Mom may be stopping chemo after this round

[karen547]

  My mom told us today that she may be stopping chemo after this round... I don't know what to think. I feel so heartbroken and angry all at the same time! I guess somehow I always knew this would happen. The cancer just keeps on coming back, and a person can only have so much chemo before it takes its toll. My mom is so tired all of the time, shes more nauseated each day, and her quality of life is practically at zero. Sometimes I think there is worse things than dying, and if my mom is going to stop treatment all I can do is respect her wishes.

[rose1999]

  Aw Karen I'm so sorry to hear this but you are quite right....all you can do is respect her wishes and be there for her, yes there are worse things than dying but that doesn't mean you want to lose your Mom.  But she only said may be, so there is hope....also let us all hope and pray that this round will make her much better and she will either not need more or will see it is helping and decide to go on.  Whatever happens we will be here for you 

[willieandwinnie]

  We are here for you. 

[okarol]

  I hope she decides what is best for her. Having your support is helpful Karen.

[jbeany]

 

My grandfather refused treatment when he was diagnosed.  It was tough to lose him, but I do think he made the right decision for himself.  Just be there for her, and make as many good memories as you can.

[Joe Paul]

Sorry to hear it, just enjoy her while she is still with you.

[Romona]

 

[David13]

This is a difficult situation, but as you stated, sometimes it becomes a quality of life issue.  Whatever the decision is, she will need your love and support.   

[Sluff]

I'm very sorry to hear this Karen because I have been in your shoes more than once. It is a tough decision to make but it really does become a matter of quality of life. Spend as much time with your Mum especially now with the holidays so close. Don't grieve about what could happen but celebrate your good times and have some laughs together if it is possible. I can feel your heavy heart but know you are not alone. 

[Sunny]

Karen,
This must be so hard for you because I can tell you love your mother very much.
I understand her position completely, though. I think I mentioned I had 6 months of chemo to fight Goodpasture's Disease in 2001.
I have to agree with your mother that it is very difficult on the human body and takes its toll both physically and emotionally. I always say sometimes the cure is worse than the disease.For me, just thinking there was light at the end of the tunnel and that the treatment would come to an end was what helped me get through it at the time. However, once I got beyond that point, and now many years later looking back on what I went through, I probably would choose never to have chemo again if some future event should occur in my life where chemo was necessary.I wish you and your family the best.

[jessup]

 
My thoughts and love to you and your Mum
Please remember that she said "may stop"
Maybe your Mum is "fed up" at the moment and may change her mind

Just continue to be the loving, caring, supportive and wonderful daughter you are
I'm sure all will work out
 

[Ang]

best  wishes  for the  journey  ahead


hope  your  mum  does  whats  best  for  her.

[monrein]

So tough Karen.  I'll be thinking of you and your family.