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Off-Topic => Off-Topic: Talk about anything you want. => Topic started by: kitkatz on May 26, 2006, 03:08:47 AM
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My 60 year old husband was working on one of the garbage truck's pieces today when he had an accident. He had taken out a truck's packing blade (No idea what it looks like, either.). It is a heavy piece of equipment. Put it on chains and began to hoist it up to get a good look at it. Something went snap and it fell on top of him. It crushed his lower left leg, creating a compound fracture and smashing nerve and blood vessels to the foot.
He went into surgery at six in the evening and was out by ten O'Clock into recovery. I finally got to see him around 11:30p.m. They amputated his left leg below the knee. No way to save the leg. It would have been dead and a problem for him.
I got home around 3a.m. this morning . I have NO idea how I feel about all of this.
Dear God, What did we ever do to you?
Katherine
EDITED:Edited title to update post-kitkatz,moderator
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Katherine,
Do not know what so say, it must be like an nightmare for you. All we renal patients go through a lot, and now you have your husband. Who will have the shock of losing his lower leg. Just remamber All Renal Patients never give up!! I am sure your Husband and you (Katerine) we get through this together. Just another hurdle to get over, of many already got over.
Remember we are always here for you. Hope it all goes well for your Husband, plus he is up and around very soon. Has I keep getting reminded, a lower leg amputation, if any, is one of the best for being able to learn to walk again.
Both of you will be in my thoughts.
Kevno
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Thanks Kevno. I will keep everyone updated as our little nightmare continues over here.
Katherine
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Katherine,
So sorry to hear about your husbands accident. Hope the amputation heals well and he is up walking on a prothesis soon. Thinking of you both. Ginger
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So sorry to read this Kat... it must be a nightmare for you both.. saying a prayer for you and your hubby.. :-*
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Kat I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.
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You are in my prayers! Here we expect something to happen to us daily and a normal healthy person has this accident. I'm so sorry for both of you. May you find strength through this transition.
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Thank you for your prayers and thoughts.
Katherine
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Saw the hubby twice today. Before dialysis and after. They put him on a pain pump to help with the after effects. He is having a hard time adjusting mentally, but we will GET through this somehow. (Oh boy. My own personal hell.) I feel like I am going to crack from stress, and if one more person asks
How can I help? If there is anything I can do? Call me.
How are you holding up?
I may run screaming from them. I know people mean well, but there is really nothing you can do in this situation.
The mayor of San Bernardino sent a plant and called him to wish him well. Should have made sure the chains in the shop were up and running and safe before it happened! Sorry. He has worked for the City for 26 years as a heavy equipment mechanic. Eighteen months till retirement. You could say he gave near all.
Told him today he could tell people he was injured in the WWGT: War with the Garbage Truck. :-* Sorry the morbid sense of humor pops out right now. I am in a daze and coping a day at a time. Thanks for the thoughts and prayers.
Katherine
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Oh man Kitkatz, I just now read this thread, I'm sorry to hear what happened. You mentioned about the chains being up and running? Was that the cities fault? Should you talk to an attorney? I mean if it was negligence on the cities part (which is probably why the plant and call from the mayor) losing a leg could be a very big amount of money, VERY big.
- Epoman
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So very sorry for your husband's terrible accident, Kit! How very, very unfortunate for him that retirement was only 18 months away!
Sometimes we just don't know why ~ bad things happen to good people! It would be a very difficult transition to wake up and all things are normal and the next day your life has been changed in such a way! May you both find the strength to face the new challenges in your future. My best wishes go out to both of you! Dee
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I am currently looking for a good workman's comp and injury lawyer. Anyone got a number out there in So. CA.? I want a shark who will circle the city and make them pay up through the nose. I already know we are going to have to rent a car and the city will have to pay for it. The car we have will not fit a wheelchair or him comfortably. If I blather on and on here just tell me to knock it off. I am off to find the amputee boards and get some help there.
Night all.
Katherine
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Feel free to blather on all you want. I've been thinking of you and hubby since you posted this. He's lucky he has you.
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I am currently looking for a good workman's comp and injury lawyer. Anyone got a number out there in So. CA.? I want a shark who will circle the city and make them pay up through the nose. I already know we are going to have to rent a car and the city will have to pay for it. The car we have will not fit a wheelchair or him comfortably. If I blather on and on here just tell me to knock it off. I am off to find the amputee boards and get some help there.
Night all.
Katherine
This is your site, you talk as much as you want/need. That's why this section is called Off-Topic, anything goes. In fact I wish more people would post in off-topic since it keeps our mind off dialyisis. ;)
- Epoman
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Victor was able to get up out of bed early this morning and go to the bathroom with some assist. I teased him as I sponged bathed him this morning. It was a struggle watching him try to get up. Oh Geez! It is going to be quite a recovery process for both of us. I am worried about how he is going to cope at home. They are saying they will let him out of the hospital tomorrow. We need some equipment for the bathroom and for him to use here at home. With it being Memerial Day weekend things are closed. I need to talk to the social worker and the risk management people and get some needed things before he comes home. I am going to need some in home help too. If he falls I cannot help pick him up. Worry, worry, worry.
Katherine
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Kat, you make them keep him a few more days until you get things in order. Don't let him shit. They won't let you go home until you shit.
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True Rerun True!
You all will just NOT believe what happened today,. I am visiting my hubby in the hospital at Loma Linda when my brother in law walks in to the room and says: "I know you don't need any more bad news, but...your sister fell off of her brand spanking new recumbent bicycle and looks like she broke her ankle. Mom is on her way to the hospital and wants you to come."
So I leave one crisis hospital bed, and run over to another emergency room in time to see them set my sister's foot for the second and third times. I was with her in the ER until 10:30 tonight then had to go on a three town search for an all night pharmacy. Ended up in San Bernardino near the other end of town at a Walgreens till past midnight. Finally got home at 1 a.m. I have no idea how the hubby is. When I left him tonight he was eating dinner and recovering from a pain shot. They are giving Toredal (sp.)for his pain to wean him off of the narcotics like morphine.
I think Memorial Day Weekend 2006 is one for a memoir! I know I won't forget it soon!
Katherine
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I went to see the hubby today and stayed for a little while. I think I chickened out on him at the hospital and came home. They are still trying to get him to go pooh. I told him what Rerun recommended and he laughed. He is living in fart city, but no real stuff yet. (What a post! huh!). My
sister is up and around today. I talked to her this morning. She is not looking forward to surgery on her ankle. I am tempted to put her and Victor in the same room and let them recover together.
I walked down to the neighbors house two door's down and asked in their kid could come mow the lawn. Interesting conversation. The neighbor is an LVN and offered to help if I need anything when he comes home.
Doctor said it looks like tomorrow they will send him over to rehab facility to continue his recovery. I was getting into a panic if they were going to send him home. On a holiday weekend? No supplies or nothing even mentioned to me. So we shall see what is going to happen. I am going to give him a call and tell him I love him again.
God, I miss having him around the house. Now I am crying, oh well...
Katherine
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When I broke my hip, then a week later my second hip, I was full of so much pain meds, that I could not go to the bathroom for 9 days. So you could literally say I was full of shit. >:D
- Epoman
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Doctor said it looks like tomorrow they wills end him over to rehab facility to continue his recovery. I was getting into a panic if they were going to send him home. On a holiday weekend? No supplies or nothing even mentioned to me. So we shall see what is going to happen. I am going to give him a call and tell him I love him again.
Anytime one of my family members was sent from hospital to rehab they actually stayed in the rehab place - hopefully it will be the same with your hubby.
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They are going to send hubby to a rehab center until he can better cope with everyday demands and heals more. I miss him at home.
Katherine
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I know you miss him, but now is your chance to get your home ready. Ask what he will need. Maybe a ramp up to the house? Maybe a booster toilet seat? I don't know, I'm just brain storming. ???
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Boy thats just terrible kitkatz. You sound like one strong lady. My thoughts are with you and yours.
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Well...let's see...the craziness continues... No bad news today!
The hubby will be going to Rehab unit tomorrow. I saw him today amid stayed a while with him. We got out in the wheel chair and ran around the basement of the hospital OOOH! Scary! No one down there but the engineers and docs. The he went back to bed and I came home. He is feeling better. We met the case manager today and she will be managing his case for the city and Loma LInda and the insurance. He is to get 3/4 pay with no taxes on it. Should make life interesting around here. Luckily my pay has gone up this year. Well..I am off the beddy bye. I am exhausted and have dialysis tomorrow afternoon.
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That's great news about his pay! I hope that is able to relieve a little of your stress in a time like this. Still thinking of you guys.
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I hate my life!
I hate this crap!
I hate having the hubby in the rehab facility.
I really hate not having him with me!
I hate having to leave him every night.
I hate everything about this situation!
Hate it hate it hate it!!!
Did I say I hate it?
Katherine
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I am in a better mood this morning. Last night I felt like crap. I had had a run in with an assistant principal at school and ended up in tears over something stupid. Felt pretty lame. Today I have to go apologize and make it right.
They put Victor into the rehab facility. He will have physical therapy twice a day. They fitted him for a wheel chair so he can be up and around most of the day. He looked tired yesterday. but looked okay. It is going to be a lot of work for him to learn how to walk and do things for himself.
I am off to work now.
Katherine
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Nothing like taking the road less traveled. Please try to take care of yourself. In times like these people have a tendency to forget themselves in the shuffle of helping others. I think thats why my mom's illness took her life when it did because she was so busy trying to help dad. After he died she started to pay more attention to herself but too late. Not trying to be morbid I'm trying to help as best I can through a keyboard.
Highest respect to you and your husband kitkatz.
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I hate my life!
I hate this crap!
I hate having the hubby in the rehab facility.
I really hate not having him with me!
I hate having to leave him every night.
I hate everything about this situation!
Hate it hate it hate it!!!
Did I say I hate it?
