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Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: Spouses and Caregivers => Topic started by: buffalogal855 on April 16, 2011, 06:08:58 AM

Title: need to vent!
Post by: buffalogal855 on April 16, 2011, 06:08:58 AM

Hi - I'm new here.  I just want to vent. I'm a caregiver to my husband.  Most days I'm okay and take what life has given me, but today I'm feeling alone. I don't want to complain to my kids or my husband, but I'm so tired to being caregiver to everyone!  Took care of my mother (severe debilitating stroke); mother in-law (cancer), husband (stroke 2003) and now kidney failure.  I'm worried about who will take care of me!  My husband was so wonderful to me when I had hip surgery and I've told him all I want is to have him to comfort me with his soft gentle hands and I'm afraid he won't be here for that.  I love him so much.

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: Brightsky69 on April 16, 2011, 06:27:11 AM

Wow...you have been thru a lot. My BF is my cargiver....not  as stressful now since I got my transplant. At least I hope it's not for him.  ;D
I did notice that while I was on dialysis he would take some time out for himself at least once a week. That seemed to help. I hope you have the oppertunity to take a break once in a while.
Feel free to vent on here anytime.  :cuddle;

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: buffalogal855 on April 16, 2011, 06:34:45 AM

Thank you for caring! :kiss;

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: boswife on April 16, 2011, 07:32:23 AM

your post touched my heart and brought tears..Its so hard 'emotionally' that it makes the physical part that much harder as well. Please continue here talking to everyone  because believe you me,  we all have been on one end or the other of your situation.  Sending love and hugs from another caregiver/partner to hubby who i love dearly, and hope to have the warmpth of his hands for comfort  :'(

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: looneytunes on April 16, 2011, 08:09:34 AM

Of course you feel this loneliness and my heart goes out to you.  When we commit to another for life, we don't know what that life will hold.  But we hope that we can bring comfort to our loved one and that they will do the same for us.  I also have spent most of my life caring for others with health problems.  And I also wonder who will care for me if I should ever need it.  I guess that bridge will be crossed when I get there though.  Sending you a cyber-hug and hoping you will take some time out to do something nice for yourself today.   :grouphug;

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: buffalogal855 on April 16, 2011, 08:36:48 AM

Thank you all for making me feel better and to know I am not alone.  This is the best site ever and I want to give huge hugs to everyone!    :grouphug;

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: billybags on April 16, 2011, 10:39:55 AM

buffalogal855, I am the carer for my husband and yes it does get you down. One day you sail through what ever and the next day it is sh**. I get emotionally tired. I too also think about who will look after me, that's on a down day. Try to do some thing for your self, have some me time. Welcome to the site.  :welcomesign;

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: Poppylicious on April 18, 2011, 11:55:34 AM

buffalogal, please accept these *huggles*.  Sometimes it's completely pants being the one who bears the brunt of everything, but the good thing is that you have us.  Please use us as your emotional support when you feel lonesome. 

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: monrein on April 18, 2011, 12:22:01 PM

 :grouphug;

Title: Re: need to vent!
Post by: jbeany on April 18, 2011, 04:20:20 PM

Vent away!  We're here, and we've been there. 

 :grouphug;