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« on: March 04, 2009, 04:01:04 AM »

All I really want is be normal .....................what is normal
To me it would be walking up a flight of stairs without
having to stop half ways up to catch my breath
Normal to me would be not regretting waking up on a dialysis day

Or to be with a woman and not having her worry something might happen to me
We all have are own idea of whats normal. Some are the same and some are different
But we all have one thing in common and thats just to be normal

What is normal to you ?
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« Reply #1 on: March 04, 2009, 07:24:36 AM »

Normal has taken on an entirely different meaning to me now......it would be great if my friends didn't ask me if I'm feeling okay 1,000 times a day. It would me great if the cashier at the grocery store didn't ask me what happened to my arm (it's always black&blue ). It would be great if my husband didn't wake me up during the night to make sure my access or catheter  isn't bleeding.

It is not that I an not very thankful for everyones concern , but it would be nice just to "normal":  without bruises and scars all over my arms .
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« Reply #2 on: March 04, 2009, 08:08:30 AM »

Normal -
when my biggest complaint about having to get up in the morning was that I had to go to work.
when I could pay my own bills with my own paycheck.
when a shortage of sleep meant I spent the day yawning and thinking about the fun I had the night before.
when every bite I put in my mouth wasn't evaluated for carbs, sodium, phos, and potassium content.
when thirsty wasn't a long-term condition.
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« Reply #3 on: March 04, 2009, 08:59:43 AM »

I guess I look at things differently.  Normal, for me, is exactly what my life is like now.  If I get to go back on PD, that will be normal.  If I get a transplant, that will be normal.  Rather than belittle what keeps me alive, I embrace it. 
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« Reply #4 on: March 04, 2009, 10:17:34 AM »

normal  -
to be able to urinate
to be able to teach
to be able to get up from a chair when I wanted to
to be able to drink 8 glasses of water a day
I am not belittling what keeps me alive -- I am posting how I feel about it -
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« Reply #5 on: March 04, 2009, 03:17:18 PM »

I've never been normal and wouldn't know where to start if that's what I endeavoured to be.

The "Norm's" take everthing for granted and don't appreciate how lucky they are to be healthy, so as far as I'm concerned they can all pound sand.
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« Reply #6 on: March 04, 2009, 03:43:55 PM »

Having kids without trying!
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« Reply #7 on: March 04, 2009, 03:51:19 PM »

I have never had a normal life, so I am going to think about this question and come back to it.
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« Reply #8 on: March 04, 2009, 03:59:07 PM »

Normal to me is being able to get up and go somewhere at a whim and this ended 11/05 and I """still""" am having trouble changing that feeling.  I am only 60 years old and a prisoner.  Any one of you that can go on a cruise or anything even remotely fun...enjoy it...it could end today....and I dare you to tell me or anyone who feels like I do or has to live like I do to feel "normal".

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« Reply #9 on: March 05, 2009, 10:53:53 AM »

Normal? What's that? I've been a type 1 diabetic since I was 6 years old. I don't even remember normal. The constant blood sugar checks, insulin shots, insulin pump issues, carb counting, etc. My entire life, I have been watched like a hawk about what I  eat, what I do, how much insulin I take. Every little moment of my day is scheduled around my diabetes. And now the kidney failure!
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« Reply #10 on: March 05, 2009, 01:28:57 PM »

Jbeany.. You said it best for me... I agree not sure there is really a normal in my life anymore.

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« Reply #11 on: March 05, 2009, 02:03:55 PM »

I thought and thought about this and decided to look up the definition and I found the definition to be quite comical, I could not think of what normal would be to me really..............


conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.

a.  approximately average in any psychological trait, as intelligence, personality, or emotional adjustment.
b. free from any mental disorder; sane.

free from any infection or other form of disease or malformation, or from experimental therapy or manipulation.
b. of natural occurrence.
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« Reply #12 on: March 05, 2009, 03:51:08 PM »

To me normal is whatever I am living with at the time.  We all go through periods of "odd"...but that's still our normal at the time.  Normal for me is to always find the bright side of every situation.  Beating myself up just gets me a beating.  Yes, there are days that I am sick and tired of being sick and tired...but hey...it beats hell out of the alternative.
If I felt perfect every day and my job was perfect and my kids never made me growl...what would I have to b*tch about?  <giggle>  Oh nevermind...I'd think of something!
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« Reply #13 on: March 05, 2009, 03:52:51 PM »

To me normal is whatever I am living with at the time. We all go through periods of "odd"...but that's still our normal at the time. Normal for me is to always find the bright side of every situation. Beating myself up just gets me a beating. Yes, there are days that I am sick and tired of being sick and tired...but hey...it beats hell out of the alternative.
If I felt perfect every day and my job was perfect and my kids never made me growl...what would I have to b*tch about? <giggle> Oh nevermind...I'd think of something!

Wenchie, that is one of the best philosophies of life I have ever heard. 

You are an inspiration.   :2thumbsup;
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« Reply #14 on: March 05, 2009, 06:50:08 PM »

not abnormal; regular

Oh that clears things up.   :sarcasm;
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