Katherine
Just think of all the places you and your husband will travel too, when you get a vulture (lawyer) and sue the pants off the city. Life will get better. Some don't believe it, but I believe everything happens for a reason. I am not down playing your husband losing a leg, not one bit. But I know when I broke both of my hips, that started changing everything in my life for the better. :o well after 4 months of laying in a hospital bed and having my wife wipe my butt. :( then things started to get better. The good things that have happened to me would never have happened, if not for me breaking my hips. I'm STILL in a wheelchairr almost 6 years later, but i would do it ALL over again (break my hips) :o
- Epoman
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Kikatz,
I just wanted you to know that I am standing with you in this. It is hard sometimes to be able express sympathy when someone is going through as challenging a situation as you have been asked to face. But I feel your inner strength and I know you will come through.
God is not against you - He is for you, and He will make it all clear to you, if you let Him.
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By the way the city weighed the garbage truck packing blade that fell on the hubby. It weighed in at 2300 pounds. Oh Hell!
I saw him today. He was up and about in the wheel chair. He has had several visitors so far and even the ex-wife's family has said hello. That is really weird, because he has not heard from some of them in over 26 years. We have been married over twenty years and never heard word one from that family! He has been really nice about it, too. (I want to yell hypocrites at them, and other names, but I just shut my mouth.)
He looks good. He says he feels pretty good. The nueropsychologist was on the way to see him when we left today.
I took the day off. I could not TAKE anymore! I paid bills. Ran errands he needed run. Went to WalMart and bought him some clothing he needed. All I seem to do is run from one place to another.
I get up, go to work, go see him, run errands, go to dialysis, then go see him, then fall into bed and sleep pretty soundly
Katherine
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Katherine,
Still a bit of a shock what as happened to you husband Katherine. The way the have posted, he seems to be getting through the ordeal, as well as can be expected. You and yours husband are going through so much just now. Here's me, just can not decide what to do. When your husband had no choice. Keep waving that big stick.
Yours
Kevno
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I keep waving the big stick, only now I have people to wave it at. The hospital crew he has seem to be really working towards getting him home. A timeline has not been established for when he comes home. The grapeviners say 10 days to 4 weeks. He looks good and is keeping a good attitude. I saw him this morning. I bought him a card that says:
Things people say to cheer you up:
1. Look on the bright side
2. Things could be worse.
3. Hey, it's not so bad!
Things you can say back to them:
1. shut up
2. shut up
3. shut up
I may keep this one and not give it to him. It expresses my feelings towards this!
I have 10 days of school left to work this year. I only have to go through NINE more with the 6th graders. I am moving them ALL up to seventh grade. Good luck to them.
Then I am going to play chauffeur to the husband when he come home. Then it is back to work July 28 or 29th. It will be a new group of sixth graders coming in to me.
Thanks for the support, prayers and good wishes. I am trying to stay not crazy!
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The things we mark progress by are funny.Yesterday he got from the wheelchair to the bed on his own and back again. He got hollered at by the nurse for doing it on his own, but he felt good about it. He says he had to figure out how to pee again in the wheelchair. Oh the conversation was a fascinating one. I won't go into details here. ;D So life continues here.
Katherine
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LOL Kat, I can imagine. :o ;D
Good for him for taking control. Still thinking of you guys.
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Katz you and your husband are in my thoughts. Hope things are getting better.
Sluff
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Things are getting better. We both have tons of questions for people but can't seem to get the people to sit and talk to us. I am still working. School gets out in SIX days. Hallelujah! I am going to need this break like I never needed one before! I had serious chest pain at 11 this morning. I went home from school at 12:15 and was at dialysis by 1:15. I sure had fluid on me and got it off. I did not realize changing my cup changed the fluid intake so drastically the past few days. Wow! 5 kilos in two days! No wonder I hurt! Anyway I feel better.
They are saying Victor will come home on Thursday. I am pushing for Saturday so I am out of school all the way. I cannot miss Thursday. It is the last day of school! That would be bad.
Katherine
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Be carefull with your Fluid, you do not need to make yourself more ill than you already are. Nice to see all seems well will your husband. But remember take care of yourself too ;)
Kevno
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Is he home yet?
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I work hard right now to remind myself to take care of me. I think the chest pain my body's way of slowing me down and reminding me that stress can kill.
Victor is doing better. He is much stronger and moves from the wheelchair to bed much more confidently. He uses the restroom without help. He has friends who can help do construction for us as needed so he can come home. We are going to have to remodel a bathroom. The doors are only 22 inches across into the bathroom. No access for a wheelchair. What a pain in the butt it all is.
They want to send him home next week but have done nothing to help out at our house. Is this going to happen overnight or what?
Oh well.
Katherine
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Nevermind, I see you were talking about next week. Good for him he's becoming more able. Maybe you can use this re-modeling as an excuse to redecorate the bathroom?? ;D Just say, well while we were pulling everything apart, we might as well replace that tile.
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Oh you bet. I am going for the gusto with these people! Medical supplies are to be arriving today sometime soon. Also the people who are to install grabrails are to be on their way tomorrow between ten and 2. Victor should come home on Saturday! Hurray! Three weeks and two days after the accident. Not a bad recovery time. A week in hospital and two weeks in rehab. He will still have therapy and will be seeing a lot of docs throughout the next months, but at least he will be home with me.
Now all we gotta do is get used to the equipment, wheelchair, walker, crutches, bathchair, and etc.... And of course the public when we go out. This should prove to be a very interesting time for both of us. You know I will update you all. I hang out here a lot!
Katherine
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Oh you bet. I am going for the gusto with these people! Medical supplies are to be arriving today sometime soon. Also the people who are to install grabrails are to be on their way tomorrow between ten and 2. Victor should come home on Saturday! Hurray! Three weeks and two days after the accident. Not a bad recovery time. A week in hospital and two weeks in rehab. He will still have therapy and will be seeing a lot of docs throughout the next months, but at least he will be home with me.
Now all we gotta do is get used to the equipment, wheelchair, walker, crutches, bathchair, and etc.... And of course the public when we go out. This should prove to be a very interesting time for both of us. You know I will update you all. I hang out here a lot!
Katherine
Oh and the people WILL stare, that's guaranteed. :-\
- Epoman
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I brought him home today. Hurray! I am so happy. He made it into the house. He has even been on the computer already. We are slowly getting the house together and finding our way around.
Katherine
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YEA KAT AND HUBBY!!!
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Kat,
So glad to hear you have your husband back home! Things are always better when you are together. How long before he is fitted with a prothesis? 3-6 months? Anyway glad he's home.
Ginger
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Katherine,
Happy to here your Husband is back home. He seems to have done really well after the accident. I hope I do as well with my operation. Your Post about your husband have been a real help to me in making my mind up to have the operation. He as done so well, plus he is now home, which must be great. Seeing Surgeon next week. Have no choice but to say "yes" to the operation. I have let it drag on for too long, three months.
Thinking of you both,
Kevno
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I am so happy that your husband is back home. My prayers are with you both. And Kevno, you know that our thoughts are with you as you have made this serious decision. As the French say, BON COURAGE et BON SUCCES!!!
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Thank you for the well wishes.
This group has been a strength for me these past three weeks. I know that when I am down someone is always here.
Katherine
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I brought him home today. Hurray! I am so happy. He made it into the house. He has even been on the computer already. We are slowly getting thehouse together and finding our way around.
Katherine
Hooray! Glad to get good news.
My brother-in-law had his lower leg amputated a few years ago (Buerger's disease) and has adapted quite well. His final prosthesis was a huge improvement over the temporary one, so tell your hubby not to get discouraged when the time comes for the first prosthesis -- it does get much better!
Lorelle
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I'm glad you are home and getting settled. It has been a long haul, but glad he is doing so well.
And - Kevno, glad you made your decision. As the Pig Latins say - OodGa Uckla ;D
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Kevno- Best of Luck to you. Hope things workout your way.
Kitzkat- WooHoo glad things are working out, welcome home to your better half.
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I found out I can lift the wheelchair up into the back of the station wagon. I lift with my right arm and swing with the hips. Thank God they brought a lite one to us. I am not sure I could have lifted a non-lite one.
We went out to dinner last night. Victor ran into old work friends at the restaurant for the first time since this all happened. These people went white as a sheet when they saw him come in there in the wheelchair. The wife almost burst into tears. Victor went over and talked to them a bit, then after dinner they popped over to us and we must have talked for an hour.
Then we went grocery shopping. Luckily Stater Bros. has wide aisles and a good setup so no problems with the wheechair. Although they now make you parade down to the middle of the store if you need wheelchair access to the store. They used to have it open at the ends of the check out counters. I felt a little obvious last night when we trekked through there.
It was good to do something normal finally like grocery shopping and eating out. We are learning new things all the time while we cope with all this stuff.
Katherine
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Best of luck to you Kevno. You know we'll be thinking of you.
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I found out I can lift the wheelchair up into the back of the station wagon. I lift with my right arm and swing with the hips. Thank God they brought a lite one to us. I am not sure I could have lifted a non-lite one.
We went out to dinner last night. Victor ran into old work friends at the restaurant for the first time since this all happened. These people went white as a sheet when they saw him come in there in the wheelchair. The wife almost burst into tears. Victor went over and talked to them a bit, then after dinner they popped over to us and we must have talked for an hour.
Then we went grocery shopping. Luckily Stater Bros. has wide aisles and a good setup so no problems with the wheechair. Although they now make you parade down to the middle of the store if you need wheelchair access to the store. They used to have it open at the ends of the check out counters. I felt a little obvious last night when we trekked through there.
It was good to do something normal finally like grocery shopping and eating out. We are learning new things all the time while we cope with all this stuff.
