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Off-Topic => Off-Topic: Talk about anything you want. => Topic started by: paddbear0000 on December 30, 2007, 05:32:52 AM
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My grandmother wasn't able to make it to my mother's house for Christmas this year, so my husband and I decided to drive up to NY to surprise her the day before yesterday. She had broken her leg and was in a rehab center. She was in great spirits and lively when we surprised her Friday night, and looked good. Her leg was healed too. The only reason she hadn't left yet was because she had no appetite and wasn't eating. The next thing we know, my Uncle (we were staying at his house) gets a call at 6 Saturday morning from the rehab center saying my Grandmother was in the hospital! Apparently she had had a heart attack at around 2:30 in the morning. Her brain was deprived of oxygen for almost half an hour by the time the ambulance got to the hospital. We immediately went to the hospital to see her in ICU, but she was unresponisve. The doctor said she had no brain activity and had no idea what was going on. They were using the max amount of medication they can give to keep her blood pressure up, but it was still only 64/26! My Uncle had to sign the DNR order. They stopped all her IV drugs, but left her breathing tube in. She passed away within the hour while we sat there and watched. It was one of the most painful experiences I have ever been through in my life! We just can't understand what happened. She was in great shape. She swam at the YMCA and went to the gym up until she broke her leg. She planned on starting again as soon as she got out of the rehab center. Right now, I'm just devastated because we were very close and so much alike!!! I just don't know what to do!
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So sorry for your loss.
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Try to take comfort from the fact that you were with her at the end (and whatever the Doctors say, she knew you were there) and try to remember the good times.
Thinking of you at this sad time and sending love,
Rose
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Grandmothers are special guiding lights in our life. I still miss mine. She loved me unconditionally and treated me with so much love and kindness. I am sorry for your loss. How fortunate you were to have been able to visit with her before. I am sure that she was so pleased to spend time with you and now you have that wonderful memory.
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:grouphug; i'm so sorry that you lost your grandmom. you are very fortunate that you got to spend some time with her before she passed. be glad that she is now in a better place.
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Sorry for your loss, its is hard when you lose someone abruptly like that. My own grandma passed away in a similar circumstance. Take comfort in the fact that she was not alone, and hopefully had no idea she was going to die.
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Such a hard thing to go through, but during a celebration, it's that much harder. And when it's
someone so close and so dear, well, words can't describe it.
I am so sorry for your loss. I grieve for you, and for your family. She sounds as if she was just such
a wonderful, wonderful woman in your life.
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I am so sorry. I could tell by your posts that you were excited to spend time with her. :grouphug;
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So sorry for your family. :grouphug; At least you got to visit her before she passed away. It is very hard when someone you love dies and even harder when it is during a holiday. My mom died on the 19th of Dec. this year.
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So very, very sorry to read about your beloved
Grandmother's passing. Please try to take comfort
with the fact that you got to visit with her.
Sending prayers your way,
Anne
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When my grandmother died I thought I could never enjoy anything ever again, the sadness was so overwhelming. She was linked to my soul, she was the most important person in my life. I am so grateful for all the years we had together. A couple months after she died I found out I was pregnant. It was just like Grandma to send me something to cheer me up. When my son James was born he had her smile. She died 20 years ago and I still miss her. I am so sorry about your loss. Sending {{HUGS}} to you.
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Thinking of you at this sad time :cuddle;
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Sad news, my condolences to you and your family :grouphug;
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I'm sorry Paddbear. I know it's painful to lose a loving member of your family. I'll be thinking about you. Take care.
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Oh Paddlbear, I am so sorry. :grouphug; :grouphug; My thoughts and prayers are with you. You will treasure her in your heart always. :cuddle;
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So sorry for your loss. :grouphug;
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So sorry for your loss. It is hard to lose someone at any time but especially during the holidays. I am so glad that you were able to see your Grandmother before she left.
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Paddbear, I'm so sorry. Though it is a wonderful thing that you drove up there to see her when you did. Who knows, perhaps she was waiting to see you first, even if she didn't know it.
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I am so sorry....
Beth
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:cuddle; Hoping you are able to find comfort and peace. God Bless you, your grandma and all of your family. I am sorry for your loss :grouphug;
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God bless you and your grandmother during your time of grief.
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:grouphug; I know you are so glad you took the time and made the effort to go see her. I'm sure she enjoyed your visit. I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug;
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sorry for your loss
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Mere words can not express the sadness felt when we lose a loved one .
Please think back to the joy your Grandmother must have had in her the day you visited her .
My condolenses to you and your family .
Katonsdad and family.
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i have a little stitchery piece that says "when god closes a door, he opens a window" grandmothers are very special people, the time you were able to spend with her, a blessing, memories to be cherished and what she "taught" you one day to be passed on.
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My prayers are with your family. When passing happens so suddenly it is both unbelievable and shocking. As Black said, take comfort that she knew how much you loved her.
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Paddbear,
So sorry to hear of your loss hon. Will keep you and your family in my prayers!
Lori/Indiana
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I'm sorry! :grouphug;
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I know how you feel. I was very close to both of my grandmothers and it was like a chunk had been cut out of my
heart when I lost them. In time the festering wounds will begin to heal and beautiful golden memories will take
their place. My prayers are with you. This will be a hard, sad time for you. Trust God to help you through.
Much Love,
Mimi
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So sorry for your loss :( :grouphug; :cuddle;
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Paddbear, how are you doing? I am sure this has been a very hard week for you. Take care of yourself during this time.
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Paddybear- We are so sorry to hear of your loss.
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Thanks to everyone for all of your kind words. Sorry I haven't been around much to respond, but I just haven't been in much of a mood to get on the computer, especially to read this post. I've gotten on a few times just long enough to post something on IHD here and there, but would quickly lose interest. I just read everyone's replies, and now I wish I had been keeping up! You all have made me feel so much better. Thank you so much. :cuddle; :cuddle; :cuddle;
We leave tomorrow for her funeral in NY and will be back on Saturday. I'm not sure if my husband will have his laptop, so I may or may not be around til next weekend.
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Padd, it is very understandable that you haven't been posting, I'm glad you let us know that you are okay.
Just remember, we will be thinking of you as you attend her funeral.
For now, take the time to grieve, to remember your grandma. Remember the good times, how close you two were (and are).
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Thanks Anne. I'm still having a lot of trouble accepting this. I was unpacking our bags from the trip yesterday and found the gift box she had put a gift card in for us for Christmas. I turned it over and saw her writing on the gift tag and lost it. I'm going to be a complete mess at her funeral Friday morning. :'(
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You will be reminded often of her often. Mine has been gone over 20 years. I think of her so much. I was at Christmas Mass and heard one of her favorite hymns. We all love you and are here for you. :grouphug;
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I never knew my grandmothers - my parents had me when they had already started having grandchildren! I only just knew my paternal grandparent until I was about 9. But I do understand your pain. I shared my daughter's pain when my parents died. Just this morning we were remembering my mother who died in 2000 and my daughter had a meltdown.
However, memories are very special things. Hold on to your memories forever. :cuddle;