2009, 08:11:20 AM »
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A Face Not Even a Mother Could Love

Posted Thursday, March 12, 2009, at 6:45 AM ET

Dear Prudence,
My boyfriend and I are in a healthy and loving relationship, and we are beginning to talk about marriage. We both want the same number of kids at the same point in our lives. It is presumed that these will be our biological children. The issue is, I'm not sure that I would want to bear my boyfriend's children. While he is incredibly intelligent and has a great personality, he is markedly less physically attractive than I am. We get occasional lighthearted comments from friends and family about the discrepancy. Having biological children has never been important to me, and I think adoption is great. I believe that he will be an amazing father and that our children, biological or adopted, would be bright and well-behaved as a result of good parenting. Should I bring these thoughts up with him? I think he would be open to the idea of adoption but would also be hurt by my rationale. At what point should we discuss this more seriously, and how should I tell him how I feel?

—Skinny Bitch

Dear Skinny,
You're wise to avoid the potential tragedy of reproducing with your boyfriend: Your children could get his looks and your personality. Perhaps your boyfriend's already got an inkling of how you feel because of the Leonardo DiCaprio mask you ask him to wear when you make love. And although Brad and Angelina are both fecund and support adoption, I'm not sure they're going to agree to place any of their future progeny with you just to help you avoid the embarrassment of having a child who looks like your boyfriend. I'm trying to imagine how you initiate this discussion with him. Something like: "I look forward to spending the rest of my life with you. But when it comes to having kids, I'm sure that if we adopt we'll have a better shot of having decent-looking ones than if I let you impregnate me with your hideous sperm." That should go over well! What's supposed to happen when you are in love with someone (who also happens to be intelligent and have a great personality) is that you discover, despite objective measures, that person is beautiful to you. Your boyfriend sounds like a catch, so maybe you should toss him back so that he has a chance to find someone who's not permanently stuck in the shallow end.

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« Reply #1 on: March 19, 2009, 08:16:35 AM »
Maybe she will end up on dialysis and can't have kids.  Then her outlook on the world and life may have a different meaning. 
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« Reply #2 on: March 19, 2009, 09:33:45 AM »
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« Reply #3 on: March 19, 2009, 09:55:25 AM »
I hope her boyfriend is running in the opposite direction!  How shallow is she?
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« Reply #4 on: March 19, 2009, 10:43:33 AM »
I think i have known a few like her.  ::)
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« Reply #5 on: March 19, 2009, 01:41:10 PM »
Well I guess she's not a gold digger after all since he probably has a great job and she doesn't.  :rofl; :rofl; is one way to look at it?  :shy;

There are a lot of her type in my area. It's a mad mad world I say! (forgot what movie that is from)
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« Reply #6 on: March 19, 2009, 01:51:24 PM »
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« Reply #7 on: March 19, 2009, 06:48:39 PM »
Ugly on the inside!
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« Reply #8 on: March 19, 2009, 09:02:10 PM »
There you go kit, that's the phrase for her.
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Diabetes -  age 7

Neuropathy in legs age 10

Eye impairments and blindness in one eye began in 95, major one during visit to the Indy 500 race of that year
   -glaucoma and surgery for that
     -cataract surgery twice on same eye (2000 - 2002). another one growing in good eye
     - vitrectomy in good eye post tx November 2003, totally blind for 4 months due to complications with meds and infection

Diagnosed with ESRD June 29, 1999
1st Dialysis - July 4, 1999
Last Dialysis - December 2, 2000

Kidney and Pancreas Transplant - December 3, 2000

Cataract Surgery on good eye - June 24, 2009
Knee Surgery 2010
2011/2012 in process of getting a guide dog
Guide Dog Training begins July 2, 2012 in NY
Guide Dog by end of July 2012
Next eye surgery late 2012 or 2013 if I feel like it
Home with Guide dog - July 27, 2012
Knee Surgery #2 - Oct 15, 2012
Eye Surgery - Nov 2012
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« Reply #9 on: March 20, 2009, 07:49:42 AM »
I think that Prudence's reply was spot on. 
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« Reply #10 on: March 20, 2009, 08:02:27 AM »
People. . .

They never cease to amaze me. . .   ???
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« Reply #11 on: March 20, 2009, 10:03:34 AM »
Yes David, that's why we keep beating you in Who Loves IHD The Most post  :rofl; :rofl;
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Diabetes -  age 7

Neuropathy in legs age 10

Eye impairments and blindness in one eye began in 95, major one during visit to the Indy 500 race of that year
   -glaucoma and surgery for that
     -cataract surgery twice on same eye (2000 - 2002). another one growing in good eye
     - vitrectomy in good eye post tx November 2003, totally blind for 4 months due to complications with meds and infection

Diagnosed with ESRD June 29, 1999
1st Dialysis - July 4, 1999
Last Dialysis - December 2, 2000

Kidney and Pancreas Transplant - December 3, 2000

Cataract Surgery on good eye - June 24, 2009
Knee Surgery 2010
2011/2012 in process of getting a guide dog
Guide Dog Training begins July 2, 2012 in NY
Guide Dog by end of July 2012
Next eye surgery late 2012 or 2013 if I feel like it
Home with Guide dog - July 27, 2012
Knee Surgery #2 - Oct 15, 2012
Eye Surgery - Nov 2012
Lifes Adventures -  Priceless

No two day's are the same, are they?
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