Katherine
Yeah just wait till start finding all of these little obstacles that able bodied people take for granted. I have been places that are NOT wheelchair friendly at all. >:( Best of luck and I won't say "don't worry you get used to it" because you don't >:(
- Epoman
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No, you never get used to it. I helped a friend out who was temporarily in a wheelchair due to an ankle injury a few years back. There were some stores we went into regularly as ablebodied people that her wheelchair could not get into. Aisles were blocked and if you knocked it over people got mad. I got angry in one store and told the cashier how uncomfortable it was for my friend to get around. She could have cared less. I am going to be very outspoken when I find these things happening with my hubby and I. It should not be hard to go anywhere, especially in these United States. We have so much already. I will carry that big stick Kevno is always teasing me about and shout at a few people. >:D
Katherine
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No, you never get used to it. I helped a friend out who was temporarily in a wheelchair due to an ankle injury a few years back. There were some stores we went into regularly as ablebodied people that her wheelchair could not get into. Aisles were blocked and if you knocked it over people got mad. I got angry in one store and told the cashier how uncomfortable it was for my friend to get around. She could have cared less. I am going to be very outspoken when I find these things happening with my hubby and I. It should not be hard to go naywhere, especially in these United States. We have so much already. I will carry that big stick Kevno is always teasing me about and shout at a few people. >:D
Katherine
Good for you! >:D :)
- Epoman
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kitkatz,
Yes, that bit Stick and the Karate Chop. So people who cross you better watch out or else :o
Kevno
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News Flash! Hubby went back into the hospital tonight to have the dead skin on his stump removed. They put a vacuum bandage on it with a pump. New technology that is supposed to help the wound heal faster. He is supposed to be home Monday??? We shall see.
I spent the afternoon with him and he went to surgery around 8:30, out by ten. He was doing okay when I left him in his room around 11:30 tonight.
This is hard!
Katherine
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News Flash! Hubby went back into the hospital tonight to have the dead skin on his stump removed. They put a vacuum bandage on it with a pump. New technology that is supposed to help the wound heal faster. He is supposed to be home Monday??? We shall see.
I spent the afternoon with him and he went to surgery around 8:30, out by ten. He was doing okay when I left him in his room around 11:30 tonight.
This is hard!
Katherine
That just sounds wrong. "Stump".
- Epoman
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Yes it does. Shall we think of another name for it. Above the knee prosthetic area???
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Yes it does. Shal we think of another name for it. Above the knee prosthetic area???
How about his "Remaining limb", let's test it.
1) "News Flash! Hubby went back into the hospital tonight to have the dead skin on his stump removed."
2) "News Flash! Hubby went back into the hospital tonight to have the dead skin on his remaining limb, removed."
I'm voting for number 2.
- Epoman
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Sounds like they went after the other leg, you know the remaining limb. Seeing as he ain't got the other one! LOL
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Sounds like they went after the other leg, you know the remaining limb. Seeing as he ain't got the other one! LOL
::) OK, OK,
How about "stump"
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I was thinking in the shower today that we make a hell of a superhero pair
Dialysis Woman
The One Foot Wonder
Off to save the world. OOPS! Got to go to dialysis: says Dialysis Girl.
Hop, hop, hop...The One Foot Wonder watched her go...
Stay tuned for the continuing adventures of us!
Katherine
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Well it is morning and here I am all alone again in my big old house! I am feeling sorry for us today, for me and the hubby. He was asking why me yesterday under his breath as he lay in the hospital bed and groaned in pain. I hate it. I already do not like hospitals, but to have him in again really, really sucks. I am on a rant be warned! I went to see him yesterday before I went to dialysis. I sat with him for a few hours. He was hurting and I made him ask for pain meds. He tries to tough it out like a tough man, but I always am asking what his pain number is from 1 to 10 and I make him ask for meds. He will wait until his pain is in the 8s then ask. I told him that was dumb and to catch the pain when it starts. It does not have to hurt! Although I do understand his thinking. I am the same way. I do not ask for pain meds often. I have to be half way out of my mind to ask for them. I should follow my own advice.
My hubby is a silly tough old guy.
I am expecting friends to come over and cut grass and clean the yard up. I am allergic and get sick if I mow the grass. Actually it is weeds now that California has hit the hots. Supposed to be 104 today here. Get out the ice! Luckily I do have friends that will help out. Now if I can just get one to bring me a home cooked meal now and then. I would live on freezer food if the sodium was not so damn high on the meals. My daughter and I were looking at frozen food one day and found a Hungryman dinner with 1600 mg of sodium in it and it fed one person! Yee Gads! Be careful what you pull up out of the frozen section to eat.
I feel better. Thanks for letting me ramble on and on.
Katherine
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I am back and damn if it ain't more news!
Hubby called me at 11:50 this evening. Seems the infectious disease doctor was by and it looks like there may be infection in his stump on the leg near the bones. This means keeping the vacuum pump on the wound for several weeks and antibiotics started. They will probably have to do some kind of heavy duty antibiotics to him requiring a catheter placement into his arm. I am not looking forward to this. It looks like a few more days in the hospital for him. I am not happy at all.
To top it all off tonight I am itching all over like a rash. Itch, itch, itch! I have taken two benadryl and am waiting for them to help stop it soon. I figured since the hubby bugered up my worry mechanism I could write about it here. My typing suck and I am tired. but worried. Worry gremlins are on my shoulder tonight whispering their sweet nothings to me.
A Catholic priest stopped in and saw the hubby in the hospital today and gave him a pamphlet that told him he should take his pain with "grace and goodwill" because in doing so, because God gave him the pain, he participates in the blessings of" El Senor" on the cross. I have not figured out why God would give you pain to enjoy! I have a God who is a loving God. Pain is often inflicted by ourselves to ourselves. In hubby's case it was a stupid accident that crushed his leg. I do NOT think God sent angels to tip the blade over. The guardian angels probably took a hit trying to throw him as much out of the way as they could. And then there is me, with dialysis, how dare he tell me that I have pain because I am not taking this disease gracefully like Jesus would have. Put Jesus down here on dialysis and see if he does not complain about it a few times. After all he only got stuck with a few nails and dies. I get dialysis needles (nails) every other day and I live to tell about it. I look towards God as a comforting and joyous being. I have probably pissed off at least half the people reading this, but it is the way I feel!
Well the adventure of Dialysis Woman and the One Foot Wonder are never ending! If you pray, please pray for us. Do not ask for specifics just pray for assistance for us. I need more strength I think I have to cope with all of this happening. (If one more person tells me "God doesn't give you more than you can handle", I am going to go ballistic! I have had enough!)
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I am back and damn if it ain't more news!
Hubby called me at 11:50 this evening. Seems the infectious disease doctor was by and it looks like there may be infection in his stump on the leg near the bones. This means keeping the vacuum pump on the wound for several weeks and antibiotics started. They will probably have to do some kind of heavy duty antibiotics to him requiring a catheter placement into his arm. I am not looking forward to this. It looks like a few more days in the hospital for him. I am not happy at all.
To top it all off tonight I am itching all over like a rash. Itch, itch, itch! I have taken two benadryl and am waiting for them to help stop it soon. I figured since the hubby bugered up my worry mechanism I could write about it here. My typing suck and I am tired. but worried. Worry gremlins are on my shoulder tonight whispering their sweet nothings to me.
A Catholic priest stopped in and saw the hubby in the hospital today and gave him a pamphlet that told him he should take his pain with "grace and goodwill" because in doing so, because God gave him the pain, he particpates in the blessings of" El Senor" on the cross. I have not figured out why God would give you pain to enjoy! I have a God who is a loving God. Pain is often inflicted by ourselves to ourselves. In hubby's case it was a stupid accident that crushed his leg. I do NOT think God sent angels to tip the blade over. The guardian angels probably took a hit trying to throw him as much out of the way as they could. And then there is me, with dialysis, how dare he tell me that I have pain because I am not taking this disease gracefully like Jesus would have. Put Jesus down here on dialysis and see if he does not complain about it a few times. After all he only got stuck with a few nails and dies. I get dialysis needles (nails) every other day and I live to tell about it. I look towards God as a comforting and joyous being. I have probably pissed off at least half the people reading this, but it is the way I feel!
Well the adventure of Dialysis Woman and the One Foot Wonder are never ending! If you pray, please pray for us. Do not ask for specifics just pray for assistance for us. I need more strength I think I have to cope with all of this happening. (If one more person tells me "God doesn't give you more than you can handle", I am going to go ballistic! I have had enough!)
Nice rant!
- Epoman
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Thanks I try hard! I have a lot to rant about right now!
Katherine
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Thanks I try hard! I have a lot to rant about right now!
Katherine
Well that's why were here, so go ahead and rant on. We will listen.
- Epoman
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My dear, you certainly have been faced with challenge upon challenge. But it is a tribute to the strength of your spirit that you are still here, posting and sharing with us. I do admire you in the midst of all that has been dealt you.
Please be assured of my prayers and concerned thoughts for both you and your husband.
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Thank you for the support through prayer and good thoughts.
They moved Victor to the telemetry floor today to check out his heart functions. The doc told us that people with diabetes often do not feel pain with a heart attack, they just suddenly feel crappy and down. He felt that way since breakfast today. The nurses did not take it too seriously until he felt this way for hours. Indigestion and gassy. They called in a cardiac specialist who moved him to the new floor. More doctors, more tests. They drew heart enzymes, then did a deep arterial blood draw in the evening.
No results back yet. Hoping to know more tomorrow when I go see him.
I woke up at 3:30 this morning and could not go back to sleep. Sucks. Can't go to the hospital would have to sneak in the emergency room entrance and find my way through the hospital at this hour and probably wake him up. I have done laundry and hung up clothes. Just have to do dishes and the house will be tidied up.
The cats miss me and so does the dog. The dog is hanging out wherever I happen to be ;D
Katherine
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He came home Wednesday. I brought him home after dialysis from the hospital.
I am glad he is home. We are adjusting to new things. He has a pic line and I am having to learn how to give antibiotics through the pic line every six hours. I am expecting the nurse now at 6a.m. I did it all by myself at midnight last night. Then my alarm goes off a 3a.m. and me being not awake and Stupid, thinks its six and gets it all set up and waked hubby up. But it is three a.m., not six a.m. Shit! I cried and we went back to bed. I have had three hours sleep tonight. I am going to be in rare form today.
Here is my hospital rant for this time.
1. They did the bandaging wrong around his pump vacuum system and just did it wrong when they said they knew what they were doing. They put the vac pump on the wrong place and cut the foam while they had it on the wound. A big nono according to the instructions. The home nurse had to change it all out yesterday.
2. Noone knew how to hook up the small portable machine. They came into the room, in front of us and tried to figure it out. Nothing like the hospital personnel looking inept in front of the patient.
