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Title: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on February 15, 2007, 02:35:00 AM
Hi guys,
    I haven't posted in a while. Sorry, but things have been awful here. My 18 year old autistic son has been diagnosed with cancer. :( He had a tumour removed on the 5th of Jan and has had one cycle of chemo. He still needs to have 2 cycles. This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through.  Here is a photo of Christopher with his sister Amy. As you can see he is losing his hair. It will probably be gone by the end of the weekend. He isn't going to school but will return once he is better. I took myself of the transplant list as I don't think I could cope with a transplant while he is undergoing chemo. Say a prayer for my son guys and hope to post again soon. Liz :'(
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: tamara on February 15, 2007, 02:39:19 AM
Hi Babi68,

So truly sorry to hear this. Don't forget we are here for support if you need it.
Prayers are being said and hope they get answered soon.


Tamara xxx ooo

 :grouphug;   :cuddle;  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Joe Paul on February 15, 2007, 02:43:57 AM
Sorry to hear this, Babi 68. We will keep your whole family in prayers  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Ken Shelmerdine on February 15, 2007, 03:13:39 AM
So sorry to hear about your son but looking at his picture I'm sure he'll get through this. We're all thinking about you and your family,stay strong and please keep us posted. :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: angieskidney on February 15, 2007, 03:35:53 AM
I am so sorry to hear about your son. Cancer is a constant fear in my family since it runs in it so I know some about the process. It is not easy to go through. My prayers are with you!  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on February 15, 2007, 04:20:27 AM
That truly is the hardest thing to go through when it's your child. My prayers are with you and your son for a remission.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: charee on February 15, 2007, 01:32:03 PM
Sorry to hear this news stay strong you are all in our thoughts  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: okarol on February 15, 2007, 01:45:51 PM
Dear Liz,
So very sorry to hear this.
Take care,
Karol  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: nextnoel on February 15, 2007, 02:09:22 PM
I'm so sorry to hear this horrible news - my prayers are with all of you. :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: kitkatz on February 15, 2007, 05:12:38 PM
Good luck with your son and his treatments.  When in rains it pours around here. *Sigh* 
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Jill D. on February 15, 2007, 05:18:27 PM
So sorry to hear about this turn of events. I will say prayers for successful treatments for Christopher, as well as prayers for you and the rest of your family in coping with this.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: kimcanada on February 15, 2007, 05:25:51 PM
So sorry about your news, your son and you are in my prayers

Kim
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Rerun on February 15, 2007, 05:46:22 PM
Liz what a beautiful picture.  Very handsome young man.  My prayers are with you and him and your whole family.  I just pray that all cancer cells would vanish.  Keep your chin up and stay as well as you can.  You are needed at home.  You are also very missed on IHD, so please come post when you get a chance........or just to relax here with us.

                                  :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: jbeany on February 15, 2007, 07:42:02 PM
 :grouphug;

Hang in there!
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: shay_pcb on February 15, 2007, 08:13:43 PM
So much for one person to go through...so sorry...hope things get better soon! Hang in there! :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: anja on February 15, 2007, 09:47:57 PM
 :(  We have missed you, Liz!  Certainly wishing for the best outcome for Christopher, what a handsome , happy-looking young man! ( I shaved my sister's head  [both times] when she was going through chemo. as it began falling out. Hoping for the best for all of you.  Keep your chin up...  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: mcjane on February 15, 2007, 11:01:30 PM
What beautiful children you have Liz, such happy smiles too. I'll bet they are devoted to each other.

I will keep Chris in my prayers & you & the rest of your family too.

Jane
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: goofynina on February 16, 2007, 12:26:16 PM
Hi Liz,  What awesome kids!! God bless you and your family today, tomorrow and forever... We are here for you  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sara on February 18, 2007, 05:29:46 PM
I'm sorry to hear this, and I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.  He's lucky to have you as his mom.   :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: DeLana on February 18, 2007, 09:16:46 PM
I will keep you, your family, and especially your son in my thoughts during this difficult time.

