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Title: Please pray for Paris and her hubby and family....
Post by: Darthvadar on September 16, 2012, 03:25:06 PM
Hi Folks....

As most of you already know, Paris's darling husband is battling Lymphoma, and has been struggling....

He's in the Intensive Care Unit at Duke right now... Became incoherant and unresponsive earlier today... Poor man has a fever, low BP, and a blood clot in his leg... There also appears to be new leisions...

Please remember Paris, Barry, and their entire family in your prayers.... And even if you don't pray, keep them in your thoughts...

We all know what a diamond Paris is..There can't be one of us on here who hasn't benefited from her wit and wisdom over the years we've battled this dammed disease... She doesn't deserve this....

Love to all...

Darth....
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Post by: bjkuds on September 16, 2012, 03:43:55 PM
New to the forum.. but have read a lot and learned a ton from Paris and others.. Hubby and I will be praying for them.  No doubt that she is special to take the time to share while enduring her own battle.  Blessings
B. Jane
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Post by: Rain on September 16, 2012, 04:05:05 PM
Her and her hubby will be in my thoughs and prays.. ..
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Post by: Big E on September 16, 2012, 05:02:11 PM
My best to both of them.
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Post by: jbeany on September 16, 2012, 05:37:58 PM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: galvo on September 16, 2012, 05:43:27 PM
My thoughts are with her.
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Post by: Leanne on September 16, 2012, 05:57:29 PM
Many prayers for all of them...
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Post by: MightyMike on September 16, 2012, 06:11:14 PM
Best wishes to them both.
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Post by: Sluff on September 16, 2012, 06:24:04 PM
Prayers and well wishes for the whole family.
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Post by: glitter on September 16, 2012, 06:47:39 PM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: kitkatz on September 16, 2012, 08:00:24 PM
When all you can do is pray...PRAY!   :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: okarol on September 16, 2012, 08:26:36 PM
 :pray; I have had paris and Barry on my mind all day. Love and prayers for them both.
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Post by: boswife on September 16, 2012, 09:02:05 PM
oh no.... They  have my prayers..  Im so sorry this is happening to them  Many prayers  :pray;  :pray;
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Post by: YLGuy on September 16, 2012, 09:58:05 PM
They are both in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by: amanda100wilson on September 17, 2012, 06:25:07 AM
 :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: Zach on September 17, 2012, 07:11:08 AM
 :cuddle;
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Post by: Poppylicious on September 17, 2012, 01:17:40 PM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: MooseMom on September 17, 2012, 02:34:32 PM
I think about Paris and Barry every single day and have done for weeks now.  I don't know what God has in mind for them, but I hope He will be merciful and keep them from suffering so much for so long. 

Don't y'all feel so helpless?  I know I do.  I so wish there was something more we could all do for them. :'(
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Post by: Roxy on September 17, 2012, 08:47:57 PM
Keeping them in my thoughts and prayers  :grouphug;  :grouphug;  :grouphug;
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Post by: pitagory on September 17, 2012, 11:33:35 PM
My thoughts and prayers for paris and her family  :grouphug;
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Post by: brenda seal on September 18, 2012, 12:23:23 AM
I am praying also - very hard  for Paris and her husband .
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Post by: Darthvadar on September 18, 2012, 12:52:18 AM
Yes, I feel TOTALLY helpless...

Appearantly Barry's still struggling... They need to do a procedure to prevent a leg clot from migrating, but they're reluctant to intubate him as he also has pneumonia... They're hoping to be able to avoid intubating...

Please keep Barry, Paris and family in your thoughts, and let's storm Heaven with our prayers.....

Oh and tell someone you love them today... We don't always have tomorrow to do it!....

May God bless and protect you all....

Darth...
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Post by: Sue on September 18, 2012, 01:55:34 AM
I am surrounding them with love and light ... many many prayers
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Post by: billybags on September 18, 2012, 05:32:39 AM
Add my prayers to every one else s.
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Post by: Traveller1947 on September 18, 2012, 06:48:31 AM
Offering prayers for healing, prayers for strength, prayers for peace.
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Post by: Darthvadar on September 18, 2012, 12:32:29 PM
Folks...

I'm afraid the news as I can gather it is not good.... I've copied this from Paris's FB Page... As always, she has put it far better than I ever could....

'Please pray for acceptance. The doctor had the "talk" with Barry and I. Barry understands the gravity of his situation. Kidneys - liver-lungs- and heart all have some damage. Kidneys are shutting down. Breathing is difficult. The lungs have tumors and holding fluid. The kids and I are holding on to each other and clinging on to hope. Barry is not in pain and understands when we talk to him. It is very hard for him to talk. He is being kept comfortable. Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. We all need them'.

