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Title: how will u be remembered
Post by: keith on June 29, 2008, 09:27:54 PM
I was just thinking (i sometimes do that ) but this was one of the times i caught myself asking myself and i had to honestly think , if and when my time comes what will people remember me for ?

So i ask u what will u be remembered for?


I hope that I'm remembered for being a man that loved life starting with his kids and wife he would all ways but them first and he did right by them.My starting a support group .da kidney walk in dover honestly i would not want to be remembered for these things because they really don't tell who or what i was it says that i wanted to help my kids and wife will all ways carry my name on the support group and the walk may be 4gotten my wife and kids will make sure that my memories will live on through them
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: mcjane on June 29, 2008, 09:41:24 PM
I'm still thinking this one over.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: rose1999 on June 29, 2008, 10:58:00 PM
I'd like to be remembered as the person who got a local dialysis unit to save people like my Dad travelling an hour each way to clinic - it really knocks him about - I am trying but getting answers from the NHS is  :banghead;. though I won't give up and will fight to the last.

Apart from that I hope I'll be remembered as being a good Mum who loved her family more than anything else and someone who would help others - but I'll probably just be forgotten by most people  ;)
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Sluff on June 30, 2008, 05:02:24 AM
I'm not sure but the one thing I do know is when I turned 32 years old I had a reality check. I fgured I screwed up the first 32 years and I wasn't going to screw up the next 32 years. (Relationship wise.) I'll probably be remembered for having more month at the end of my money.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Romona on June 30, 2008, 09:26:32 AM
I hope I am not remember as a "Crazy Old Lady". I would like to be remember with laughter and happiness. I don't want people to remember because of the trials and tribulations in my life.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: flip on June 30, 2008, 10:29:07 AM
As a survivor with a sense of humor
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: twirl on June 30, 2008, 02:07:39 PM
As a survivor with a sense of humor


me too!
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: LightLizard on June 30, 2008, 02:20:11 PM
i don't think that i will be remembered, generally. i will be by my kids, i guess, and i've always treated them as equals, so i hope their memories of me are fond ones...
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Rerun on June 30, 2008, 02:29:41 PM
As a survivor with a sense of humor

me too!

Me Three!    :clap;
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: st789 on June 30, 2008, 02:51:03 PM
Spiritual.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: KR Cincy on June 30, 2008, 03:15:59 PM
unless I get my s**t together, it'll be "he was that fun guy who got sick and cranky and never got his spirit back."

that would suck...
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Ang on June 30, 2008, 05:02:38 PM
i  hope  i'm  remembered  as  a  person  who  gave  plenty  but  rarely  took  for  myself
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: monrein on June 30, 2008, 05:06:03 PM
Well, you're right on track for the first part Ang.   :guitar:
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Meinuk on June 30, 2008, 05:16:14 PM
Ok, I wasn't going to post in this thread - too morbid.

But, after reading the last two posts.  I have to post...

Ang, take a little for yourself.  You do give so much, but your life shouldn't be all about giving.  Take a few moments and think "what about me", and let those who love you do that.  Life is about finding the balance.  Not being selfless, sometimes,you have to be a little selfish.

And Kevin, you are allowed to be sick and cranky some of the time.  Your spirit is there, I've seen it.  Maybe it needs to come out to play a bit more, but it is there.  Stop selling yourself short.  (after all, you set the bar pretty high in the "sex on dialysis" thread!)

And as for me, how I'll be remembered, well, I'm just happy that I'll be remembered.  When we talked about my funeral non-plans (no funeral, just dump me in the boating pond at Kensington Palace), Robbie asked me to amend my will, so that he could have some of my ashes.  He wants to be able to take them out of  the cupboard every once in a while and remember the good times.  There are days when a sixteen year old boy can put your whole life in perspective.  And for that, I love him even more.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Ang on June 30, 2008, 05:31:56 PM
thank  you  meinuk for  your  kind  words,  but  i  guess  i'm  more happier  than  usual when  i'm  giving or  doing  something  for others,we  all  have  to live  with  our  disabilities :sarcasm;(aussie  sarcasm)
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Meinuk on June 30, 2008, 05:34:45 PM
Ang, you've done so much for people on these boards, I just want to make sure that someone is doing for you.

And Aussie sarcasm is encouraged.  That is a part of what makes IHD such a special place.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Treasure on July 01, 2008, 01:14:08 AM
I hope I will be remembered as the Supreme Goddess Bitch of the Universe...

