I Hate Dialysis Message Board
Off-Topic => Off-Topic: Talk about anything you want. => Topic started by: Deanne on March 06, 2007, 08:44:28 AM
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Are there things about yourself, either accomplishments or attributes that make you feel proud of yourself? I'm proud of myself that although I always felt my parents, especially my mom, had low expectations of me, I feel I'm a success. I'm the most independent person in my family. I picked up and moved out of state by myself, got a good job, and don't wait around for someone to do things with. I've completed three marathons (walking), own my own home, and maybe it's a little thing and a bit vain, but my height / weight are in proportion. I remember my mom and aunt talking when I was a child that they thought I'd grow up to be overweight. I don't know where that came from since I was a very scrawny child, but now I can think "hah!" at them and their assumptions that I was a loser-child. I still remember when my vocational rehab counselor suggested I should consider law as a career and my mom laughed at it as a ridiculous idea. She isn't a "mean" person, just clueless. I'd've been a darn good lawyer!
I'm least proud that I don't feel I'm a very patient person. I try very hard to be patient and other people tell me that I am, but they don't see how much I have to force it. It doesn't come naturally. I know everyone screws up and I try hard not to criticize people for their mistakes, but internally, I'm thinking, "Why can't you be more careful!? Why can't you consider the effects of your actions on other people!? Why are you so flippin' self-centered!?" I'm probably a bit self-centered myself. I don't tend to feel much pity for most adults in poor circumstances. I have to remind myself to follow up with friends to see how events in their lives turned out.
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I have to admit that i can't think of many successful events in my life that I could say I'm proud of, however I do have some regrets in my life. I'm not trying to be down on myself, just being honest.
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I have a lot of regrets, too. Too bad we can't turn back the clock eh? I'm sorry you see mostly regrets because I admire you. You're tremendously supportive on this board and give people great advice!
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I guess that could be success. Thanks
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You sound like you're feeling down tonight. I hope you're ok!
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I just got done making this thread. http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=3005.0
I'm ok. Thanks for asking though.
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Most proud of myself for 34 years ago being in the right place at the right time to meet my future wife Rita, the love of my life.
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Most proud of myself for 34 years ago being in the right place at the right time to meet my future wife Rita, the love of my life.
I hope you shared that with her. You are a good man. Now tell her that, too many times we don't tell the ones that mean the most to us that we love them. The most powerful words in the world.
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I am still thinking on this question.
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Most proud of myself for 34 years ago being in the right place at the right time to meet my future wife Rita, the love of my life.
You are a good man. Now tell her that,
I'm always telling her what a good man I am! ;D No seriously we say the words 'I love you' to each other at least once a day. I couldn't have coped with this dialysis crap without her.
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Different points in my life I am most proud of different things. Currently I am most proud of being a good mother. I was told by my ex so many times that I wasn't a good mother, I wouldn't ever be a good mother, and basically made me feel worthless as a mother! However, I have primary custody of our children, I take care of our children, I support them financially... I help them with their school work, I play with them, spend time with them, interact with them, and enjoy the beautyf of their daily presence in my life and how they make me always want to do better in my life for them.
I might add I currently do live with my parents because while I was on dialysis I needed the financial and sometimes physical help with my children. Being a single mom is not easy, but definately is not easy when you have a major illness going on. The father of my kids still doesn't pay child support like he's ordered too, he hasnt paid a penny yet.. and I dont expect it anytime soon. If it does ever come, great, I'll open a savings account for college. I have come to learn to never be dependent on a man, and do things on my own.
Something I regret, or am least proud of... not spending as much time as I could with my kids during certain times. Once I seen what I was doing, I stopped it cold, and thats why I can have my proudest thing be what it is.
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I remember my mom and aunt talking when I was a child that they thought I'd grow up to be overweight. I don't know where that came from since I was a very scrawny child, but now I can think "hah!" at them and their assumptions that I was a loser-child.