Let's bombard Heaven... God know Liz, Barry, and their family need and richly deserve every prayer and good wish that they can get right now...

Love to all...

Darth...
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Post by: Mr. B 123 on September 18, 2012, 01:47:51 PM
Will keep them in my prayers!
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Post by: okarol on September 18, 2012, 02:37:08 PM
 :'( :'( :'(
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Post by: cassandra on September 18, 2012, 02:49:31 PM



      :grouphug;


and lots of love Cas
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Post by: deniferfer on September 18, 2012, 04:01:42 PM
I'm so sorry this is happening to Paris and her family. I will keep them in my thoughts and i wish them the best.   :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: lmunchkin on September 18, 2012, 06:11:34 PM
Nothing I can say or do will help in anyway.  It hurts to have this happen to such a couple as these two. God be with you all during this time. Its never easy, is it? One never knows what to say or do in situations like these.
But I do know that they are a family of Faith, and that will see them through this.

Know that You are loved deeply here Paris & Barry.  We are your family and we have all been praying for Barry, and of course the whole family.

God Bless you all,
lmunchkin
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Post by: Sluff on September 19, 2012, 05:07:45 AM
We support you Paris in every way.  We love you and are here if you need us.   :grouphug;
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Post by: Darthvadar on September 19, 2012, 07:08:22 AM
Just spoke briefly on FB to Liz's sister, Jill... They're leaving now to be with Liz, Barry, and their family... I believe Barry's sister and brother are already with the immediate family at Barry's bedside....

This is what Jill posted on her FB page a few minutes ago....

'Elizabeth and their children are at Barry's bedside all day today. Please pray for peace and God's surrounding arms and love. It's such a sad time for us all'.

Please keep them in your thoughts and prayers...

I'll update as I hear more...

God bless everyone...

Darth...
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Post by: Darthvadar on September 19, 2012, 07:41:41 AM
Spoke with Liz's sister again....

Yesterday, the doctors told Liz and their daughter, Beth to 'prepare'...

Thankfully, Barry is in no pain, and fully understands the gravity of the situation... He wants no extreme measures taken....

Please pray for peace for this brave family....

Love to all...

Darth...
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Post by: gothiclovemonkey on September 19, 2012, 08:01:49 AM
 :'(

Why does this have to happen to such good people? I suppose, I shouldnt put it like that, as no one deserves to go through that...

you all are in my thoughts and prayers.   :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: Deanne on September 19, 2012, 08:25:33 AM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: Jill Marie Evans on September 19, 2012, 08:58:48 AM
I don't know them, but still feel for them after reading all the posts...praying for the deepest form of peace to settle over the whole family, and allow the pure light of love to shine on.
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Post by: YellowRose on September 19, 2012, 10:24:55 AM
I do not know them but have been follow since they know Barry was sick. It seems so fast.  :o
Will keep the family in my prayer. May God's comfort, love and peace with them.
Rose
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Post by: okarol on September 19, 2012, 11:00:59 AM
 :'( This is just happening too fast.
I am so happy to have met Barry at our IHD meet ups over the years. We just cannot predict where we will be from one year to the next.
 :pray; Bless them all.
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Post by: lou on September 19, 2012, 12:29:29 PM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: okarol on September 19, 2012, 01:04:31 PM
If you'd like to send a card to paris and family please send me a PM - they can use all the support they can get right now.
Things have rapidly changed. Please keep good thoughts.  :pray;
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Post by: Bajanne on September 19, 2012, 04:26:52 PM
Once again I am at my computer, hardly seeing what I am typing through the tears for my beloved Paris, Beth and Barry, as well as the entire family.  I am sending caring thoughts and healing prayers your way.  May the Lord give special grace at this time.
Your IHD family is with you all the way. :grouphug;
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Post by: looneytunes on September 19, 2012, 08:01:54 PM
Paris, you have been such an inspiration to me and so many others.  You and your family with be in my prayers, may the Lord bless you with peace and serenity. 
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Post by: Rerun on September 19, 2012, 10:18:10 PM
 :grouphug;
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Post by: Chris on September 19, 2012, 10:57:31 PM
:'( This is just happening too fast.
.

 
I agree, this seems to just happened so fast and it was great to have met them in 2008 Chicago IHD meet
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Post by: Darthvadar on September 19, 2012, 11:19:28 PM
From Beth's FB page four hours ago.....

