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Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: General Discussion => Topic started by: willowtreewren on March 14, 2012, 04:34:06 PM

Title: Kidney Failure claims another victim
Post by: willowtreewren on March 14, 2012, 04:34:06 PM

We got the call from our nephew this afternoon that Carl's sister had taken her life. Our brother-in-law found her when he got home from work today.  She had been on dialysis for about 6 years, but had much trouble. Her bones were like egg shells and the day before Carl's transplant she broke both hips when she missed her chair and hit the floor. Although she had a willing donor lined up for a paired exchange, she was deemed too weak to survive the surgery.

She was in lots of pain and I think it just became too much.

I hate this disease.

When death comes into our lives, it is important to take stock, though. Life is sweet and precious. Live each day and be glad for each morning that you wake up and have another day to enjoy.

RIP Deborah. Your fight is over. I wish you could have had an easier path like your brother. I know it was hard for you to see him lead such  a healthy life despite kidney failure. It wasn't fair that you suffered so much. I also wish you had found your way here for the support you could have found. I knew that if I told you about IHD, you never would have visited, but I did tell your dear husband. I do wish things could have been better for you.

xoxoxoxox   :'(

Aleta

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: Cordelia on March 14, 2012, 04:48:30 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss.        :(      My condolensces to you and your family.       :grouphug;

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: conchman on March 14, 2012, 05:02:29 PM

Prayers to you and yours Willow...a new angel is born... :angel;



Conchman,

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: lmunchkin on March 14, 2012, 05:13:45 PM

Sorry Aleta. This is such an awful disease for sure!  May she RIP, and now has no more burdens to bear!

lmunchkin

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: jbeany on March 14, 2012, 05:14:58 PM

 :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: willowtreewren on March 14, 2012, 05:21:12 PM

Thank you....

We are still in shock.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: jeannea on March 14, 2012, 08:31:11 PM

That's so sad. I hope she has found peace. My sympathies to the family.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: Desert Dancer on March 14, 2012, 10:27:29 PM

Oh, Aleta, I'm so sorry.  :grouphug;

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: Darthvadar on March 15, 2012, 02:23:58 AM

How terribly sad, Aleta...

May she rest in peace...

Darth...

God saw the road was getting rough,
 The hill was hard to climb;
 He gently closed those loving eyes
 And whispered “Peace Be Thine.”


The weary hours, the days of pain,
 The sleepless nights have passed;
 The ever patient worn-out frame
 Has found sweet rest at last.


God Saw that you were weary
 So He did what He knows best.
 He came and stood beside you,
 And whispered, “Come and rest.”


You bid no one a last farewell,
 Not even a goodbye.
 You were gone before we knew it,
 And only God knows why.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: natnnnat on March 15, 2012, 03:28:02 AM

That's hard news Aleta.   :grouphug; :grouphug;  Thinking of you and Carl.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: amanda100wilson on March 15, 2012, 03:31:15 AM

That is so very sad.

Garth, that is a beautiful poem.

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Post by: Rerun on March 15, 2012, 04:31:41 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss.

   :pray;

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: Traveller1947 on March 15, 2012, 05:29:52 AM

Aleta, I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your sister-in-law.   Life IS sweet and precious, as you have wisely said.  Deborah was part of this community, whether she joined or not.  In that sense, your loss is our loss too.  God bless you and Carl.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: plugger on March 15, 2012, 06:08:46 AM

I wanted to offer my condolences.  It can be a fine line between when life is worth living and when it's not - I'm sorry to hear she crossed that line.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: Riverwhispering on March 15, 2012, 06:23:23 AM

Aleta my heart is with you and your loved ones.  It's so sad  :grouphug;

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: Poppylicious on March 15, 2012, 06:50:01 AM

Moe *huggles* for both of you.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: willowtreewren on March 15, 2012, 07:27:54 AM

Poppy, thanks for the huggles, and more of them..... That means so much.

And everyone, kidney failure affects all of us.... we need to stand strong against it.  :cuddle;

Aleta

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: willowtreewren on March 15, 2012, 08:41:57 AM

We just heard from our niece. There is not going to be a funeral. And oh, the irony. All of our brother-in-law's family will be visiting for his son's wedding on Saturday. So sad.

Plugger, I so get what you are saying..... She had a very hard time of it, and I realize that it just got to be more than she could bear.

She had been giving hints that her husband took as casual comments.....

Thanks everyone for caring.

Aleta

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: billybags on March 15, 2012, 12:32:09 PM

willowtreewren, That is so sad. Thinking about you and your family.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: galvo on March 15, 2012, 02:54:51 PM

So so sad. But so understandable. My condolences, aleta.

Title: Re: Kidnay Failure claims another victim
Post by: Animal on March 15, 2012, 03:32:47 PM

I wish for you and your family to have peace of heart. I am sorry for your loss.  :grouphug;

Title: Re: Kidney Failure claims another victim
Post by: kevinswife on March 15, 2012, 07:12:04 PM

This sad news is making my cry.   :'(   I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart goes out to her husband and the family. 

Title: Re: Kidney Failure claims another victim
Post by: okarol on March 15, 2012, 11:56:21 PM

 :cuddle; So sorry Aleta, best wishes to you and Carl.

Title: Re: Kidney Failure claims another victim
Post by: Whamo on March 16, 2012, 06:11:51 AM

God bless her soul.  I'm sorry for your loss.  It sounds like she was suffering so at least that came to an end.   :grouphug;

Title: Re: Kidney Failure claims another victim
Post by: kitkatz on March 16, 2012, 06:22:44 AM

It is sad when a loved one goes. Hugs to your family.