3. They set the portable pump on intermittent and sent him home on the wrong setting. It hurt him and the wound more. The home nurse fixed it. Plus there were no orders as to what the setting should have been.
4. The doctors wrote a prescription with no doctor information on it. No address, no name, just a written out prescription on an empty prescription pad. Ever tried to have one of those filled at Walgreens'? Darn near impossible. They filled it for me. I must have looked pitiful yesterday. By the time I had that prescription in hand I was fighting mad at the hospital.
5. One night on the telemetry floor it took the night nurse 40 minutes to bring him water. He had to ask for it four times before someone showed up and gave him water. Just water in the pitcher, refilled. No big deal. An easy task. The night nurse would come into his room every three hours and check off she had been in there, but would do nothing for him. Thank God I got him out of there when I did.
The upshot of all of this is I will be damned if he will go back into St. B's again. Over my dead body that will happen. His doc better refer us to a doctor who works out of Loma Linda or he better get practicing privileges for there. I was ready to find a nursing supervisor and let them have it.
I am still considering calling them and asking to speak with quality management.
Anyhow, here we are . I am going to take my BP pills and go back to bed for awhile.
These are the continuing adventure of DW and OFW. (You know Dialysis Woman and the One Foot Wonder.) Hey if I can't laugh at it, who can?
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Kitkatz, you just hang in there. I know you probably don't have strength enough to take on the hospital right now, but just document everything and go for it when you catch your breath. Write everything down.....well, I guess you are writing it here, so that is good documentation. My prayers are with you.
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Most definitely, Kitkatz. Our prayers are with you. You guys are now our favourite superheroes!!
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The adventure continues....
We find our superheroes having the day off from each other. DW went out with her sister to breakfast, church, Superman Returns, dinner, and even bought a brand new recliner! OFW stayed off his feet and spent the day recovering and relaxing. So goes our weekend.
Katherine
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Praying for you and husband, Kitkatz! Hope you 2 have a good 4th!
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Kitkatz
Hi I am Barb, joined this awesome group yesterday and took the time to read your posts ... You are one terrific lady. You are my HERO.. to go through what you have is a great accomplishment and takes a lot of courage I salute you! I recall when i was first on dialysis the hell i put my mom through and not even knowing it. I don't think I could of ever found the strength I see in you to cope with something as great as you two have gone through...
My Hat comes off to One Foot Wonder and Dialysis Woman...
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Now if Dialysis Woman could just get some sleep and rest. The stress is making me ache. I even think I am grinding my teeth at night because the jaws hurt sometimes all day. I know the tension lives in my neck and shoulders. I need a shoulder to cry on and it is past midnight here our time. Sucks!
I cannot even talk to my hubby he is emotional too and I just make it worse. I am drowning in my own unshed tears over here. If I continue this going to become a rant. I am tired. I need to go to bed and sleep. I have not had a really good cry since all of this with the hubby started. I feel like I am going to have an explosion inside. Like the survivors on the Titanic said: Help!
Katherine
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Dear KitKatz,
So Sorry to hear about your husband's accident. Something this major changes a person for life.
It is not good that you are not able to sleep from all the stress. Perhaps your Dr. could give you something mild
for 30 days just so that you can get some rest. I, too, am having difficulty sleeping lately from just knowing I have
to go to dialysis and even on days I don't go.
Years ago I had a nurse put on notice for mistreating my 3 year old son! Keep records and if necessary contact
administrators of hospitals, insurance companies and any federal agency that might listen.
My husband is also showing the stress from my disease. His health is not the best. Seems to be getting alot of
arthritis which gives him alot of pain. Am going to try to adjust his diet to see if that helps IF I can get him to go
along with it.
Hope things calm down for you both.
SCYankee
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Kitkatz, please have a good cry. It will do you good. I am so sorry that I can't come and massage your shoulders for you, but please be assured of my caring thoughts for you. We are all counting on you making it through, girl.
And never hold back a rant. Let it all hang out!
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Now if Dialysis Woman could just get some sleep and rest. The stress is making me ache. I even think I am grinding my teeth at night because the jaws hurt sometimes all day. I know the tension lives in my neck and shoulders. I need a shoulder to cry on and it is past midnight here our time. Sucks!
I cannot even talk to my hubby he is emotional too and I just make it worse. I am drowning in my own unshed tears over here. If I continue this going to become a rant. I am tired. I need to go to bed and sleep. I have not had a really good cry since all of this with the hubby started. I feel like I am going to have an explosion inside. Like the survivors on the Titanic said: Help!
Katherine
WOW! I may not know what you are going through but I do know that you are a strong women. I can relate with the explosion inside comment, here I was with 2 broken hips in extreme pain laying in my hospital bed in my HOME, and I get a call saying sorry but you need to come back to the hospital, you have cancer. I felt like everyone in the world all took a giant shit on me all at once. I know you have probally have heard this before and it's hard to believe right now, but one day you will look back at all of this I think "how the hell did we make it through all of that" and you will be better off. Stay strong, and remember this site will ALWAYS be here for you, whenever you want to rant or just talk. In fact I have been wanting to ask you something for a couple of weeks now, but because of this thread I have been putting it off. If your curious shoot me a PM.
- Epoman
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KitzKat you and your husband are in my prayers and thoughts daily. I really hope things get better for you both.
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I am tired, tired, tired, tired. Did I say I was tired?
I am tired of asking for a ramp and getting the run around. The case manager calls the company and I think they have their thumbs up their asses. It has been four weeks now since I asked for a ramp.
I am tired of putting up with people's s shit, I have enough of my own, thank you.
I am tired of having a husband who is handicapped all of a sudden. I know it can't be helped. He was 18 months from retirement. I am sure he wishes sometimes his wife was not on dialysis all of the time!
I am tired of having to adjust to a new way of life. Isn't dialysis challenging enough for us?
I am tired of Dr. appointments, then more Dr appointments after that one.
I am tired of having to take fifteen minutes to get into the car and go somewhere with hubby and the wheelchair. You should see us trying to get out of the house together. Laurel and Hardy lol. I have to go move the car to the driveway on the sidewalk. Put my purse and ice cup into the car. Get the walker to the front door, push the wheelchair and hubby to door. Put the vacuum pump strap and tubing up around his neck. He stands up one step down on the porch with aide of the walker. I move the wheelchair around him,he turns around and sits back down in the wheelchair.There now we are down the second step. Go down the slope and bumps, and around the corner to the car. He gets into the car. I take out the gel pad and throw it with his leg rest and pillow from the wheelchair into the back end of the car. He settles himself and the vac pump into the car. I fold the wheelchair, and hoping like hell I can, I lock one wheel and swing it up into the back end of our station wagon. I close the back of the wagon. Go lock the doors on the house. Get anything else we might need. Get in the car and go. We repeat this procedure when we get home.
I am tired of knowing things are going to get better. I want them now.
I am tired having to leave him with a CNA during the hours of dialysis or Dr. appointments.
I am tired of being depressed everyday all day long over this situation. At least I recognize it as situational depression.
I am tired of giving antibiotics to my hubby at midnight and noon. I am untrained and just do the best I can.
I am tired of being up until one in the morning to give the antibiotic to him.. If it weren't for this site I would be doing nothing at midnight.
I am tired of having to cook meals at home for us. Isn't there someone who will do weekly meals for me? The CNAs will cook but God knows what they will cook or if they can cook. We got rice the other night that was reeeealllly intersting. Ate it anyway.
I am tired of going to dialysis three days a week.
I am tired of feeling like crap warmed over.
I even get tired when I think about going back to work on July 26.
My brain is tired, my spirit is tired, my mind, body and soul are tired!
Do you all understand I am tired????
Katherine
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I'm sorry Kitkatz, dont really have much to say, there really isnt much i can say, except, i am here for ya anytime you wanna play some dominoes 8) 8)
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Kitkatz, I feel your pain. I can only hope that things work out for you, like the ramp, for instance. Please know that we are here for you and our caring thoughts are directed to you and your husband. At least you have a place where you can let it all hang out.
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Katz, ask your doc for some sleeping pills. The bridge between dispare and hope is a "good night's sleep."
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Hi Katherine,
I can't say I know what you're going through because I don't. But, my sister went through a similar situation when her husband lost most of his left left leg below the knee and she was working full time. But she was healthy and not having dialysis!! How you are coping I can't imagine?!? :o
My sister's husband has Burger's disease (diagnosed at age 47) and had battled bacterial infection, fungus infection, and gangrene for several months. (He will eventually, if he lives long enough, lose the other leg and probably both arms as well.) The problems, and then finally the first amputation, were quite a shock and quite an adjustment; but in the past three years he has adjusted very well. In a matter of a few months he was walking with a temporary prosthesis and a cane, and totally self-sufficient. It does get better. The permanent prosthesis is a work of art and very functional.
Can you get a carrier mounted on the back of your car? (yeah, I know you need another project :( ) so YOU don't have to load the wheelchair. Keep bugging them about the ramp. (I'd call everyday to see where I was on the schedule. ;D) Even when he is no longer in the chair the ramp will be easier to negotiate than steps.
Have you talked to anyone at your husband's work or their insurance company, to tell them that you need more help NOW? Is there a way to get $$ available to hire a part-time cook who can come a couple of times a week and cook enough for several days, and will follow your renal diet recipes? Can you pick up several take out dinners from the local hospital cafeteria a couple of times a week? They prepare renal diet meals every day. (My Dad's VA hospital has good food and it's very cheap.) Is there a local laundry service which will pick up and drop off your laundry? If you belong to a church, they may have a nurse or social worker who will get you some assistance, or the church may have someone available willing to volunteer their time running errands for you, sitting with your husband, doing housework, etc.. Ask everyone for help, the worst they can say is "No." and it won't hurt a thing to have asked and you might be lucky a get several yeses.
BTW, the advice about getting sufficient sleep is gold -- do what you have to do to get enough even if you have to nap during the day.
Thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Lorelle
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I know my writing here seems to be full of ups and downs, but that is the way our lives are right now.
We got a good picture of Victor's wound yesterday when they changed the dressing. It is granulating well and a layer of fat is growing on the edges. It looks pretty good. It does not look infected.