I had the opposite problem, I was chubby as a kid. I was always made to feel like I was second best, I never felt accepted for who I am. I was left out of family things because they felt I was too fat. Like it was contagious or something. :'( I was always singled out as the fat kid. I went all through childhood like that then when I lost the weight when I was 15-16 all of a sudden everyone loved me. :-\ But by then I was already screwed up! LOL
I went through pure humiliation when I was a kid but I think it made me into a strong adult. We all have crosses to bear and I guess that was mine. I am proud that I got through it, I still hurt sometimes from it but it made me who i am today.
I regret not having children. Since I was very young I wanted my own children but I always put it off thinking when I get older, more settled, ect but it didn't work out that way. I had a miscarriage when I was 27 and I think of that baby now and what they would have been like, would they love me, what they looked like, would I have been a good mother.
We had this family who lived next door to us and they had a little girl who I babysat for occasionally. She was 6 at the time and was in first grade. I used to walk to my job and it so happened we left at the same time, her mom was a screwball who made her walk to school every morning. So I walked her to the school every day and she'd give me a hug and a kiss every day. One day she didn't go to school There was a crossing guard guard at the corner where we crossed and he asked me where my daughter was! I was shocked and told him I didn't have a daughter. He told me Colleen told everyone I was her mother who walked her to school every day! So I was a mother in someones eyes a while! :-\
Donna
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We had this family who lived next door to us and they had a little girl who I babysat for occasionally. She was 6 at the time and was in first grade. I used to walk to my job and it so happened we left at the same time, her mom was a screwball who made her walk to school every morning. So I walked her to the school every day and she'd give me a hug and a kiss every day. One day she didn't go to school There was a crossing guard guard at the corner where we crossed and he asked me where my daughter was! I was shocked and told him I didn't have a daughter. He told me Colleen told everyone I was her mother who walked her to school every day! So I was a mother in someones eyes a while! :-\
Donna
That's a very touching post. Sometimes we need to remember that for some children we are the only parents they know.
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I'm "most" proud, there probably isn't anything I can't fix, been a mechanic all my life.
"Least" proud I never paid attention in school, no telling what I may have been if I did.
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I'm most proud of getting my RN degree at age 35
I'm also proud of my involvment in animal rights.
My biggest regret is not having more children. I have two sons, love them so much & wish I had more, including a daughter.
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What I'm proud of? I"m a strong individual. Some might even say stubborn!
Nothing wrong with that. It keeps you going, right? I am proud of my son, Mark.
He's 19th this coming Friday, and is in Basic Training for the Army Reserves.
It's been hard for me to have him gone. I really relied on him when he was
here. But, he needed to get away, and I am proud of him for taking such a
big step. I am also proud of my fiancee, Ran. He's a good man. I'm also
proud of myself for being smart enough to realize what a jewel I have in
him!
There are lots of things I am not proud of. My tendency to be self righteous.
I really have to work on that. For so many years I saw only black and white.
Life isn't that way, and I found out the hard way. That's the bad side of
stubbbornness.
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I'm happy to look back on my life and see that I've been a constant encouragement and force to those around me. I loved and supported my husband for 34 years until his death 6 years ago. I didn't become a 'basket case' after his death, I picked myself up, continued on with managing our rental properties and mini-storage business. My two adult sons and grand-kids lean on me, not me on them. I seldom get mad, never cuss, don't drink or smoke......oh....I laugh easily, have good relationships with my mom (and dad before he died) and my sisters, nieces and nephews and cousins.
Haven't done too well about that 'weight' thingy. :lol;
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Proud of:
*twenty-one years of marriage
* two children who have grown into adults.
* my friends
Not so proud of:
*Impatience with other people
*throwing rocks at God (I just can't help it. I get pissed off and the rock throwing starts.)
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There are things I'm least proud of, but I'll keep them to myself. Let's just say they help you learn from your mistakes in life ;)
As for things I'm proud of - well, I love my dogs (bull terriers) and have trained them in obedience. I was very proud of Chloe in particular, who I took through to being a registered therapy dog. We would visit the nursing home on weekends - we did this for about 2 years before Chloe started to get a bit tired with age and I retired her from it. She had got to the stage where she would just like on the floor, and the residents couldn't reach her to give her a pat. Now she's 13 and just sleeps around the house. She's a top little bully and I'm very proud of her.
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She is a real cutie. She has been a great comfort to many I am sure. Thank you chloe. :grouphug;