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Title: I said a most awful thing
Post by: twirl on August 25, 2008, 02:20:43 PM

my husband and I are on pins and needles waiting for the lung cat scan results
it does not look like the outcome will be good
we were keeping Trasie another night and I was too tired
she is almost 2 and full of energy and my daughter will not let her have a binki or a bottle
he thought I just did not want to keep her
I told him I hope you have something wrong with you and then you will know how I feel
I feel horrible about saying that and I am so sorry
people you live with sometimes do not have a clue
I love Trasie and love keeping her but I was so tired
now I feel like the bitch I am
I have been sad all day and then a member made me laugh - I was reading a post that a member wrote
had not laughed all day

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: twirl on August 25, 2008, 02:24:37 PM

OMG
it is Aug 25
my wedding anniversary
we celebrated early
but still.....
when I was teaching I always got flowers at my school
I just thought of this day as I was writing the above post :shy;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: paris on August 25, 2008, 02:49:56 PM

It is easy to say things when you are tired and in pain.  Your husband knows you didn't mean it.  It is so hard to keep up a normal pace with this disease and then add worry on top of it--well, you are on overload.  Plus, you are missing school.    :grouphug;   


 Happy Anniversay!  August is a good month for anniversaries. Ours was the 20th. 

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: pelagia on August 25, 2008, 02:54:35 PM

It happens Twirl.  Maybe you can tell him that you are sorry in retrospect that you said that and explain how tired you felt at the time.  An apology doesn't always make things better, but it's always a good start in my book.  :cuddle;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Bajanne on August 25, 2008, 03:15:21 PM

Good advice from P and P!!!

Happy Anniversary!!!!  :2thumbsup;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Sunny on August 25, 2008, 03:23:35 PM

Just tell him your sorry and didn't mean it. Then explain how tired you become taking care of a 2 year old. Even an average healthy person can
become tired when caring for a 2 year old, and you have kidney disease on top of it all.

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: willieandwinnie on August 25, 2008, 03:44:45 PM

twirl,  :grouphug; :grouphug; :cuddle; :flower; :flower;

Give your husband a big hug and say your sorry. Then put it  :sir ken; you.

Happy Anniversary.  :cuddle;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: David13 on August 25, 2008, 03:48:29 PM

I am sure your hubby knows you didn't mean it, Twirl.  We all get tired and cranky sometimes.  If he loves you half as much as we all do, I am sure he has already forgotten it.   :cuddle;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: monrein on August 25, 2008, 03:48:56 PM

Feel better Twirl, say sorry and move on.  I'm sorry are two very frequent words at my house and I know I've said many things I've later regretted.  Hugs and smiles to you. :flower; :grouphug; :flower;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Joe Paul on August 25, 2008, 04:25:04 PM

Happy Anniversary twirl, I know its not a bunch of flowers, but its the thought that counts   :flower;  Many more Happy Anniversary's to you and your Hubby!!

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: pelagia on August 25, 2008, 05:11:19 PM

and I forgot to say HAPPY ANNIVERSARY   :guitar:

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: okarol on August 25, 2008, 05:32:11 PM

We all say things we shouldn't - just grab him and hug him and tell him "who's your favorite bitch?"
Just kidding, but these things happen. I hope you get past it & have a happy anniversary!  :bestwishes;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Ang on August 25, 2008, 05:57:00 PM

hey  cheryl


happy  anniversary
big  hug  usually  goes  someway  to  fixing  the  problem

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Sluff on August 25, 2008, 06:10:40 PM

Happy Anniversary. My wife says alot of mean things and never apologizes, but I still forgive her. So i'm sure if you apologize he will forget about it.  Do aologize though because I can honestly remember things and even though I forgave and looked past it rationalizing it out without the apology, I really don't know if she meant the things she said. Good luck.  :grouphug;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: del on August 25, 2008, 06:19:17 PM

Just hug him and tell him your sorry  :cuddle; He'll understand.  Happy Anniversary  :flower; :flower;  Celebrate as you've never celebrated before.  :rofl;  :flower;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: kitkatz on August 25, 2008, 06:30:19 PM

Hey Lady.   Sometimes the mouth gets a hold of me and I blather away at hubby.  I agree with what Okarol said.  Who loves ya baby? is a good question to ask him. Apologize and give him a big hug.

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: G-Ma on August 25, 2008, 06:30:57 PM

Happy Anniversary to both of you and everyone gave you great advice especially the apologize part.  Do apologize and then let it go, give a hug and dance awhile.
Love you
Ann


 :flower;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: TynyWonder on August 25, 2008, 08:33:40 PM

Happy Anniversary first of all!!!!   :bandance;

I was just going to throw my   :twocents; in here.  I KNOW I have said MANY regretful (probably on here already) things and I am a BIG card person and I LOVE to leave cards where friends/family will later find them.  Why don't you run out or even make a card apologizing and leave it in a place where he will later find it?   I bet that will make you and him both feel a little better. Just a thought is all..........but like everyone else has said........he may have already forgotten about it. 

