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Title: Dying
Post by: DarkSoul0703 on March 09, 2011, 06:15:09 PM: So, like the topic, I wanted to let you all know, that my partner (who is owner of this account) is dying. She went off dialysis last Monday, Feb 28th. She is in the care of hospice now and they are keeping her comfortable with some different drugs right now. It's not easy losing the person you love, but she choose to do this. I wanted to let you all know. Thanks. Jennifer, wife and partner to Belinda Foley.
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Post by: MooseMom on March 09, 2011, 06:18:31 PM: I am so, so sorry to hear this. I know she suffered a lot on dialysis; I remember her saying how much trouble she had with throwing up after each treatment. It must have been very difficult for both of you. I know that she had been contemplating stopping dialysis. Sometimes that is the best option. There is a difference between fighting adversity and allowing yourself to be continually tortured.

I know that hospice will keep her comfortable, and I hope you will find solace in their care for her. Thank you so much for letting us know; that was very kind of you.
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Post by: willowtreewren on March 09, 2011, 06:30:40 PM: :'(

:cuddle;

:grouphug;

Thinking of you and your partner during this sad time. It takes courage to face death with dignity. For both of you.

:grouphug;
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Post by: jbeany on March 09, 2011, 06:47:12 PM: Hugs to you both, Jennifer.
:grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Post by: galvo on March 09, 2011, 07:12:58 PM: So sorry!
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Post by: okarol on March 09, 2011, 08:16:44 PM: :grouphug; I am so sorry. All the best to you and your family. :'(
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Post by: looneytunes on March 09, 2011, 08:18:21 PM: Jennifer, though it saddens us to lose one we love, that same love allows us to respect their right to make this decision. My heart goes out to you and you both will be in my prayers. :grouphug;
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Post by: gothiclovemonkey on March 09, 2011, 08:22:10 PM: :grouphug; Im very sorry to hear this...
its a hard decision.......... i almost chose the same myself...
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Post by: Des on March 09, 2011, 10:08:10 PM: Thank you so much for letting us know. (Thinking of all of us in this difficult time in your lives.)

May you cherish the last few days with her. :grouphug;

We (IHD) will always be here when you need to talk. :cuddle;

Please send her our love if you can.
Luv Des
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Post by: Jean on March 10, 2011, 02:09:55 AM: So sorry to hear of this. Sending hugs and prayers to both of you.
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Post by: KICKSTART on March 10, 2011, 02:32:23 AM: I am so sorry but i can understand why people make this choice. I have no words to comfort you, i wish i could take away the pain you are both going through. I admire your strength. Bless you both.
KSx
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Post by: carol1987 on March 10, 2011, 03:34:33 AM: :grouphug; I am so very sorry....
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Post by: Darthvadar on March 10, 2011, 04:18:55 AM: Thinking of, and praying for you both!...

Thank you so much for letting us know...

May God bless and protect you at this difficult time...

Love...

Darth...
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: monrein on March 10, 2011, 07:02:05 AM: I'm thinking of you both and wishing you peace at this time. So very difficult for you each in different ways. :grouphug;
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Post by: phyl1215 on March 10, 2011, 07:17:56 AM: May you both find peace...keeping you both in my prayers.
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Post by: peleroja on March 10, 2011, 07:18:47 AM: I am so sorry for your loss. Know that we are all thinking about you and your partner.
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Post by: Ladybag on March 10, 2011, 07:58:16 AM: I just wanted to say that I am sorry and I am thinking of both of you right now. When I read your post I cried for both of you this is a tough decision for both of you. Please know my thought and prayers are with you now and forever.
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Post by: YLGuy on March 10, 2011, 08:02:20 AM: :grouphug; I am so sorry to hear. You are both in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by: paris on March 10, 2011, 08:39:33 AM: I am so very sorry. It is a hard decision and even harder for the loved ones to go through. May she find the peace she is looking for. :cuddle;
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Post by: kristina on March 10, 2011, 11:02:32 AM: I am so sorry for your loss.

Thanks for letting us know.

All the best to you and your family

from Kristina.
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Post by: MakeMyDay on March 10, 2011, 11:05:34 AM: :grouphug; I'm so sorry to hear this. :grouphug;
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Post by: Marsh on March 10, 2011, 06:11:50 PM: :grouphug;
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Post by: rsudock on March 10, 2011, 11:55:01 PM: Rest in Peace...thank you for letting us know...

xo,
R
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Post by: AguynamedKim on March 11, 2011, 03:54:13 AM: I'm so sorry to hear what you've both been going through. :grouphug;
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Post by: WishIKnew on March 11, 2011, 05:18:32 AM: Thinking of you.....
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Post by: Poppylicious on March 11, 2011, 01:55:13 PM: I am so so sorry. Many *huggles* for both of you.
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Post by: woodsman on March 11, 2011, 03:28:48 PM: Give her our best, i live here in franklinville, ny and if i can help in any way let me know.
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Post by: woodsman on March 22, 2011, 03:47:40 PM: ttt nothing more???? dam it
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Post by: woodsman on March 22, 2011, 06:39:57 PM: TTT means To The Top, i was just wondering what if any news had been heard, i live in the same small town and never knew it unitl i checked her profile... was just wondering, its a small world...
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Post by: cariad on March 23, 2011, 01:11:42 PM: lmunchkin, I fully support your decision and wish you a peaceful passing. I wish you had started your own thread, because I think most people will miss your statement here. It sounds like you and your wife have been through a lot and could use support as you prepare for the end of your time on earth. I am sorry your children are doing this to your wife - she obviously deserves better, but all I can think is that they are speaking our of grief and ignorance. Yes, of course once you reach the point where you no longer think this is living, just existing, it is time to stop. I think most everyone here will understand your decision.