If you don't mind my asking (if you do, simply ignore the question and accept my apology), what kind of cancer does he have?  Medicine has made huge progress in the treatment of various cancers, especially those that affect primarily the young.  No matter what, having this diagnosis and undergoing the treatment is difficult, for the patient and the family (especially when it's your child).

Best wishes,

DeLana   :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on February 19, 2007, 09:44:04 PM
Hi everyone,
       :thx; for your prayers and good wishes. Everything is going well. Christopher is back in hospital for the week, starting his second cycle. He seems to be coping well. He has now lost all of his hair. You know I really was angry with god or whatever the heck is up there and blamed 'it' for everything going on. I was wondering why it had to be Christopher when is disabled, it just seemed so unfair. Anyway I have come to terms with everything and back on speaking terms again. Anyways will post again next week. Here is a photo of me and Christopher taken on Saturday. The other photo is of Christopher at chemotherapy yesterday. Take care all. Liz

Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Joe Paul on February 20, 2007, 01:06:45 AM
Thanks for the update, cant help but to notice Christopher's big smile! God bless each and everyone of you, and prayers are with all of you.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Wattle on February 20, 2007, 01:13:40 AM

 :cuddle;  I wish your son and your whole family all the best. Autism is hard enough he shouldn't have to deal with this also.  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: nextnoel on February 20, 2007, 10:32:21 AM
What a great smile Christopher has!  My prayers are still coming your way!
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on February 20, 2007, 02:13:19 PM
Keep on smiling Christopher,  I don't know how you do it, but keep doing it, OK :angel;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Rerun on February 20, 2007, 02:20:00 PM
Liz I have been thinking of you and your family.  Here is a hug for you today and always!

                   :cuddle;   :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: tamara on February 20, 2007, 02:24:48 PM
more  :grouphug; hope you get a collection of them !    :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Jill D. on February 20, 2007, 03:03:55 PM
Love Christopher's smile...I've been keeping him in my thoughts and prayers every night. I will pray that the next round kills lots of bad cells without making him feel too bad!
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Nan on February 20, 2007, 03:20:33 PM
Wow..mom...your plate is so full! Thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us, it is so nice to picture his smiling face while I say my prayers.  :cuddle; :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: kitkatz on February 20, 2007, 09:06:55 PM
I know it is a rough ride for you now. Best wishes and kishes go out to you and your family!
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: DeLana on February 24, 2007, 02:57:56 PM
I hope he continues to do so well and is able to keep smiling throughout the treatment.  I'm keeping you in my thoughts and wish you the very best,

DeLana   :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Bajanne on February 24, 2007, 03:43:23 PM
What a handsome cheerful young man!  My caring thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.  It's okay to rage a bit.  But it is wonderful when you come to terms with the situation and start making the best of it.  Looking forward to being kept up to date with his progress.  The name Christopher is a very special one in my family.  I will be remembering him.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Epoman on February 24, 2007, 03:56:31 PM
Hi Liz "babi68"

I had not replied to this thread because I didn't know what to say. This is so gut-wrenching for me, it makes me worry at every little cough EpoKid has and I do not know how you do it, you are a brave woman and I admire you and your courage. Your son is very strong as we all can see by him smiling while lying in his hospital bed. I wish you and your son the best.

- Epoman
Owner/Admin
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on March 06, 2007, 07:31:58 PM
 :bump;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: goofynina on March 14, 2007, 01:15:34 AM
Has anyone heard anything from Liz?  Just so she knows we are thinking of her and her son and our prayers are with her ;)
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: lola on March 19, 2007, 07:12:44 AM
 :cuddle; you are in my prayers, can't you put yourself on hold for the list so you don't lose your wait time? take care
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: angela515 on March 19, 2007, 07:25:48 AM
Hey hun, lola makes an excellent point. You should remain on the transplant list, just tell your transplant coordinator you want to go "inactive", that way you won't get any kidney but you will maintain and still continue to add up time on the list. If you chose to go "active" again in 2 years, you would have all that wait time factored in and it would only help you in he end get a kidney faster.  :twocents;