...because that is totally who I am!

Oh, and I hope my boys will totally get that I was a kick-ass, if imperfect Mom, and that I really, truly, lived for them. I hope they will learn to be tenacious, because I certainly have modeled that for them.

And... absolute humility, too....can't you tell? hehehe.  :yahoo;
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: twirl on July 01, 2008, 06:06:03 AM
what Flip said and
 an awesome mom
a teacher who gave a damn
and a person who could pee with the best of them
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: KR Cincy on July 01, 2008, 06:10:05 AM
Anna...thanks for the kind words...nice knowing my old self still shines through sometimes...I often wonder if it's gone forever.

YOU inspire me with your perseverance, sense of humor and appreciation for life...I'm tyring to be more like you!
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: donnia on July 01, 2008, 10:02:55 AM
I hope I am remembered for the love I have for people.... all people... especially children. 

I have spent my whole adult life working with special needs children.  Most  of my  career has involved interpreting for deaf children.  Many interpreters have that "I am an interpreter not an aide" attitude. 

I never did. 

I would help everyone... all kids... teachers... cafeteria staff..... custodians... everyone. 

I actually had 2 of my previous students (no, not deaf students...students that were in "my" student's class) that were tested to be a donor for me!  Wow! I cannot tell you how that made me feel! 

My husband's best friend got a job at a saddle shop and came to my house after his first day.  He told me, "Donnia, I met someone who knows you, he said he wouldn't have graduated high school without you".  That made my day.  No, he wasn't deaf either... just another of the students that I helped out in class.  The children are our future.  I LOVE our children! 

First I want to be remembered as a great step - mother, wife, aunt ...... and a great educator of our youth.

But, I also hope I am remembered as having a love for all people, no matter where on the "totem pole" they fall.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: thegrammalady on July 01, 2008, 01:24:36 PM
by giving i receive. i learned a long time ago it's a matter of perspective when i complained to a friend who was giving me tomatoes from her garden, enough every couple of days to can tomato sauce, that she should let me do something for her, she was always doing for me. i only saw that i was getting tomatoes she only saw that she had so many she didn't want them to spoil and i was doing her a favor by taking them off her hands.

i hope i am remembered for being a "crazy old lady"

i have spent the last 2 years doing "things" with my grandchildren. i know that my grandmother got me something for each and every birthday and for every christmas, but i couldn't tell you what they were. what i remember are the things we did and the places we went.  chayton is spending 4 weeks with us this summer. last year for his birthday i took him to the circus. that's what i hope he remembers.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Deanne on July 01, 2008, 02:22:13 PM
It depends on who you ask.

If you ask my Mom, she'll probably tell you I was an ornery cuss who was just like her father.
If you ask my Dad, he'll tell you I was independent and intelligent. (I'm a daddy's girl, obviously!)
If you ask my siblings, they'll tell you I was the one who escaped the family dramas by moving away. (they're jealous!)
If you ask my friends, they'll tell you I was a crazy cat & dog lady.
If you ask my co-workers, they'll tell you I could be counted on to get things done.
If you ask my cats & dogs, they'll tell you to throw a ball and feed them.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: okarol on July 01, 2008, 02:35:18 PM

When I think of the person that I most admire, it's my grandma Lula.

She was a good wife, a great mother, and an incredible grandmother. She made me feel special and loved.

Somehow she made everyone feel as though they were "her favorite."

I hope I am remembered like she is, with love, devotion and respect.