Victor is very quiet now around the house. I think we need to get out more, but he tires so easily. He is also not too interested in anything outside of the house. I like movies, I will go to action, adventure, any type of movie that looks good, but he is picky about what he wants to see. Not a junk movie person. And junk TV drives him nuts. I LOVE junk TV. So he hates it when I am watching my junkie TV shows like Project Runway or Hells Kitchen. Oh well can't be all things to all people sometimes. I want to take him antiquing but I am afraid the stores are crowded with little aisles and he could not get to what he wants to look at in the wheelchair.
Besides the wheel chair is heavy to lift and if we want to go far in the heat; we have to take my Transam. I drop the convertible top on it and load him in the front seat and the chair in the back. Put the top back up and off we go. We did go to the mall the other day, but he did not enjoy it at all. I think the stares go to him and he got really tired easily. He is not a mall person anyway. This is HARD on him.
There is nothing I can say to him that will not upset him right now, so I am quiet about it. I did get really frustrated with him the other night. He bosses me around the house. Do this Do that. I know he means well, but if I don't get a please and thank you once in a while I am going to go nuts. I told him that the other night. I think he thinks I am crazy. So we don't talk about it alot around here. We do not want to upset each other. I feel like I am living on eggshells around here.
Maybe I am crazy. This is really stressing me out. I cry at the drop of a hat lately. I have to call a counseling service through my work or through Kaiser and just let everything out to someone who is not involved in this crap. You all who read my entries and respond are a Godsend to me. Sometimes I just don't know what to do.
Did I tell you the infectious disease doctor we saw the other week wrote a prescription for Cipro (an antibiotic)and forgot to put how many times a day Victor was supposed to take it on the prescription. So Walgreen's can't fill the prescription until the doc gets back to them. Second time this has happened with this doctor. First time he wrote the prescription on a blank prescription pad, no doctor name or address on it. Like on a blank piece of paper., Now how helpful has this been to me at the pharmacy? I am sure you heard the screams of frustration!
The superheroes are limping along right now. The doctor changed the times of the meds so we can get a goodnight's sleep now. He gets antibiotic at 6a.m, 2p.m., and 10 pm. The home health nurses do the six and two antibiotics, and I get to do the ten o'clock one.
Also I found out we were giving the wrong dose of antibiotic to him! I was giving what I was told to give him, one antibiotic bag out of the supply the pharmacy gave us. It was supposed to have been one 250mg bag and one 500mg bag of antibiotics. Well noone told us that and the nurses did not do it right either. I almost lost my mind in the doctors office when we were discussing it. The only reason I found out was the pharmacy had called me and asked if we needed more antibiotic. I told her what we had and she said, Aren't you giving him one bag of 250 and one bag of 500? I said do I have two separate types here? Yes you do. Oh Hell! I said. You mean we F'd up giving him his antibiotic! The pharmacy lady got real quiet and said I will call the home health care and ask what's going on. The home health care then called the doctor. We beat them all to it at our appointment that afternoon and straightened the mess out. Yes were supposed to be giving him 2 bags of antibiotic at a sitting. (Well shit! Noone told ME that!) I thought I was going to lose my absolute frigging mind in that doctor's office that afternoon!
Can you tell this is a little frustrating? And my hubby. love him dearly, just takes the hits and says nothing!!!! GRRRRRRR! I want to scream and yell and he just is quiet. Oh well. My mouth goes completely out of control with swearing when I am upset.
Now that I have written a book. I better sign off now.
Katherine
Dialysis Woman and the One Foot Wonder (Superheroes in Everyday Life)
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Kitkatz,
Your ups and downs here are a lot of what this site is all about. It's good that you can unload some of your frustrations here. (next best thing to a therapist) I'm sure Victor is still dealing with the loss aspect due to all the complications. It's bad enough to lose part of a leg but then to have complications so that the healing takes so long has got to be hard on him. Glad to hear that the wound is granulating in well. The medical establishment does not do well at checking itself before giving instructions to patients. The pharmacy and the home care nurses both made big booboos with the antibiotic dose!!! I have found it necessary to read all prescriptions closely before leaving the Dr's office because of missing parts of the Rx. That particular MD who can't seem to get it all on the Rx form should be reprimanded by the medical board especially since it happened more than once.
I'm looking forward to the day when we hear that all is at the new normal in your house and the 'one foot wonder' has 2 legs to stand on.
Bless you for your patience (and your sense of humor).
Ginger
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Kitkatz, have i told you how awesome you are? Well, you are, i admire you. You are truly an inspiration. Hang in there. I am so glad you come here and let it all out instead of keeping it in, i just wish there was more i could do for you. God Bless you both........
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Yeah kitkatz, you know what I think of you and when you have time, like we discussed I can give you something to get your mind off some of your problems. When you are ready just let me know. :) AND NO, goofynina I am not talking about anything illegal or drugs. >:( ;)
Stay strong, life WILL get better. And please get let it ALL out when you come here.
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Well, what the hell is better than getting your mind of your troubles than a little............................(nevermind) :-\
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Girl, I was feeling your pain and frustration, and having a little frustration of my own, knowing that all I can do is pray for you and send caring thoughts and wishes your way. But you guys have to keep on keeping on. What would we do without our official superheroes??
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Kitkatz, Your a true "SUPER HERO" in my books. I am new here and hardly know any of you, but sure am getting to know you and your husband with your posts.. My prayers are with you both.. God Bless..
Barb
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Kitkatz keep strong, you are like a rock to your husband. you are both going through so much just now. I have been thinking about your husband while I have been in, and how the two of you are so great together.
Yours always
Kevno
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Sounds like you have really been through it lately!! The old when it rains it pours-- and you're wading in DEEP water!
Are you eligible for FMLA on your job? With that you can take up to 12 weeks if necessary, or is working all that is helping you to cope?
Hope you will be well compensated financially. Don't know much about worker's comp in S Calif but it has to be more generous than SC!! And there should be help of various kinds out there, but as I know from experience it is never enough. Superheroes indeed!
Good luck, from a "newbie". Mom 3
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Thanks Mom 3. You ran out on me in the chat room Sat. Night. Oh well It would have been nice. Yes we are wading in it deep. I have learned to take deep breaths when the waves crash over the head. I feel better mentally now. I have been off of work for 6 weeks for summer break. I go back to set up my room on Monday. School starts back for teachers Wed and for students Thursday. I will cope better probably by working.
A CNA is coming to stay with Victor 8-2 m-f, then 2-8 mwf while I am at dialysis. I hope it all works out. He seems to like the girls that have come in to work with him. He gets them to tell him their life story. At least he is friendly, all they see of me is hello, goodbye.
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I'm sorry KitKatz. Didn't realize I had! Probably logged out before I realised anyone was in there. I'll tell you a little secret. This is my first ever chat room. I'm learning...
Still holding you in the Light--
Mom 3
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Hope you'll have a good year. I also work at a school (associate teacher) and teaching is a challenging profession under the best of circumstances. Now I really marvel at how you do it!!! You ARE a superhero. Have to be!!
Sounds like your husband is slowly adapting as much as possible. If he likes the CNAs that has to help. Wishing you a good class and a good year on the job.
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I saw my niece and my sister today. They live in Northern California and came down to visit the family for awhile. The niece is so cute. I got to sit with her for quite a while. We went to dinner at Carrows (our diningroom) she sat with me and devoured four crackers, then went to her Mom and ate her dinner. She is quite a charater. Despite being tired, she made it through dinner like a trooper. I love being able to give the little ones back when they cry.
My little one comes home on next Sunday. I can't wait to see her. She sounds so grown up in her blog. She and her friend Shelly plan to drive to California from Texas. I am also expecting my Uncle Fred sometime the next Monday. I am hoping that he and Maria can meet, then she can see him when she heads to Oklahoma to see Shelly. So the next week should be exciting with a new school year starting and visitors.
Mom is back from being in Nashville. She came home acting like she was going to ride in on her white horse and save us from everything. I think it was a let down when she discovered we did not need saving. Kind of took the wind out of her sails. Sorry Mom. We are pretty much standing on what is left of our own two feet. LOL
Victor is doing better. I see more clear eyes now each day and he feels better. I know the pain gets to him. He will sit in a corner and go completely silent on it. Damn the doctor and his damn comment about getting off of the pain pills. Victor hardly ever takes them anyway and then the doctor goes and tells him to wean off of them. Geez. Does he not know that it hurts. I nag at him to take the pain pills when he needs them. He is brighter and nicer lately. I think he is feeling better. Good for us!
I went to dialysis the other night and had a reaction to something. The nurses had given me epogen and benadryl and I had pain across the groin, back and into the right hip. I am on a new dialyzer and think that is the problem. The clinic manager saw me off the machine and I asked her to look into getting the old dialyzers back for me. She saw how ill I felt and said she would look into it immediately. I really looked bad. It was so bad I asked them to take me off of the machine so I could walk the pain out. I NEVER ask to come off of the machine. It is nice to be believed about something, even if you have to look like hell for it. No more Benadryl while on this dialyzer. Maybe it was the Epogen. We will see Monday. I know I have to run on the same dialyzer on Monday. Oh well. They are trying to kill me off slowly in center. LOL I am thinking of changing dialysis centers and going to the Kaiser one on Hosiptality Lane in San Bernardino. It is Fresenius run and sounds like a better place. Besides I would have a better chance to go on the NXs machine for home dialysis if I am there. Plus my doctor runs the place and I would be in contact with him more often. I am going to call and see what happens this week. See if a chair is available and get a tour of the place.
I came home Friday and went to bed. Almost missed Victor's ten oclock antibiotic. I got up out of slumber land and staggered into the den to help him. He had the meds ready and was going to wake me up. I felt bleary eyed, We even forgot a step in the nightly ritual. Hew boy. Had to go back and complete every step and DO it right. I was up after that until 1a.m. Then slept till 10a.m. this morning. I felt rested the last couple of days. Hurray! I think it is because the stress of everything is relieving finally.
Our dog, Missy, who is whippet and labrador, is barking at every person who knocks on the door. We have a lot of that because the nurses come at 6a.m. and then a 2 pm.There are pharmacy drop offs and equipment people in and out of the house. Then family visits. Wow. Poor puppy she just does not know what to do or where to go. She just wants to please us.
