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Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: Spouses and Caregivers => Topic started by: WBMW on January 23, 2008, 05:46:39 AM
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On Monday the 7th Mom was in a lot of pain. She refused to allow me to take her to the hospital but two hours later my sister took her in. She had a heart attack. After several days in the hospital things were looking up and the plan was for her to come home on the 14th.
On the 12th we went to visit and mom was feeling really well. She looked great and we were laughing and planning on shopping the next day. She even called me later that evening to laugh some more on the phone.
On the 13th at 4:30 in the morning my sisters and I recieved a call to get to the hospital, she had had another heart attack. Then things just spun out of control. Her spleen burst and they could get her blood pressure stable and they couldn't do surgery because they couldn't do dialysis. On her way to the CAT scan my sisters and I did get to tell her we loved her and she told us she loved us too. She was from that point in and out of it.
She passed away peacefully at 5:29 p.m. The pain my heart felt at that moment was crushing. I lost my mom, friend, and hero in one second.
God bless her soul.
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I am so sorry for your loss. The pain of lossing a parent is unbelieveable. You are in my prayers.
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Oh honey. How devastating. It hurts so much. I am so glad you were able to let her know you love her, and she was able to let you know
that was well.
My prayers are with you and your family. :grouphug;
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So sorry for your family's loss. :grouphug;
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So sorry for your loss.... you and your family are in my prayers :grouphug;
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:grouphug; I'm so sorry.
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:'( Sending you deepest sympathy. :cuddle;
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I am sorry for you loss WBMW, and i am so glad you got to tell her you loved her before she passed. God Bless you and your family :grouphug;
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God bless her, you and all of your family. :grouphug;
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My deepest sympathy :grouphug;
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I am so sorry to hear about your lost, my thoughts are with you and your family
Kim
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I'm so sorry. :grouphug;
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My deepest sympathy for you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you. :grouphug;
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sorry for your loss :grouphug;
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mother. :grouphug; It's never easy to lose your Mom.
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My deepest sympathy to your family. :grouphug;
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My prayers go out to you and your loved ones.
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So sad to read this
My Deepest sympathy to you
and your loved ones :grouphug;
Anne
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I am so sorry. I am about the same age as your Mom - was 58 yesterday. My caring thoughts and prayers are with you. As Goofynina and others have said, it is good that you got to tell her that you loved her. I am praying for your continued strength as you deal with such a painful loss.
:grouphug; Please keep posting. Tell us about her homegoing service. We are still in this with you. :grouphug;
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Oh, I am sorry about your loss of your Mom.
You and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
May God comfort you and give you strength in the coming days.
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So sorry to hear about your loss. :grouphug;
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So sorry to hear about your loss. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.
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My sympathy to you and the family :grouphug;
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I'm sorry you lost your mom. :cuddle;
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So sorry to read about this. I'm glad to hear that your last day together was so joyful and that you all got to tell each other how much you're loved. Please keep in touch with us.
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so sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts and prayers are with you. so glad to hear you got to spend that last bit of time with her.
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My deepest sympathies for your loss.
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We made her a website
http://jennie-martinez-1951.memory-of.com/
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Thanks for sharing the website. I am your mother's age and I know how close I am to my children. Your heart must be breaking. I keep reminding my children that this is all harder on them than on me. They think they would be lost without me, but I know they are strong and will carry on. I know your Mother raised wonderful daughters and her legacy will continue through all of you. I pray you will always feel her presence and be filled with her love :cuddle;
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The poem made me cry but at the same time filled me with a sense of hope and peace . I pray that you too will feel that hope and peace. You are a special family. Sending love to all of you :grouphug;. Rose
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We were and still are all very close. My mom did an amazing job and I am forever thankful that she was in my life period. I miss her more than I could ever state and still feel this pain in my heart. I miss her so much.
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My eldest sister regreted that she didn't get an opportunity to say goodbye to my dad.
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Thanks for sharing the memorial website with us. I was able to get to know your Mom a bit better. I was particularly feeling this because she is the same age group as I am. May you continue to hold strong because of the wonderful memories that you have of her. :cuddle;
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I looked at the tribute you put together for your mom, and then I found your intro without meaning to. Both of our mom's had a lot in common. Mine passed seven years ago. I know how heartbreaking this is and I wish I could wave a magic wand to help you through the grieving process. But I can't. Instead, I'm going to just place you in my heart like so many others are doing here. :grouphug;
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
You will never get over the loss, you will just learn to live without her. My Mom has been gone for 12 years and I still miss her everyday.
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What a sweetheart your Mom was and I send you my deepest sympathy and prayers for you and your lovely family.
Joannie
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WBMW, that is a beautiful memorial page and I love the poem Her Legacy.
I copied this from her memorial page. I hope you don't mind.
Her legacy
When tomorrow starts without me
When tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things,
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind
All those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much left yet to do,
It almost seemed impossible
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for a while,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said, "This is eternity,
And all I've promised you.
Today your life on earth is past,
But here life starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last,
And since each day's the same way
There's no longing for the past.
You have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true.
Though there were times you did some things
You knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven
And now at last you're free.
So won't you come and take my hand
And share my life with me?"
So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I'm right here, in your heart.
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I'm so sorry for you loss.
I lost my Mom 26 years ago and I still miss her.
That poem is absolutely beautiful and so touching.
May God grant you strength and comfort and peace.
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I don't know how I missed this, but I did. There are no words of comfort when we lose a loved one. I know,
I have been there..Just know your sorrow and your loss are in my heart, too. My sympathy to all of your family.
In God's Love,
Mimi
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I am so sorry to hear of your mom passing. Your in my prayers!!!
Lori/Indiana