I Hate Dialysis Message Board
Off-Topic => Off-Topic: Talk about anything you want. => Topic started by: KICKSTART on August 12, 2007, 01:08:15 PM
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Yes 30 yrs of so called friendship gone in one txt. We grew up together , always stayed in touch , till i got ill , then it all changed. I wasn't any use anymore , didn't mix in the same circles anymore , couldn't be used to help out when no one else would. My so called best friend knows all about my situation and how i am stuck in the house at the moment , she lives 5 mins walk round the corner from me , has she called ? No. She sent me a txt about 6 weeks ago , she was on holiday that week and it was my birthday , so she said she would txt me the next day (my birthday) to call round and see me. Well i waited and waited to see if she would.Nothing .Then 6 weeks later she sends me a txt saying ..'haha you run off with any internet weirdo's yet? ' So i didn't reply, i thought i always reply straight away , well shes made me wait 6 weeks, so now its her turn! The next day i got another txt saying ,why hadn't i replied? I said ,' well you made me wait 6 weeks , so now i figure its your turn to wait' . I got a reply from her ..'how old are you ? grow up ? i dont know what your problem is , but dont take it out on me. Charming ! Needless to say this was a week or so ago and i haven't heard anything since , some friend, but i'm glad for once i stood up to her and she has shown her true colours. Sorry but i just needed to rant !!!!
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Rant away, and don't apologize. None of us need "friends" like that!
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Good for you for standing up for yourself :thumbup; too bad for the loss of what you thought was a friend. :grouphug;
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KS, you go ahead and rant. As much as you've been through, you do NOT need this. Surely she knows what you've been through, and are going through, with the housing? Nope, I'd say BE cranky, darn it!!!!
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You're better off without someone who's going to act like such a turd. Friends are supposed to care for each other and support each other, not act like a snobby little b*tch.
Adam
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I am so sorry this has happened. No one seems to know how to deal with us. I can't keep up, can't to the mall thing but I am still fun! I think we have all lost friends - even close, long time friends. With other illnesses, it seems like people rally round the person. With kidney failure, we don't always look extremely ill, so we must not be that sick. I always feel like I just haven't died quick enough! Aren't you better yet? Haven't you gotten a transplant yet? We are all here for you, Kickstart! Thank goodness we have each other!!! :grouphug;
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WOW!!!! I am just in aaawwww of this topic because I am experiencing the very same thing!!! However, not to the point of losing a best friend through a text message but me and my best friend (or what I thought was my BF) have not talked in WEEKS, maybe even over a month now. She and I have been friends since high school, (22 years) and I have called her, text messaged her and she does not even respond anymore but whats odd is, her oldest daughter (18 yrs) still texts me and she and I talk but I watch what I say because I don't want her to misinterpret something I say and say I said something which I did not mean to say about her Mother. I too, am hurting very much over this and she too, only lives 5 minutes from me. Yeah, I could go over to her house just as well, but I am not one to want to set myself up for a bunch of "excuses" of why she has not called. So rather than set myself up to get hurt, I just try and put her out of my mind. I am not going to chase someone down, especially someone who is suppose to be my best friend, to talk to me since she is not responding to my calls or text messages. Kickstart, I really know how you feel and I too, am wondering if it has something to do with my kidney disease, if so, she has to deal with that on her own conscience because sometimes life can turn around and bite you on the a**, in other words, she may get "sick" one day and she will lose someone she thought loved her as well. Kickstart, I am so sorry you are experiencing this as well, it sucks I know!
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I'm shocked that "friends" would behave this way.
I hope some new friends come into your life.
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Thanks everyone , i can honestly say although i have never met any of you , you are better friends to me than anyone. Like some of you have said ..'what goes around, comes around' and my so called best friend is the sort that takes to her bed with a cold ! ,and likes to be the centre of attention. I just hope the day comes when she does need someone, but i wont be the first in line to help her anymore .
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Kickstart, girlfriend, you are a strong woman and you know and i know that she'll be back, i think we all know she'll be back, they always come back, but it's always been AFTER Karma came and bit them in the ass ::) In the meantime, enjoy your life for what it is my friend and remember, you always got US :grouphug;