Hope all if well with your son.  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on April 30, 2007, 02:00:05 PM
Hi everyone,
        Just a quick update on Christopher. He has finished his chemo for the moment and today is his first day back at school. :clap;  He seems to be very excited. I know I am. He has been off school for 4 months and is so ready to go back. He had a CT scan yesterday and we will find out next Monday 7th if he needs more surgery and more chemo. I really hope and pray that everything will be o.k. Also I am back on the list. Put myself back on about 3 weeks ago. Thanks everyone for your prayers. Better go and pack his bag......Liz :waving;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: goofynina on April 30, 2007, 02:46:49 PM
Hi Liz,  So glad to hear that Christopher is done with his Chemo and back at school, YAY  :clap;  Also glad to hear that you are back on that list my friend,  our thoughts and prayers have been with you..... Hope to see you here more often ;)  ;)
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: lola on April 30, 2007, 03:21:42 PM
 :cuddle; wishing you the best!!








EDITED: Smiley error fixed. kitkatz, moderator
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Amanda From OZ on April 30, 2007, 04:11:03 PM
I'm so happy to hear he is off to school and finished his treatment, And glad you are back on the list.  :clap;


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Post by: Ohio Buckeye on April 30, 2007, 06:50:59 PM
!
How wonderful to hear such great news!

Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Jill D. on April 30, 2007, 07:15:52 PM
Great news! I have been thinking and praying for Christopher and your family. So good to hear from you!  :clap; :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: tamara on April 30, 2007, 07:18:44 PM
Liz,

Great News!

 :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: anja on April 30, 2007, 09:16:41 PM
 :clap;  Wishing the best results on the CT for Christopher, Liz.  Hopefully things will settle down for the both of you and life can continue to be more 'normal'!  Glad he is done with the chemo., how tough that must have been, and that you are active on 'the list' again!  Take care!    :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: DeLana on April 30, 2007, 09:54:16 PM
Great news, Liz, for both of you. 

Keeping you in my thoughts and wishing you the very best,

DeLana
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on April 30, 2007, 11:05:17 PM
Thanks everyone,
          The last round of chemo was really hard on Christopher. He was vomiting blood and was in hospital for 9 days. It really scared him alot and he didn't really understand what was happening. As he was getting on the bus this morning he looked at me and said " no more chemo, no more vomiting blood". and I told him he did real good and should be proud of himself. And with that he gave me a huge smile and got on his bus. He seems to have matured, I mean he is still autistic and quiet, but sometimes he can seem so "normal". I came inside after he left and cried my eyes out.  These last few months have been awful. Everyone is very stressed and I am surprised my marriage is still somewhat together. Well sort of. AHH we all need a holiday. Maybe one day we will come to the states to a IHD meeting. Update next week. Liz :beer1;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Wattle on April 30, 2007, 11:43:49 PM


 :grouphug;  I am so glad Christopher is getting back on track. I hope he had a great day at school.   :cuddle;

*You don't have to go to the states... come to Melbourne and have lunch with Tamara and I.   ;)
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Joe Paul on May 01, 2007, 12:46:30 AM
Good to hear Christopher is doing ok. I hope you get a chance for a holiday, to sort things out.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: angela515 on May 01, 2007, 07:27:08 AM
 :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on May 02, 2007, 09:02:50 PM
Thanks everyone,
          The last round of chemo was really hard on Christopher. He was vomiting blood and was in hospital for 9 days. It really scared him alot and he didn't really understand what was happening. As he was getting on the bus this morning he looked at me and said " no more chemo, no more vomiting blood". and I told him he did real good and should be proud of himself. And with that he gave me a huge smile and got on his bus. He seems to have matured, I mean he is still autistic and quiet, but sometimes he can seem so "normal". I came inside after he left and cried my eyes out.  These last few months have been awful. Everyone is very stressed and I am surprised my marriage is still somewhat together. Well sort of. AHH we all need a holiday. Maybe one day we will come to the states to a IHD meeting. Update next week. Liz :beer1;


It's ok to cry Babi,

Especially after all you have been through. I am so glad Christopher is doing well.

