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Title: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: sullidog on November 12, 2012, 04:53:57 PM
I have a friend who I thought of as my second mother, and to her I was another son. I did lots for this friend, including giving her a place to stay when she ran into financial difficulty and had no where to go, this friend has also done lots for me.
Recently this friend got maried, and come to find out out of all people did not invite me to the wedding, well turns out she was telling people that it was for family only, well come to find out she had her close friends there and she was only telling people it was only family whom she didn't want to come to the wedding. Well it also turns out she invited a couple, well the couple were good friends of her's well turns out she only invited the guy and not the other half! I was like wow? Her actions have caused her to make enimies. I have not talked to this friend nor has she talked to me, but another friend of ours has told her how I felt and she was like well I told him about it but he must of not heard me, well I didn't hear a thing cause you didn't tell me.
I'm just hurt that a friend who considered me family would do this sort of thing to me. So what would you do? Would you confront her and if so how, or would you just let her be and move on with your life and just pray that carma comes back to bight her?
Title: Re: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: Joe on November 12, 2012, 04:57:55 PM
I'm a true believer that karma is a bi*#h. I'd move on, life is too short.
Title: Re: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: jbeany on November 12, 2012, 07:37:20 PM
Oh, let it go.  Really, all she managed to do, besides giving you more insight into her personality than you wanted, was save you the cost of a gift and an evening with bad catered food.  Plenty of people have to limit the number of wedding guests for costs reasons.  Most are smart enough not to outright lie about who they are cutting and why!
Title: Re: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: Sydnee on November 12, 2012, 10:06:06 PM
Move on.
Chances are she will not respond the way you hope she will if you confront her. And you would end up feeling worse.

Title: Re: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: MaryJoe on November 14, 2012, 11:41:02 AM
I'm sorry this woman didn't value your friendship as much as you did hers.  I don't think confronting her would give you any satisfaction or comfort, she obviously is not going to be honest about her reasons for not inviting you.  I think you should move on. I know that will be hard to do as you are obviously very hurt by her actions, but I don't believe you will gain anything by dragging this out.  (Never make someone a priority in your life when all you are to them is an option.)
Title: Re: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: Cordelia on November 14, 2012, 12:07:41 PM
I'd move on. I've had friends hurt me, did similar and I've moved on.
Title: Re: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: Ricksters on November 14, 2012, 12:37:22 PM
As hard as it might be, let it go.  She obviously doesn't care one whit about how you feel...don;t waste your time on dwelling on this!  Will just make you feel worse and worse...some things are just better left alone!  And I do believe that what goes around comes around.....

Ricki
Title: Re: how would you handle this situation?
Post by: Riki on November 15, 2012, 02:16:51 PM
Yeah.. just let it go..  I have friends like that.. i considered them family for a long time, and for some reason, they just stopped talking to me, or inviting me to get togethers.  Last summer, they did invite me to one of them, and they all said it was so great to see me, and they were glad that I came.  I refrained from telling me why I don't see them that often anymore.  I didn't figure that there was a point