I Hate Dialysis Message Board
Off-Topic => Off-Topic: Talk about anything you want. => Topic started by: Rerun on July 27, 2006, 10:08:28 PM
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A guy that I use to work with lost his eldest daughter in a car wreck last Friday. I'm going to the services tomorrow.
You can read this if you want to:
http://www.legacy.com/Link.asp?Id=LS18604283X
Such a young lovely girl. Healthy. 18 years old. She was killed instantly. Her younger sister was in the pick-up but was unharmed.
I guess what I've been thinking is why didn't God just take me. I'm on a fricking machine and this young lady had a wonderful life a head of her. I know none of us know the answer and it was God's plan from the day she was born.
Tomorrow is going to be hard.
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My thoughts and prayers are with you Rerun!
And with the family and friends of this young lady.
May God be with you all at this difficult time.......
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That is a hard one. I read the notice and was really touched. It is sad, but as you said, we don't really know everything, so let us all leave in the hands of the One who does.
You have my sympathy as you grieve.
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Very sad. :'(
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My sympathies Rerun, I pray God will be with you and the family
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Sincerest condolences to you and the family, Rerun.
Mom 3
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I sometimes thought that way Rerun. After all my Godmother/Aunt died of Cancer and left an 18 year old daughter behind who is an only child. Here I am with no children .. But I guess my Aunt/God mother was in pain so it was probably for the best. But when it comes to car accidents .. they terrify me. My condolences. I don't know where I was heading with this .. but I am sorry.
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I know how you must feel just now Rerun, a loss of a young person in an accident ( Car Wreck) is very say :'(
I have ofter thought why them and not me. Seen so many young people die on dialysis, it hit me very hard :-\
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I'm not part of the family, I just use to work with her father. The part that hit me was the young healthy person gone and me hanging on a machine still here. The Good Die Young?
Thanks though~
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It is not just healthy people dying that effect me this way. When Jamie died it effected me as well because he was such an important part of community. I mean he did magic shows for the sick and disabled all over north America (all over Canada AND the States) and what do I do? I don't contribute to society at all. Yet HE is the one who died and I am still here. It effected me so much because he was born the same year as I. He was only 32 years old. He died and I had only begun to know him. He was such an amazing person. And he died from a simple blood clot and here I am ... almost died when I was 9, 16, 31 yet I am still here. Why? I have nothing to contribute to this world as much as Jamie already was.
People tell me I have a lot of contribute but I don't need to hear that! I am 32 and still am waiting to learn what I have to contribute. Telling me I have a purpose (my mom has been telling me that for many many years now) is besides the point! My point here is just that I understand the feeling of wondering why you are alive and barely living (only a machine keeping you alive) when others die that have so much still to accomplish and are so young and spirited. Sure Jamie in my case was on dialysis like me so not the same situation but still .. I was only talking about my life and that is the only person besides my Aunt who died from cancer that I have to talk about.
I have been around sick people since I was born so all the people I have lost have been sick. When I was between 9 and 16 a girl named MaryAnne died .. we were together sharing a room in the Children's Hospital in Toronto. I watched her dwindle away throughout the years and she was the first person close to me that I have known to die besides my Grandma (which I was in the hospital at 9 so I couldn't see her as she was dying). At the end MaryAnne was being taken around by her mom in a carriage even though she was my age about. She had kidney failure and cancer and fluid around her lungs. I have often asked myself, "Why am I still alive?" when all these other people die all around me.
All you can do is live one day at a time. There is really nothing anyone can say. Death is a mystery in itself and no one knows for sure where we go. It seems like such an end but I believe it is not. But still it is only natural to compare one's worth with someone else's who's life was prematurely extinguished.
(man I ramble on too much .. tell me to shut up already lol :-[ :-\)
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Dear Rerun,
I am soo sorry to hear about the loss. It is horrible that such a young life is taken with so much possibilities. On the "brighter" side I watched my dad die of lung cancer. I actually saw him take his last labored breath and his face became so peaceful. I learned at that moment life is so much worse than death. I hope that maybe in some twisted way this helps.
Melissa
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Condolences to you Rerun and the rest of her family and friends.
There is no sane answer, but I know most of us here would give our own life to bring her back if we could, but it just is not in our control. ???