I believe the Australian members are planning a Aussie get together. I don't know what part of the country your from but maybe you all can link up.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on May 12, 2007, 10:32:36 PM
Well everyone, great news. Christopher doesn't need any more chemo or surgery at the moment. We saw the oncologist and she said his node was still large but the cells in it were dead. We need to take him for another ct scan in 3 months time to see if it has shrunk any more, and if it hasn't we may need to see a surgeon, but the oncologist said not to worry about him anymore as he is cancer free :clap;  His hair is starting to grow back now. Life is somewhat normal again. Tomorrow I start training for nocturnal, so that is my next stressball. Thanks everyone for all your prayers as they have been answered. And a big thankyou to my sister Maria, who was always there ready to listen to me and talk when I  needed it all the most.  Congratulations Grandma. (will be posting pictures later when Amy comes home)... Thanks everyone. Liz :cuddle;   p.s. Sluff , I still cry when I think of how lucky I am to have my son.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on May 12, 2007, 10:34:22 PM
Wattle,  I used to live in Melbourne ten years ago. Where abouts are u and Tamara...Liz
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: goofynina on May 12, 2007, 10:34:41 PM
Woohooo, thank you Jesus!!!  The is the absolute best news i have heard all day, God Bless all of you  :grouphug;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: charee on May 13, 2007, 12:30:35 PM
Thats  great news for Christopher and all of you , hope your training goes well, keep us posted i would like to try nocturnal later on.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on May 13, 2007, 01:15:15 PM
That is Fantastic news.
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Post by: angela515 on May 13, 2007, 02:04:12 PM
 :clap; :2thumbsup;
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Post by: nextnoel on May 14, 2007, 05:49:05 AM
I'm so glad you've had such great news!  :clap; Here's hoping your nocturmal training goes smoothly!
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Post by: Amanda From OZ on May 14, 2007, 07:56:06 AM
I'm so happy to hear the great news about your son!  :clap; :clap; Good luck with the training..

Amanda
xxoo
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: anja on May 14, 2007, 08:58:27 PM
 :clap;   So happy for Christopher and you!!!  Hope the noc. training goes well for you.  Take care, Liz.    :grouphug;   Anja
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on July 28, 2007, 01:08:51 AM
Well guys. Here I am again. We have had alot going on here the last few weeks. After I posted that everything was o.k. well it wasn't. We got a call from Christophers oncologist and she said we need to see the surgeon. Well our happiness only lasted about 2 weeks and it was decided Christopher needed major surgery to remove his lymph nodes down in his groin area. Christopher wasn't told until 2 days before the surgery as he gets very stressed about it all. So 3 weeks ago he went in and had everything he needed to get out, taken out. He was on morphine for 3 days so high as a kite, and didn't really understand what was going on. Well he did remarkably well. He got up and walked when he was told to and really made us so proud. For an autistic person he was amazing. Stephen stayed 2 nights and I stayed the others. Of course as this was going on with Christopher I have been learning nocturnal and when he was in hospital I did my overnight stays. I came home with the machine and he came home to recover. He is doing really well and will be back at school on Monday. Nocturnal is going well also. Things are going quite well. The good news is he is DEFINITELY over the worst and been told the tumours they just removed were benign, so no more chemo..... Finally the nightmare is over. :yahoo; I got the oncologist registrar to name my machine for me and for some reason he named it ' Murphy Brown', so now I have Murphy sleeping with me most nights. Thankyou everyone for all your thoughts and prayers and now will be able to catch up with everyone and read what has been happening. Bout to get on so will read up tomorrow. Thanks all. Liz :clap; :2thumbsup; :yahoo; :bandance; ;D :cuddle; :beer1; :thumbup; :wine; :-* :ausflag;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: angellady07 on July 28, 2007, 01:20:53 AM
Babi, I'll certainly keep you and your family in my prayers.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Wattle on July 28, 2007, 01:21:25 AM

 :bandance; Great news Babi.