'Please surround my mother and father with prayers of support and love tonight. We are surrounding his bedside and he knows how loved he is'.

Please pray with all your might... And if you don't pray, please spare them a thought....

Love to all...

Darth...
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Post by: Sue on September 20, 2012, 02:27:56 AM
God Bless them
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Post by: natnnnat on September 20, 2012, 04:05:58 AM
 :grouphug; :grouphug; :'( Love to you Paris in this hard time.
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Post by: lmunchkin on September 20, 2012, 04:46:04 AM
Looking to Heaven.  May God be with each and everyone of you.   :pray;

Lee
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Post by: aharris2 on September 20, 2012, 11:17:35 AM
Paris, Barry, Beth, our prayers are with you.

Rolando and Alene
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Post by: kitkatz on September 20, 2012, 04:46:21 PM
Prayers are with you.
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Post by: glitter on September 20, 2012, 06:11:32 PM
Thinking of you,   :grouphug;
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Post by: kellyt on September 21, 2012, 05:01:50 AM
You're in my thoughts, sweet friend.  You and your entire family.

Love and Hugs.  :cuddle; :pray;
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Post by: willowtreewren on September 21, 2012, 12:58:36 PM
Paris lost her dear husband today.  :grouphug;

I am torn with sadness for her and her family.
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Post by: MooseMom on September 21, 2012, 01:34:47 PM
And to think that some of us were in his company in Las Vegas less than a year ago...

I am so very sorry.  Words fail me.
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Post by: Chris on September 21, 2012, 03:24:03 PM
Paris lost her dear husband today.  :grouphug;

I am torn with sadness for her and her family.

 
Awww
It was good to have all or most of his family there.
 
I could not keep up on fb while at the doctors todays.
 
I still do not know what to say and the cards at the hospital just did not seem to fit the situation.
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Post by: glitter on September 21, 2012, 06:48:24 PM
oh Paris- I am so sorry  :grouphug;
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Post by: natnnnat on September 21, 2012, 07:18:49 PM
Profound condolences Paris, hoping for strength for you and your family.
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Post by: okarol on September 21, 2012, 08:00:14 PM
 :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( So sad.
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Post by: Bajanne on September 21, 2012, 09:57:59 PM
Sincere condolenes to Paris, Beth and the entire family.  The love and concern of your IHD family is surrounding you all at this time.  This is a loss to the IHD family.  I pray your strength at this time.
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Post by: Sue on September 21, 2012, 10:02:29 PM
God Bless and keep Paris and her family and friends as they mourn the loss of their loved one.
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Post by: Jean on September 22, 2012, 12:48:50 AM
So very sad for you Paris and for your family. Praying for your comfort of course. Know that your Hubby is now in the better place.
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Post by: Darthvadar on September 22, 2012, 01:35:16 AM
So sorry for the entire family's loss....

May Barry's gentle sould rest in peace....

Darth...

God looked around His garden And found an empty place.

He then looked down upon the earth And saw your tired face.

He put his arms around you And lifted you to rest.

God’s garden must be beautiful He always takes the best.

He saw the road was getting rough And the hills were hard to climb,

So He closed your weary eyelids And whispered "Peace be thine".
 
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Post by: monrein on September 22, 2012, 05:56:33 AM
 :'( :'( :'(

Such a sad time.  Such a lovely man and his family too. 

 :grouphug;
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Post by: Marsh on September 22, 2012, 07:40:30 AM
 :pray;
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Post by: kitkatz on September 22, 2012, 10:20:49 AM
My prayers are with the family at this time.  :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: boswife on September 22, 2012, 11:31:41 AM
 :'( So awful sad..  My prayers for comfort dear ones.  Im so sorry.  :pray;
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Post by: Traveller1947 on September 22, 2012, 12:55:27 PM
My heart goes out to you, dear Paris.  Praying that you will find comfort...
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Post by: cassandra on September 22, 2012, 01:19:24 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that. Condolences for Paris and her family, and friends

lots of love Cas
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Post by: Roxy on September 22, 2012, 05:33:26 PM
My condolences to Paris and her family. Will be keeping you all in my thought and prayers.  :grouphug;  :grouphug;
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Post by: lmunchkin on September 22, 2012, 07:00:27 PM
So sorry for the entire family's loss....

May Barry's gentle sould rest in peace....

Darth...

God looked around His garden And found an empty place.

He then looked down upon the earth And saw your tired face.

He put his arms around you And lifted you to rest.

God’s garden must be beautiful He always takes the best.