I have a large orange cat lying across my desk. I was going to clean up the mail but Aslan has decided he likes to sleep across it tonight. What a pain in the ass! I am watching the third Star Wars movie for the 1ooth time. I like the movie a lot. It is a good bridge between the two stories. I have a lot of questions about it though. One day I will think about them and tell them down here.
Well that is our lives now. School starts back in five days
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So our superheroes are still up and running (well, up at least)!!
So glad to hear of the progress. Keep on keeping on!!
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God bless you and Victor Kit, it sounds like things are finally looking up for ya, i am so happy to hear that, i am sure we all are. And i think my mom and your mom should get together drink some coffee and compare notes, lol, seems like our moms are pretty much the same, but thank God for mom, wouldnt be here without her....
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What grade do you teach? Any help in the classroom or are you on your own in there?
I'd advocate for my spouse over the pain meds if I saw him suffering terribly. Some people, especially some men, can feel that they have to "be tough and take it"...and doctors are under so much pressure for prescribing adequate pain relief to patients. The doctors are really caught in the middle sometimes! There have been some prosecutions for prescribing pain medications that are more persecutions--but that is another thread.
Good luck with those first weeks of school. It's an exciting time, but usually hard even when the home front is not so challenging and you aren't dealing with dialysis. You must be incredibly dedicated! You should be written up in some of the education mags as a "heroine of education"!!!
And do find Mom something to do next time she comes...we need to feel needed! (Though in my case, I've been a bit too needed at times!)
Another educator--
Mom 3
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I teach learning handicapped 6th graders. I teach two language arts classes, a math class, an exploratory study skills class, then I have collaborative period and then prep. It makes for a busy schedule with IEPs and everything that has to be done. I am looking forward to it. Probably be a very interesting year. I have seen no IEPs for this year's group so I am flying blind. We scheduled them according to testing on the SAT 9 testing so they are probably in wrong classes. Oh well. we shall see.
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What is an IEP?
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Sounds like a really challenging year!! And a challenging group. I work with kids with individualized education, too. All my students also have IEPs. Our kids have sensory disabilities plus other disabilities in most cases...
Really don't know how you do it. YOU MUST LOVE IT!! But it certainly does keep your mind off any problems outside the classroom during the day. Or does in my case!
Once again--wishing you a great school year. And hope your husband is continuing to improve...
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Here you guys go again, using a term I don't understand. Once more, what is an IEP?
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I Individualized
E Educational
P Program
I get to write one for each child who is on my caseload of 28 children.
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I get to write one for each child who is on my caseload of 28 children.
That is some detailed work you have to do!!! I can't begin to imagine the time, resources, creativity, knowledge (and wisdom!) that this would require.
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Kitzkat I'm glad things are getting better for both of you.
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Yeehaw! The pic line is out of his arm and the antibiotics by IV are over with as of last night. Hot damn! It was great to stop giving him those drugs. I still cant figure out why in the hell they would let me give him antibiotic when nurses came twice a day to give him the same thing. Victor is feeling better. I can still see the light in his eyes and he is up most days bossing around the CNAs. Damn I'm gonna miss the CNA's help around the house everyday. I come home and find things done. It's like a miracle.
I have been in school for a week now and I am tired, worn out and exhausted. This school year i have more girls than i have ever had. They are not as mature as last years group and seem nice. The boys are your typical 11-12 years old and can't decide whether to work or not. I don't give them a choice is it work or die in my class room.
Dialysis still sucks as you all know. I slept the last few days i was on dialysis for around two and a half hours each treatment. It's kind of unusual that i would sleep that long but i think i am just tired from work. As i said in another post i leave school work at school, so my day is jam packed with all the paperwork plus teaching four classes. I found two more kids to add to my caseload that brings my total to 30. I still have no IEPs for the kids and that really sucks.
Maria, my youngest daughter, came to visit us from Wisconsin. She has grown taller and more beautiful. (she is standing right in the room so i have to say nice things) She likes seeing us but is anxious to get back to school and work. She thought all of the medical stuff is cool. She watched the nurse bandage up Victors leg and took a look at the machine. I am sure if she could have gotten her hands on the machine she would have taken it apart and put it back together again with a few screws missing. She says she is doing well in her classes. We have cosigned loans for her to continue schooling and i have made her take out an insurance policy, so the loans will get paid back in the event anything happens to her. I have told her NOTHING can happen to her until those loans are paid off.
My oldest daughter never writes and never calls. I call her when i want to hear from her. She is getting her own place sometime in august. That is all i know. As far as i know with her no news is good news. I guess she needs her freedom and she has it.
Shelly, my youngest daughters friend, is typing this for me because i cant seem to put two letters together to spell my name correctly tonight.
So that is the update from the superheros, Dialysis Woman and the One Foot Wonder.
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Damn it! I lost the update I had going. Hit a button and it blew away the post! Damn that great white internet shark anyway. I will try again.
Victor is doing okay with his injury. It takes time for wounds to heal. The vacuum pump is now using a bridge so it can still pull the fluid from the wound. The wound is closing and healing slowly. The doctor wants the wound to heal as naturally as possible. He does not want to do a skin graft in the area since it would be more sensitive to the prosthetic beating on it. It looks like a year for the healing and shaping of the stump area. Then on to a temporary prosthetic while they build him a real good one. Cost of over 10,000 dollars or more for a simple prosthetic. Luckily worker's compensation has to pay for it.
Victor has had a friend over doing renovations on the house. Carpet was pulled. doors were widened. Bathrooms are being fixed to make it more accessible. He can now get into our master bathroom to go potty. We have installed rails and are going to pull the sink and put in a free standing sink to use. Also the bathroom shower will be given a redo. It will be nice when we get it all done. Meanwhile the trees in the front of our house gotta go. The tree roots cracked the foundation of our house all the way to the kitchen walls. Then the tree branch bit the guy who was taking it down and broke his ring finger. Required two pins to be put into the finger to fix it. Just our kind of luck.
I am okay. Just grumpy and complainy right now. Feel pretty good. Went shopping today and acted like I had money in the bank.
Well there you go the update from the superheroes here in Rialto, CA : Dailysis Woman and the One Foot Wonder.
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All this and only a six month handicap sticker? I think you need to find a different Doctor.
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Glad our Superheroes are still around and winning the daily battles ;D Thanks for the update.
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Here i am all doom and gloom lately. I really do not think it is doom and gloom. It is a good old feeling sorry for myself, I think. Get ready for a long update here. :popcorn;
Hubby and I were talking tonight. We climb into bed and talk for an hour so before we go to sleep. I mean we REALLY talk to each other. He was crying. I was crying. Oh boy. You think the two of us could pick separate times to cry, but here we were. Our feelings about this entire situation sometimes bubble up and get out of control for both of us.
I have no idea how he can be so damn patient with everything going on with him. I think I would have had a blow out by now. He just sits there in the wheelchair and goes to his appointments, does what the doctors says to do, and runs the equipment they have on him every day. I am in complete AWE of him. He is most courageous. (Sometimes I wonder if he is too dumb to know any better. But I wonder that about myself often, too.) I think I would have had a screaming fit by now if I were in his shoe. He does this recovering business very well. I want to run around and scream and dance around at people. I do that, it would upset him, but I want to. Oh how i want to. He is currently in the wheelchair most of the day with the vacuum pump on his wound area. It has gotten smaller, but damn is it a slow process. I want it to heal quickly, but tissue does not do that very quickly. It has its own timetable. I am amazed at how much it has healed since June after the surgery to debride it.
He has been slowly renovating the house to make is more handicapped accessible, He has had new grab bars installed in the master bathroom so he can use the toilet in there. It is a long drop the the toilet seat for him, so off to Home Depot he and his friend Ray Ray went to order us a king size crapper. Yep we are getting a taller toilet. We now have the winning hand- a royal flush! (I know I know.) He has replaced the garage fire door with a wider access door. We now can easily get him in and out of the house through the garage door. They also put a new genie on the big garage door so it opens beautifully now and closes, too. Ray Ray put new shelves in the garage that he guarantees will hold at least three hundred pounds each. He even sat on one to prove it to me. I told him not to do that again. They are slowly working on getting all of the crap up off the floor in the garage so hubby has work space with the wheelchair for his hobby and so we can get out of the house.
Speaking of getting out of the house, we went to Ventura Gun Show last weekend on Saturday. It was great for Victor see his gun collecting buddies. He also knows that the shows are wheelchair accessible and we can do them with his chair. He saw quite a few friends who had not seen him since before his accident. He had to explain what happened. After awhile it gets routine and does not affect him as bad as the first time telling it did. Then we went over the hill to Van Nuys and saw my godmother. She is 96 years old and had knee replacement surgery last month or so. She has healed really well. She gets around with a cane. Looks good. Sounds good. She has stairs to her home, so Victor had to crawl up the stairs and into the house. It was only three stairs, but oh my God. I had to walk away and wait until he wa sin the house. It was very hard to watch him do that! When four months ago he bounded up the steps on two feet. Damn it! I had to help him getting down the stairs. He was able to hop down them when we left. We had a nice visit. My aunt sent me into her back yard to pick tomatoes and squash. I do not eat tomatoes or squash so I gave the produce to my sister. She loved the produce.
Then we left my aunt and went to see Victor's 95 year old aunt and cousin in Sherman Oaks. They fed us dinner. We visited them for awhile. Their house had just a small entry to get over with the chair. We had a good time with them. Then I got to drive the freeways home in the dark and listen to my hubby tell me how to drive. (I hate it when he does that. Just because I do not drive the way he does...)
This trip showed we could get out and do things. We were both pretty exhausted and rested on Sunday.