I am so glad Chris is on the mend. And Wooohooo to you for nocturnal!
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Amanda From OZ on July 28, 2007, 02:49:02 AM
Good to hear some great news Babi.  :clap;

Sending you good thoughts your way.

Amanda
xxoo
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on July 28, 2007, 04:15:04 AM
Better to name your machine Murphy than Ellen.

Good news for Chris hope your family can get back to some kind normalcy.  :thumbup;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: MyssAnne on July 28, 2007, 07:01:19 AM
Babi, that is mixed news! I'm glad it all turned out well though!  I'm glad they kept Chris on morphine, I'm sure that kept his stress levels down, poor guy!! The aspect of another surgery, ugh, that's enough for anyone to just think of running away!! I'm glad it's REALLY better now!! :2thumbsup;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Ohio Buckeye on July 28, 2007, 09:53:02 AM
Wow, that all had to be so stressful.
Sorry Chris had to have surgery.  He sounds like a real trooper.
So glad the everything was benign and no more chemo is needed.
Good luck on the nocturnal.
Will keep you all in prayer.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: goofynina on July 28, 2007, 03:54:30 PM
Better to name your machine Murphy than Ellen.


And what may i ask is wrong with the name Ellen??

Hi Babi,  So glad to hear that Chris is doing well and you have begun your nocturnal, it sounds like its going good for you and that is AWESOME  :2thumbsup;  Thank you for coming and updating us, we look forward to hearing more from you, take care and God Bless  :cuddle;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on July 28, 2007, 03:57:47 PM
Better to name your machine Murphy than Ellen.


And what may i ask is wrong with the name Ellen??

Hi Babi,  So glad to hear that Chris is doing well and you have begun your nocturnal, it sounds like its going good for you and that is AWESOME  :2thumbsup;  Thank you for coming and updating us, we look forward to hearing more from you, take care and God Bless  :cuddle;


I'm just not an Ellen fan that is all.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: goofynina on July 28, 2007, 04:00:03 PM
Better to name your machine Murphy than Ellen.


And what may i ask is wrong with the name Ellen??

Hi Babi,  So glad to hear that Chris is doing well and you have begun your nocturnal, it sounds like its going good for you and that is AWESOME  :2thumbsup;  Thank you for coming and updating us, we look forward to hearing more from you, take care and God Bless  :cuddle;


I'm just not an Ellen fan that is all.

That's too bad, she is awesome, i am hoping (and waiting for her to knock Oprah off her pedestal any day now) :P   Babi, i think Murphy is a great name for your machine,  mine is named Elvis  :bow;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Jill D. on July 28, 2007, 08:52:03 PM
Thanks for the update, Babi. You, Chris and the rest of your family will continue to be in my prayers!
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: charee on July 28, 2007, 10:16:28 PM
great news babi  :2thumbsup;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Bajanne on July 29, 2007, 04:42:08 AM
So happy to hear your good news!  And happy that Christopher has proved such a trooper.  My caring thoughts and prayers continue to be with you all.  Keep us posted, please.
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: babi68 on July 29, 2007, 04:46:17 AM
thanks everyone. it has been exhausting but all is going to be fine. now just a new kidney and all would be even better. what a crappy year this one turned out to be. It can only get better from here. love the name of your machine. Elvis.... thanks again all and will now be more active in posting....i like ellen, can't stand Oprah....Liz :waving; :ausflag;
Title: Re: son has cancer
Post by: Sluff on July 29, 2007, 05:32:36 AM
....i like ellen, can't stand Oprah....Liz :waving; :ausflag;



I'm always outnumbered... :lol;