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: twirl on August 25, 2008, 08:43:40 PM

thank you everyone
you are dear to me

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: twirl on August 28, 2008, 06:53:36 PM

we got the results tonight
our doc forgot to tell us she was going on vacation this week
she said we would know Tues and here it is Thurs night
another doc had to call us b/c we were upset about having to wait
my husband has no signs of cancer
but he does have emphysema
I'm not sure what that is----- fluid on lungs?
but no cancer
and thanks for all your posts-
made me feel better
cheryl

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: okarol on August 28, 2008, 06:57:54 PM

 :banghead; Vacation?? Jeeez!
I am so happy to hear there is no cancer!

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: G-Ma on August 28, 2008, 06:59:33 PM

 :yahoo; no cancer.  Sleep well tonight.

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Romona on August 28, 2008, 07:15:32 PM

I am happy too! No cancer is good news.  :2thumbsup;

I'm sure that wasn't the first time and won't be the last time you get mad at yourself.
We are all human and do the same thing.  :grouphug;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: pelagia on August 28, 2008, 08:55:44 PM

 :flower; the best news all day!

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Mimi on August 28, 2008, 11:08:44 PM

We all have been there, Twirl.  Just say the little prayer 'Lord keep your hand over my mouth.'
Happy Anniversary!!!!! and
Thank God it isn't cancer.

Love, Mimi

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: rose1999 on August 28, 2008, 11:19:24 PM

Hello Twirl, I am glad that he doesn't have cancer although emphysema can be quite nasty.  Does he smoke?  If so the please get him to stop straight away.   This link tells you all about it if you want to know more,  http://www.medicinenet.com/emphysema/article.htm  .
I hope things will go OK for him and that they can now stop it progressing, my friend's husband has it, he has an inhaler, he has had it for years and it seems stable.
Sending love to both of you and wishing for a good outcome  :grouphug;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Joe Paul on August 28, 2008, 11:20:52 PM

Thank God, no cancer  :thumbup;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: breezysummerday on August 29, 2008, 02:08:37 AM

"We all say things we shouldn't - just grab him and hug him and  ask   "who's your favorite bitch?"

This is a test
Please use blue ink only
(the marriage blues)
fyi u r my favorite b
...I adore you Twirl  ...... :cuddle;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: David13 on August 29, 2008, 09:25:34 AM

Twirl, I am so glad the tests weren't showing what you most feared.   :cuddle;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: twirl on August 29, 2008, 11:55:45 AM

David 13 - you are a good friend and you make me feel better
I just lose IHD losers  post losers

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: paris on August 29, 2008, 02:05:50 PM

So the doc is on vacation and you are sitting waiting to know if there is cancer?  Wow!   I am sorry for the extra days of worry you were put through.  But, I am thrilled there was no sign of cancer.  :thumbup;    Take a deep breath and enjoy the weekend together.   :cuddle;   

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Sunny on August 29, 2008, 02:06:57 PM

Yay! No cancer. That is the best news possible.
Emphysema can be dealt with. I wish him the best in learning how to.

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: monrein on August 29, 2008, 02:08:46 PM

You must both be very relieved.  Best of luck managing the emphysema.  :grouphug;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Ang on August 29, 2008, 08:19:47 PM

good news  on  the  cancer,


make  sure  you  check  about  the  emphysema,  it  can  turn  nasty if untreated.

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: twirl on September 03, 2008, 09:41:47 AM

this morning at D I got a call from the doc's office who wanted my husband to have the cat scan
she had been on vacation so her doc on call called us
she is saying everything is normal and there is nothing wrong
and the other doc says he as emphysema
so I think he should go view the xray himself and let one or the other doc explain it to him ???

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Joe Paul on September 03, 2008, 09:47:40 AM

Good luck Twirl, I hope the one Doctor is wrong, and your Husband is fine  :thumbup;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: thegrammalady on September 03, 2008, 11:59:33 AM

diagnosis is often nothing more than an "educated" (sheesh) game of russion roulette. by all means go have both doctors explain the x-ray. my prayers that you will find everything is alright.

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: willieandwinnie on September 03, 2008, 12:56:03 PM

Cheryl,  :cuddle; I hope you can get answers from both doctors that at least inform you correctly. Please give your hubby a big  :grouphug; from all of us.

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: monrein on September 03, 2008, 03:15:43 PM

I'm praying he has nothing at all and this was just a scare. :grouphug; 

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: David13 on September 03, 2008, 04:10:19 PM

Twirl, I think you should have them explain why one thinks there is nothing and one thinks there is emphysema.  I hope it really is nothing, but you deserve to know why there is such a difference of opinion between the two doctors.  :cuddle;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: Sluff on September 03, 2008, 06:48:11 PM

Although emphysema is no picnic it is better than the alternative. My well wishes for proper treatment and some relief.  :grouphug;

Title: Re: I said a most awful thing
Post by: twirl on September 05, 2008, 11:23:35 AM

so Sluff you are a naked toll ( see three words at a time)
thought I should warn you
and PM me your address
and thanks
but then his doc called and said there was nothing wrong
apparently the doc taking her calls made a mistake
we insisted on looking at the Xray and having it explained to us
we are going next wed on my husband's conference period
and I get to leave dialysis 30 minutes early