I find I am having a lot of feelings about all of this tragedy. It is hard to tell him how I feel about it because He is in the middle of it and is the cause of it. I want him healed and up and around. I worry that he will get content to stay in the wheelchair because it might be easier than walking in the prosthetic. I worry that he is not going to heal properly. I worry when I am at work. I worry when I am at home. I am on two amputee sites and boy are there ever problems with prosthetics. I worry about that, too. I also worry about how we are going to make it financially with him pulling in 60% of his pay now. I figured it out and we can make it doing what we are doing now, but barely. Anything happens to me and we are broke folk. (Umm..dialysis patient here...) He worries about taking care of me if I have an emergency. Enough of our friends have told him they will come if we ever need them to deal with emergencies. I TOLD him that already, but I guess he had to hear it for himself.
I have real feelings over this stuff. I am impatient for all of this to be done with. I find I have no patience with adults and their crap. His doctors make me crazy with their every six months handicapped placard! They are not the ones going to DMV and standing in lines twice and waiting to pay 6 bucks for the placard. I am! The insurance company now wants four doctors statements about his amputation in order to give us the insurance money that he is owed. It is only 12,500 for loss of a leg, any part of the leg. But it will help pay for these renovations for the house. We also are going to need a new car. The station wagon is a stick shift. One more damn thing to worry about. I sometimes get frantic over everything, but I just have to calm down and take it one day at a time. I feel like I am slowly losing what little mind I have left.
I am scheduled to have parathyroid surgery in November during the first week of school break. Great. I hope we are further along in this healing process for him than we are now. I am scared of this surgery but am more scared of what the high PTH is doing to my body. I hope it works. I hope I heal fast.
Okay so there we are. Crazy us! ( Maybe I am the crazy one. More worry.)
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Here we go... BREATHE Slowly...Deep Breaths...ok :grouphug; Now Breathe slowly.. :grouphug;
It all seems overwhelming and there really is no way to comfort and/or help you, but Just know that time has it's way of working things out. I know you probably hear that alot but it really does.
You are a very strong person and you will get through all this. Wish there was something I could do to help.
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I know you are dealing with a lot and I can only imagine the emotional side of it, but it sounds like you guys are really making it work. You're doing great, and it's only going to get better.
As far as the financial side of it, God are we feeling it with Joe missing work, and all these extra co-pays and everything, and I am seriously worrying about what will happen once he gets a transplant. I'm PMing you a site that has really helped me and is full of amazing women. I can only dream of being like them someday. :)
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Lots of slow deep breathing goes on around here. In particularly by me. I get up in the morning and go to work and give the kids I teach the best I can give. It is enough I wonder? Can I fight ESRD and still be the best teacher I can be? I have done it for almost eight years now.
Then I come home and try to be patient and loving with the hubby. Lord knows how impatient I am right now. I try to remember he cannot get out like I can and go right now. So I try my best.
My thoughts. :cuddle;
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Victor update. He is feeling better. The prosthetics people have a temporary leg ready for him to try out next Friday. They had him standing on it last Friday. He said it felt weird to be up on two feet again. Hurray! The final prosthetic is awhile away. They have to shape the stump and get it ready for a real prosthetic leg. It all takes time. *sigh*
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I am updating this so you all know what is going on with us. Victor is up and around on his artificial leg when we go out of the house. He is still using a walker to help him with balance. He is not too steady with the cane yet, but is working on it in therapy regularly. He can get in and out of the car and we built a special walkway on the side of the driveway so he would not have to deal with the steep pitch of our driveway getting in and out of the vehicles. It works pretty good too. He is currently making a 23 minute half a mile on the treadmill at therapy, down from a thirty minute half mile. It makes for a 46 minute mile, not going anywhere REALLY fast, but he is proud of the progress. I am too. He is keeping busy with the house renovations. Periodically I am asked to make a decision on something in three minutes flat, like wall color or something. Luckily for them I am in the I do not give a crap phase and I pick something I like pretty damn quickly! The house is a mess and I just kind of kick things out of my way as I go through. I am cold, cold, cold and my superhero powers do not extend to keeping me warm. I hate being cold. So here we are.
Hey, you Aussies, send some heat our way to Southern CA.
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WOW! That's a lot to go through! I'm glad he's getting better! I haven't read EVERY post on here...yet...but I'm getting there! lol I hope everything gets better quickly! Good luck!! :2thumbsup;
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Kitkatz, when I read your posts I always think you must
be made of steel. You are so strong. You inspire all of us
to keep putting one more step forward. I heard dit is cold
in CA and citrus crop is pretty much ruined. It is turned cold here
too after a nice mild winter. brrrrrrrrrrrrrr
be glad when spring arrives.
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Hubby had an appointment with his doctor the other day. He has an appointment with a plastic surgeon soon to see what can be done with the stump area where the skin died off and was replaced. It still has a dip in it and the prosthetic is rubbing it raw. Yes, folks, it looks like more surgery for us to go through! I guess it is payback time for all of the times I have been under the knife while on dialysis. I just about burst into tears over it when he told me. Feels like we are dancing one step forward and two steps back!
I am going to have to get some professional mental health help. I feel...I don't know how I feel right now. Running in circles and screaming inside! Get the bat!
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Kit, by all means get help, don't try to tough it out alone. You've shown soooooo much strength in the past, now it's time for you to lean on someone.
We all have a breaking point.
Help is out there, go get it.....now.
Jane
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Feels like we are dancing one step forward and two steps back!
Isn't that the tango? Hang in there! :grouphug;
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Yep, it is the Tango, or is it the Tangle? One step forward, two steps back, side step, side step, oops a wall.
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Victor's appointment with the plastic surgeon will be on the 12th of February. I am still waiting to hear from Kaiser for my appointment with the surgeon.
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Please don't forget that we are going through this with you. Continue to keep us posted and our caring thoughts and prayers will be there to help sustain you.
I am rooting for you too. Wish I could send you some of this heat. I am here at the computer, perspiring! Just didn't want to make the effort to bring the fan over here.
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Well, hubby went to his appointment with the plastic surgeon and guess what? The doctor does not want to cut on him anymore! Hurray! Jus tlet it heal as much as it can. If it is only getting blisters on one side he says to leave it and keep an eye on it. Let it heal as much as possible and go on with therapy to walk again. That would help the most. Also lose weight and exercise. Easy for them to say.
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I am glad he doesn't have to get more surgery!
That's good news! :clap;
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Also lose weight and exercise. Easy for them to say.
If I hear that one more time from a Doctor I'll punch them. That's there answer to everything, when they have no answer.
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Me too. One more lose weight and exercise comment and I am going to get the big stick out and use it!
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Sluff, you hit the nail with that one. :thumbup;
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Hubby is walking the neighborhood with his walker now. My hubby, the streetwalker.
He says the cat follows him a little ways then goes crazy trying to climb the trees in our yard.
He is making slow progress, but is pushing himself.
I have to remind myself and him frequently that it has not even been a year since the accident!
It takes time to heal. It takes time for things to happen.
He will see the doctor next week, then I can update you more.
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Hubby is walking the neighborhood with his walker now. My hubby, the streetwalker.
He says the cat follows him a little ways then goes crazy trying to climb the trees in our yard.
He is making slow progress, but is pushing himself.
I have to remind myself and him frequently that it has not even been a year since the accident!
It takes time to heal. It takes time for things to happen.
He will see the doctor next week, then I can update you more.
You walk with him and carry a large bag then we can call you two The streetwalker and The bag lady. ;)
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Hubby is walking the neighborhood with his walker now. My hubby, the streetwalker.
He says the cat follows him a little ways then goes crazy trying to climb the trees in our yard.
He is making slow progress, but is pushing himself.
I have to remind myself and him frequently that it has not even been a year since the accident!
It takes time to heal. It takes time for things to happen.
He will see the doctor next week, then I can update you more.
You walk with him and carry a large bag then we can call you two The streetwalker and The bag lady. ;)
:rofl; :rofl; :rofl; :rofl; :rofl; :rofl;
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Update: Hubby saw the doctor Friday. We finally have a handicapped BLUE permanent blue placard paperwork for the cars. He had to talk the doctor into it, but the doctor gave in. Pisse sme off, did the doctor think the leg would grow back? No the doctor doe snot want a placard he gives out to be abused by other family members. Well seeing as I am on dialysis and could qualify for one myself, thhbbbttt on him! So anyway, it is back to therapy three days a week for the hubby. The othopedic guys said that he has come along quite well over the last few months. He is farther along than they thought he would ever be by now.
We are nine months away from the accident. Like I said he is walking the neighborhood with his walker now. He even went to Phoenix to a gun show by himself. Unfortunately the line going into the show was long and it pretty much wore him out standing in it. He did not see much of the show, but was able to stay with buddies and visit.
Neither of us would wish this type of accident and recovery on our worst enemies. It is hard for him and hard for me to watch. I know that recovery takes time. More waiting and we all know kitkatz hates waiting!
I am still waiting for March 6 and the surgeon appointment. *Taps foot in impatience.*
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Hi Kat,
I am sorry that I didn't know this whole story sooner. I just would read the updates, and assumed this was an injury that had happened a long time ago. I cannot believe how far Victor has come, given what he's been through, in a relatively short period of time. Life does seem to pile it on, you're right. I hope he continues to do well in his recovery. Hang in there my friend!
Karol
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:cuddle; You are an amazing couple! I am hoping this is now ALL that is going to be thrown your way. I think you have both had more than your share.
>:D I now know why you need such a BIG stick and are not afraid to use it! Swing away Kat! :grouphug;
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Any recent updates for us KK?
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He had knee surgery a few weeks ago on the good leg and is feeling the pain of healing slowly. He is able to get aorund and even drove to Arizona for the weekend to a shootout with his buddies. The amputated area looks good and is healing slowly even more as time goes on.
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Great news. Trust he continues to heal nicely. Give him our best regards and assure him of our caring thoughts on his behalf.
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He had knee surgery a few weeks ago on the good leg and is feeling the pain of healing slowly. He is able to get aorund and even drove to Arizona for the weekend to a shootout with his buddies. The amputated area looks good and is healing slowly even more as time goes on.
Shootout??? Hope he's a quick draw.
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Quick and Well recovery for your husband. Hope things go well with remodeling as I am having one also. Update on the weather here in Los Angeles, it is getting warmer towards the summer and the Lakers ended the season early again, sad and piss about it.
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Hey, I live near Los Angeles so I am having your weather. Yep, warm today, cold in the monrings...