He saw the road was getting rough And the hills were hard to climb,

So He closed your weary eyelids And whispered "Peace be thine".
 

Paris, Im so very very sorry for the loss of Barry. I wish I had met him.  He had to have been a great guy.  Again, Im so sorry, and the quote above says it the way that I see it too.

Know that we ALL love you, and if you need anything, just ask. God Bless you all in this trying time!

lmunchkin
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Post by: KarenInWA on September 22, 2012, 09:12:09 PM
This is from Paris's Facebook:

"Yesterday, pain ended for my sweet husband and the pain began for our family. No one could write a better exit than what we experienced. All 4 kids, 2 dear friends, daughter in laws, David and Hatem, and Rev. Allen surrounded Barry, holding hands as Rev. Allen prayed lovely words about Barry and his homecoming. I layed my hand on Barry's chest most of the last 5 days and when his breathing was very slow, I tapped my fingers on his chest, waiting for each next breath. About half way through the prayer, I didn't feel his breathe, so I tapped gently waiting for the gasp. At the end of the prayer, the nurse stepped in and said he is gone. I knew already. But how many of us will take our last breathe while being prayed into Heaven? No more suffering. This has been a very fast journey and we were just beginning to comprehend how sick he was. He and I have been on a wonderful trip through life ---- 45 years and 1 month of marriage. It was a good life, a happy life. Memorial service will be Friday - more details will follow. I don't know how to do this; I'm getting through hour by hour. Thank goodness for my kids and grandkids, although, they are all devistated, too. The Lord is my shepard, I shall not want......."
 
 :'(
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Post by: cookie2008 on September 22, 2012, 09:51:50 PM
So sorry for your loss, may he rest and peace.
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Post by: lmunchkin on September 23, 2012, 06:34:54 PM
Thanks to all of you on Facebook for the updates.  I don't do facebook so I deeply appreciate the updates.
Paris he is looking down on you now. Watching his little Angel on Earth.  You were his ROCK in life!

RIP Barry!

lmunchkin

P.S. Praying for the loved ones left behind.  May God give them comfort.
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Post by: boswife on September 23, 2012, 07:26:01 PM
My deepest heartfelt prayers with you.  I had fears today of your same loss.  I said,,"i dont know how to do this"...  Your having to 'do this' and it hurts me real bad knowing what you must be going through.  Bless your hearts, and peace and Gods comfort be with you.  Im sorry... with love, jill and bo
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Post by: billybags on September 24, 2012, 05:45:13 AM
Paris my heart goes out to you and your family.  Bless you.
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Post by: Deanne on September 24, 2012, 02:55:05 PM
I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by: Rain on September 25, 2012, 04:44:50 AM
I am so sorry for your lose. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by: Big E on September 25, 2012, 01:12:06 PM
Paris, I'm so sorry for your loss. It's nice to know that your husband was so well-loved by his friends and family.
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Post by: Sunny on September 25, 2012, 04:24:11 PM
Bless you and your family in this time of loss. You are such an inspiration and I am so sorry that after all you've been through, you have now lost your husband. He will always be with you.
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Post by: Sluff on September 26, 2012, 04:32:41 AM
Condolences to you Paris for your loss.  :grouphug;
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Post by: AguynamedKim on September 29, 2012, 03:15:20 PM
This breaks my heart to read.  I had the honor of meeting Barry last year at Las Vegas - what a wonderful man.  I'm so sorry for your loss, Paris.

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Post by: MaryJoe on September 29, 2012, 04:31:49 PM
I am so sorry to hear of your loss.   I know your family has been and will continue to be a great comfort to you, and you to them.  Hugs and prayers for you all. :grouphug;

MJ
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Post by: pitagory on September 30, 2012, 11:27:53 PM
I am so sorry for your loss Paris
My condolences to you and your family
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Post by: Leanne on October 01, 2012, 10:33:06 AM
Prayers and condolences for your loss... :grouphug;
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Post by: amanda100wilson on October 02, 2012, 05:32:55 PM
I am so very sorry to hear this news.  love and hugs.
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Post by: MaryD on October 02, 2012, 09:43:25 PM
Thinking of you     :grouphug;
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Post by: phyl1215 on October 10, 2012, 02:08:33 PM
I am so very sorry, I just read this.  Glad you have your children and grandchildren they will help you as will all your friends and family.  I have lost a husband at age 28 and can feel your grief.  He will always be in your heart and the memories of your life together will be comfort to you and you will eventually smile with those memories.  Hugs, Phyllis