It's a tall order.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: keith on July 02, 2008, 09:49:58 AM
I'd like to say  :thx; to everyone how replied to this and I'd like to say I'm sorry if i offend any one wit dis  but I'm very sure dat all of us has asked ourselfeves dat same ? on many different occasions @ one time in my live i was scared to ask myself dat ? cause i kept coming up wit da same old answer NOTHING , but since my transplant  i find myself coming up wit alot of different answers. I wanted to see how many different answers people had and i did. Now i find myself asking if i had it to do all over about making dis topic part of me says yes BUT majority of me says no so if i offend u but some of de topic and things da me say I'm sorry but dis is talk about anything dat u want.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: twirl on July 03, 2008, 03:24:47 PM
I am not offended by this topic, I think it is an appropriate topic by reading what everyone wrote, give you something to reflect about.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Bajanne on July 18, 2008, 12:16:29 PM
There is absolutely nothing wrong with this topic.  I remember once Kitkatz was considering starting a thread concerning our preparation for that time.  I wish she would do it.  It is something you know you should do, but you don't want to. But it makes everything easier for the ones who are left if we are prepared (to whatever extent one can really be prepared!)
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: LadyStardust89 on July 18, 2008, 05:27:30 PM
I would like to be remembered as the girl who made people laugh so hard they had to grab their stomach... And the one who dared to wear pearly pink glasses.. and WORK IT!(without looking like a crazy cat lady...)
I would like to be remembered as the girl who can read a 300 page book in no less than 3 days max...
The girl who went down in history for being responsible for the "seizure dance".
The coolest dork ever..
The girl who loves to play board games... especially Othello... and wins most of the time.
The girl who made it her purpose in life to help anyone who needs it...
The girl who was David Bowie's biggest fan.. and Can do a great interpretive dance to "Ziggy Stardust"... and most David Bowie  songs.
The girl make her gay stuffed llama lipsynce to Elvis Presley's "Are you Lonsome tonight?".. and make you think he is the king.
The girl Who told people her scars came from a A. fall off the Elephant she rode in the circus B. A fight with a lion in the circus C. A death defying stunt in a movie.. where she was to my a stand-in for a famous actress.. who's name is confidential.
The girl accepts her quirkiness with pride.. with no apologies.
and Lives everyday like the last... no regrets.  :bandance;
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: LadyStardust89 on July 18, 2008, 05:33:15 PM
I would like to be remembered as the girl who made people laugh so hard they had to grab their stomach... And the one who dared to wear pearly pink glasses.. and WORK IT!(without looking like a crazy cat lady...)
I would like to be remembered as the girl who can read a 300 page book in no less than 3 days max...
The girl who went down in history for being responsible for the "seizure dance".
The coolest dork ever..
The girl who loves to play board games... especially Othello... and wins most of the time.
The girl who made it her purpose in life to help anyone who needs it...
The girl who was David Bowie's biggest fan.. and Can do a great interpretive dance to "Ziggy Stardust"... and most David Bowie  songs.
The girl make her gay stuffed llama lipsynce to Elvis Presley's "Are you Lonsome tonight?".. and make you think he is the king.
The girl Who told people her scars came from a A. fall off the Elephant she rode in the circus B. A fight with a lion in the circus C. A death defying stunt in a movie.. where she was a stand-in for a famous actress.. who's name is confidential.
The girl accepts her quirkiness with pride.. with no apologies.
and Lives everyday like the last... no regrets.  :bandance;
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Chris on July 18, 2008, 05:50:10 PM
Hmmm, either of these will fit,

Who was he and I think we're in the wrong room. Bob must be at the other end of the hallway.

Who's going to help me with my computer problems now!

Wow, he made it this long, didn't know that was his full name.

Well we knew it was gonna hapen, but did he have to fall on the cat and kill him too!

So who's getting his CD collection?

And that's what comes to my mind. Nothing special, nothing fancy
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: mcjane on July 18, 2008, 10:14:16 PM
I want to be remembered as someone who devoted most of her life fighting for animal rights & my ongoing fight to outlaw leg traps & animals in laboratories.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: kitkatz on July 19, 2008, 03:42:52 PM
That crazy Katherine.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: okarol on July 20, 2008, 08:57:11 PM

I hope I am not forgotten.  :(
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Robby712 on July 20, 2008, 10:11:48 PM
unless I get my s**t together, it'll be "he was that fun guy who got sick and cranky and never got his spirit back."

that would suck...

Ouch.  That one hit close to home.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: Stacy Without An E on July 22, 2008, 03:27:00 PM
After reaching the ripe old age of 38, I was actually pondering this the other day.  More to the fact, am I really worth all the time and effort it takes to keep me alive on Dialysis?  Am I really making a positive contribution to life and society?  Do I truly deserve to remain alive?

In my career, I'd like to be remembered as somebody who made people's lives a little more joyous through my antics every weekday afternoon on the radio.

Personally, I'd like to be remembered as a good son, uncle, brother and friend who was loyal and giving until the day he died.

I also wouldn't mind being remembered as the sarcastic, off-color, occasionally hilarious individual who made people laugh and cringe simultaneously.
Title: Re: how will u be remembered
Post by: keith on July 22, 2008, 10:14:37 PM
after reading i just want to be remembered as a man dat spoke wat was on his mind
but i don't want people to be sad i want everyone to  be happy and joyous
i may be gone but don't be sad for me be happy cause I'm in a better place 
and i lived my life to da best dat i could and i enjoyed all of it