Yes, Karol he is a quick draw, hahahahaha! He is off to the Militaria show in Pomona this weekend. It will give his leg a good work out. He will probably take his wheeled walker and off he will go. I am thinking I will take tomorrow off. I am exhausted and need a break.
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My 60 year old husband was working on one of the garbage truck's pieces today when he had an accident. He had taken out a truck's packing blade (No idea what it looks like, either.). It is a heavy piece of equipment. Put it on chains and began to hoist it up to get a good look at it. Something went snap and it fell on top of him. It crushed his lower left leg, creating a compound fracture and smashing nerve and blood vessels to the foot.
He went into surgery at six in the evening and was out by ten O'Clock into recovery. I finally got to see him around 11:30p.m. They amputated his left leg below the knee. No way to save the leg. It would have been dead and a problem for him.
I got home around 3a.m. this morning . I have NO idea how I feel about all of this.
Dear God, What did we ever do to you?
Katherine
No one deserves this and I want to hug you and here I am crying over this.........no you did nothing to deserve this........my prayers are with you.....
I am sorry it took this long to find this thread........
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Now you know why I am completely, and totally nuts!
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Now you know why I am completely, and totallly nuts!
You are not nuts....I hope you don't mind but I requested prayers for you on this one site I go to that is non-kidney related....it is the US Big Brother site....I was so upset and still upset by this....
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It has been over a year since Hubby had his accident. It was a year of tests and hell for us. He is walking with a prosthetic now and is up and around most days. I drag him places whether he wants to go or not just to get out of the house. He went to a Gun Show in Costa Mesa yesterday with a friend. Came home a round 11 at night. Had a blast. He is a little sore today on the leg. Every day he heals. It just takes time. Neither of us would wish this to happen to our worst enemy.
We have learned to deal with what is handed to us. I throw prayers at God a lot. My angels duck when I start throwing prayers.
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How effective are prosthectics and are they easy to hide?
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The prosthetic is pretty big and is hard to hide. Not that is matters, it is what gets him up and off his butt.
I am posting a pic of his prosthetic here.
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I will wait for the pics...what is important that he can now get around...can he drive and work as well....
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Here he is without the prosthetic.
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Does he need a cane....it actually looks very good and very efficient.....how many weeks of therapy did he need to learn to walk with it?
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Ohh such great photos of Victor! He's the greatest guy! He stands taller than men with 2 legs, Kit, he's a keeper!
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This thread is just a reminder of the strength and courage of both of you and a testimonial of how well you've both adjusted to change.
That's why we refer to kitkatz and Victor as our dynamic duo.
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I am in a better mood this morning. Last night I felt like crap. I had had a run in with an assistant principal at school and ended up in tears over something stupid. Felt pretty lame. Today I have to go apologize and make it right.
They put Victor into the rehab facility. He will have physical therapy twice a day. They fitted him for a wheel chair so he can be up and around most of the day. He looked tired yesterday. but looked okay. It is going to be a lot of work for him to learn how to walk and do things for himself.
I am off to work now.
Katherine
I know this is an old post but it really bothers me how admin is really mean and cold to teachers and here the teachers endure it all and admin just will not support the teachers.....
I had to respond to this since teachers get mistreated.....
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Things people say to cheer you up:
1. Look on the bright side
2. Things could be worse.
3. Hey, it's not so bad!
Things you can say back to them:
1. shut up
2. shut up
3. shut up
I may keep this one and not give it to him. It expresses my feelings towards this!
I have 10 days of school left to work this year. I only have to go through NINE more with the 6th graders. I am moving them ALL up to seventh grade. Good luck to them.
Then I am going to play chauffeur to the husband when he come home. Then it is back to work July 28 or 29th. It will be a new group of sixth graders coming in to me.
Thanks for the support, prayers and good wishes. I am trying to stay not crazy!
UGH....Back to school......worst phrase in history except when I was a kid since I always got bored in the summers...
Now you should have told those peeps to shut up......I would have......
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And this school year ends next week on Thursday. Pray for me. The last days of school are always a little insane. The kids think it is over, but it is not over until that last bell rings.
Victor, my hubby, says hello. We walked about 1/2 mile today from our house down to the shopping center where Pep Boys is to pick up the car. What a long way we have come in a year!
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Hang in there Kit - the end is near! :beer1;
Keep on dancing Victor! :bandance;
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Hang in there Kit - the end is near! :beer1;
Keep on dancing Victor! :bandance;
Don't you mean CHICKEN DANCING :bandance; :bandance;
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Hehehehehehe! Next Thursday Chicken dance all around the house!
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What a difference a day can make. :thumbup;
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And this school year ends next week on Thursday. Pray for me. The last days of school are always a little insane. The kids think it is over, but it is not over until that last bell rings.
Victor, my hubby, says hello. We walked about 1/2 mile today from our house down to the shopping center where Pep Boys is to pick up the car. What a long way we have come in a year!
In my teaching days, I remember how tough the last week always was....
Tell Victor I said Hello and I keep praying for him....I pray for you too.....
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Nice pictures of victor. What amazing people you both are. :cuddle;
Amanda
xxoo
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The disability payments start this month 200.00 a week, for Victor. F***ing he** How are we going to make a 1700 a month house payment on 800 a month as his paycheck? We may end up under a bridge in a cardboard box at that rate! How do they expect a person who is disabled to go from a regular paycheck to nothing in a week? :rant; :rant; :rant; Now I am going to have to work full time and keep my job to make the bills. I am cursing rather loudly tonight.
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We still love ya..I know that doesn't pay the bills but this sucks. :grouphug;
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How can they justify only 200 a week??? That's almost a slap in the face, telling him he's only worth that little! Heck, I'll cuss with you! :boxing; :boxing;
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That is just ridiculous! Here's a man who worked hard his whole life, a good man and this is what he gets? Are you able to sue the city for what happened to him? Did Workmans Comp come into play?
Utterly ridiculous, I would be disgusted also. So sorry Kit! :cuddle;
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I read this whole story. I cried and laughed too. DW you are one heck of a woman. You shared you story with grace and humor.
I was at Wal-Mart today and they are sold out DW and OFW lunchboxes and backpacks. Sending you love and prayers.
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Okay so here is the update on Victor. He went to Phoenix to a gun show with a friend of his. He is walking without his cane or walker regularly. He has a slight limp, but it is hardly noticeable. He is getting out and around better every day. We have come along way in a short year and a half. He has pain int he leg where the foot is amputated. The phantom pains are a bi***. He doe snot want to take meds for it because the meds make him feel funny. So there we are.
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:bow; Victor is a great guy. He has a great wife. You two are tough as nails and I am in awe of you both. xoxoxox
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Wow, what a journey you both have gone through. The prosthetic leg that Victor has was used in my Orthotics and Prosthetics class along with other types of prosthetic legs. This type of information we do not get in class on what a person goes through. If he is still having pain, maybe he needs an adjustment on his prosthetic or thicker padding within the prosthic, not the sock though.
Thanks for sharing the link in chat kitkatz.
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Knowing it's been 2 years ago since the accident, and seeing how resilient and strong you and Victor are, is really inspiring Kit.
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Yup, these two are the resident IHD superheroes. :bow; :bow;
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And...Victor is out traveling. He took the wheelchair with him for nights. He went to Washington state to see his oldest daughter and to see friends. How about that!
We walked through the fires of hell and here we are still fighting for Truth, Justice, and the American Way! How do we do it?!!
I am so glad to see daylight again. Yeah he struggles to adapt to the new prosthetic and I probably do not help by nagging at him to go check with the prosthetists (sp?) and get it checked out. We have a preliminary court date June 4. See what happens then with the City and their royal BS!
School is out for me in 11 days! Just got to keep moving!
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Two years and just now getting a court date. You two have been on an amazing journey and now are such an inspiration for Ohio Buckeye and Boxman. I hope when school is out, you can take a deep breath and rest. You deserve a looooonnnngggg rest!
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kitkatz, why has it taken them 2 years? For God sakes, he got hurt at work :banghead;. I guess I just don't understand the system. I keep you and Victor in my thoughts and prayers. :cuddle;
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And...Victor is out traveling. He took the wheelchair with him for nights. He went to Washington state to see his oldest daughter and to see friends. How about that!
We walked through the fires of hell and here we are still fighting for Truth, Justice, and the American Way! How do we do it?!!
I am so glad to see daylight again. Yeah he struggles to adapt to the new prosthetic and I probably do not help by nagging at him to go check with the prosthetists (sp?) and get it checked out. We have a preliminary court date June 4. See what happens then with the City and their royal BS!
School is out for me in 11 days! Just got to keep moving!
What a change in the last two years. Congratulations. Good Luck in court.
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We plan to kick ass and take names in court!
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Good luck :grouphug; - don't forget to take your big stick :Kit n Stik;
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Victor has ben n inspiration to me and has given me much helpful info.
He is doing so well, walking and traveing.
I'm stil new at thiis and using a wheel walker now but look forward to walking
unaided and enjoying the fun things of life again.
Right now it seems like it is taking forever to get to that point.
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Victor deserves justice. Best Wishes June 4.
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I'll be there with you in spirit on June 4th. You both deserve what is only right. :grouphug;
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I'll be there with you too kitkatz :cuddle; Victor is a lucky man. :clap;
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Kit - Any luck at court?
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It was moved to the 30th of June.
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Well, we will there with you in spirit. Go and whop some you know what!
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Oh Yeah! :Kit n Stik;
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just read back to understand what happened
good luck
you deserve the best
sorry about your husband
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HE is up and around now. A big adjustment over the past two years for both of us. We learned to lean on each other. I learned I am stronger than I think I am.
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My God, has it been two years already.
So you've learned your stronger than you thought you were. Hell, we all knew that if anyone could handle what you & Victor have been through it would be you. Kit, you have amazing strength & it shows in everything you do & say. Your an inspiration to us all.
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:cuddle; Hope things go your way on the 30th!
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Me too. It is a mandatory meeting. However the lawyer says Victor does not have to be there since we will be on vacation. We just need to be in cellphone range. I guess the lawyers meet and duke it out in preliminary things.
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Best of Luck! Hoping for the best.