All the best.

(A quick side note - the woman mentioned in this thread was in a same sex relationship. I hope her partner is managing all right on her own.)
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: MooseMom on March 23, 2011, 01:21:31 PM: lmunchkin' husband, like cariad suggested, would you consider starting your own thread on this topic? It's such an important conversation to have, and I think a lot of people might like to respond while not hijacking the original poster's discussion. But please do not feel obligated to do so; we want to be supportive but not intrusive.
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Post by: paris on March 23, 2011, 01:31:50 PM: Imunchkin's husband, this is a beautiful post; although sad, it was said with such feeling, love and acceptance. I will hold you in my thoughts and pray the time with family is special. And I do not believe it is suicide - it is nature taking its course. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. :cuddle;
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Post by: paris on March 23, 2011, 01:33:45 PM: Quote from: woodsman on March 22, 2011, 06:39:57 PM
TTT means To The Top, i was just wondering what if any news had been heard, i live in the same small town and never knew it unitl i checked her profile... was just wondering, its a small world...

"To The Top" - I love it! I may be borrowing those letters in the future!
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: lmunchkin on March 23, 2011, 02:04:54 PM: My wife just showed me the responses to my one little post. If she wants to create a thread, how would she or I go about it? Neither of us are very familiar with computers. Can anyone advise us or possibly do it for us?
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Post by: Deanne on March 23, 2011, 02:17:34 PM: Jennifer, I hope you, Belinda, and your children are at peace if you're still reading this, and if Belinda has passed, that her journey was pleasant.

Imunchkin's husband. May your journey also proceed peacefully. When it's time, it's time. For those who are left behind, of course it hurts, but I can't feel hurt for the one who is leaving. Some of your time on this earth was good, some of it bad. It's time for a new adventure elsewhere and may it be pure bliss for you!
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: MooseMom on March 23, 2011, 02:21:01 PM: Quote from: lmunchkin on March 23, 2011, 02:04:54 PM
My wife just showed me the responses to my one little post. If she wants to create a thread, how would she or I go about it? Neither of us are very familiar with computers. Can anyone advise us or possibly do it for us?

I'll do it for you if you'd like...what would you like to call the new thread? If you'd prefer to do it yourself, you just sign in as usual and go to the "General discussion forum". On the righthand side near the top, above all of the discussions, you'll see various options, one of which is "New Topic."
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: lmunchkin on March 23, 2011, 05:11:34 PM: Oh thanks M.M. would you do this for my husband? I just am not comfortable with doing it myself. Let see what the topic should be called, End of Life Discisions, maybe? Heck, I dont know! I asked him what he wanted it to say but him being the obliging YOUNG man that he is, is leaving it up to me.
Now when you do this for us, where do I look for it. Sorry to be ignorant when it comes to computers. Okarol had to help me sign in. Bet she got a good laugh out of that. Ive been reading this site for some time before I became a "Newbie" , but know there are some that have been here a long time. Just let me know where to look Moose Mom. We really do appreciate your assistance. Lets just don't use the word "Journey" okay? lol Love you MM. You are so helpful to this site and its people!
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: MooseMom on March 23, 2011, 05:16:22 PM: I'll start it right now and will call it "End of Life Discussions" just as you suggest. I'll put it in this forum, "General Discussion". And I will NOT use the word "journey"!
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: lmunchkin on March 23, 2011, 06:58:39 PM: Ok MM, I see where you put it in the forum, but where is his post? Does he have to do it again! Whew.......that is a book! Is there a way to copy it to the forum? If so can you do that too! Lord help me, cause I have no idea what Im doing.
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: okarol on March 23, 2011, 10:04:14 PM: I moved the post to that thread.

To see the "End of Life Discussions" go to http://ihatedialysis.com/forum/index.php?topic=22455.0

I hope you can follow this. Next time let me know and I can easily split and merge threads.

okarol/admin
Title: Re: Dying
Post by: MooseMom on March 23, 2011, 10:27:27 PM: Oh gosh, okarol, I really apologize! It is not my business to be copying threads or moving posts or anything that should be left up to you mods. I wasn't thinking, and I am so sorry. Lmunchkin was online and so was I, and I thought I was helping her but instead I acted above my pay grade. Again, mhy apologies! :bow;
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Post by: okarol on March 23, 2011, 10:36:41 PM: LOL I thought I knew what to do until I split the post - then I saw the copied one - didn't realize til it was too late and I am afraid I'll make it worse.
:waiting;