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Introduction => The IHD Family - Our Members => Topic started by: Sluff on January 02, 2007, 06:33:10 PM
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My Father was struggling with heart disease and diabetes for over 14 years.
My father prepared us for the inevitable for many years. My Mother and Sister always dismissed the conversations we had on the subject of life insurance and life without him.
Well dad developed lung cancer and the illness took it's toll quickly, after one of his hospital visits he called and said "I need to see you son".
I knew what he wanted to see me about and I couldn't sleep the night before I went to see him, so I started to put a few words on paper about how this course of events made me feel, I came up with this song.
I made the trip to see my dad and we once again went over burial plans and what I would do for Mom with his life insurance etc etc..then he popped the question, he asked if I would read his eulogy.
I agreed to do it but told him I had been working on something I wanted him to hear, I played the song you are about to hear but only me and my guitar(I'm not a good guitar player) I strummed a few chords and sang the song.
He loved it, so I went into a studio and recorded the song the way it is here.
My Father was able to listen to this song for three days straight, before his death August 11th 2001, he told my Mom that, this song summed up his life exactly the way he felt.
Needless to say this is my Fathers eulogy:
Sluff's Song - Click Here (http://www.ihatedialysis.com/mp3/sluffssong.mp3) (It is in .MP3 format, a new window will open.)
Thanks for listening to a very important part of my life, as I share this with you.
-Sluff
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Well Sluff, you did it to me again, brought me to tears. You are such an outstanding person and i can only wish all those that have you in their lives appreciate you for who you are and what you stand for. I applaud you my friend :clap; for having the courage to do this for your dad, not only the courage but the skills as well, it is absolutely beautiful and touching and i will cherish my personal cd that you gave me always. Thank you Sluff, thank you for being YOU :cuddle;
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Beautiful Sluff :'(
:cuddle;
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That was beautiful Thanks for sharing that Sluff :grouphug;
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Thank you sluff, that was beautiful.
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:thx; :grouphug;
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Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I am typing through my tears. Last week we had a celebration for the 100th anniversary of my father's birth - that is why I went to Barbados - so I am still in a sentimental mood where fathers are concerned!
It is absolutely wonderful when we are able to express our love to our loved ones before they pass on and even afterwards.
Thanks again.
Very touching song...
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This was another gift sluff had sent me (the song in CD format) along with the plaque and I asked sluff if he wanted to share it with the members. I was very touched by the song, it made me think about my son and my death but in a good way and I pictured my son hearing that song when I pass and it making him feel a little better, knowing that I am in a better place. Thanks again sluff.
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- Epoman
Your Friend.
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thankyou for sharing such a personal experience,you are such a decent guy. :-*
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Beautiful - both the words and the music. Thank you for sharing.
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Wow Sluff that was fantastic :cuddle; I wish I could have done something that perfect for my Mum when she passed away a few years ago. You are obviously a very special person and I am sure your Dad is up there keeping a keen eye on you now. God bless Darling and thanks for sharing that with us. xx
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:clap; Man, you put in words, the words I have searched for all my life. Your Dad is special...He had you sluff, rock on!
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:clap; That was beautiful! :clap;
Very heartfelt and moving.
Donna
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Thank you for sharing that. I can only imagine how much that must have meant to your dad. :cuddle;
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Thanks for all the positive comments. I do appreaciate them. I have written a few songs and lots of poems and even have a few copyrights but have never done anything professional. I appreaciate Epoman putting this out for everyone to hear.
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So touching.
That must have been so comforting to both you and your Dad.
Maybe one day one of your songs will be a big hit. I hope so.
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That would give anyone comfort. Thanks for sharing it with us.
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The first thing that came to my mind after the tears was, how lovely.
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Thank you for sharing such a personal but beautiful relationship in your life. You were both blessed to have each other and the example you have set is a gift. Thank you.
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Oh, my. That was really something. Thanks for sharing.
Pat
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Sluff, that was beautiful. I spoke at my Mom's funeral and I know how difficult it most have been for you to write this when you were dealing with the pain of what was happening to your Dad. I'm sure it was a great comfort to him and it must have meant so much to him. You are a very special person!
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Very nice. I loved the music that you put with the words. I guess that is what makes a song, but I really liked the music. Good job Sluff I'm sure your Dad was so proud.
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That is so beautiful, Sluff! What a wonderful gift you have, and such a tribute to your dad. Thank you for sharing!
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My deepest condoleseces and respect. My father passed away as a dialysis patient 2 years ago.
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My deepest condoleseces and respect. My father passed away as a dialysis patient 2 years ago.
Thank You and the same respect back at you for your loss.
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I just listened to the song now. That is a good song. I would love to let my dad listen to it. Is that okay? His dad died when he was just a little boy.
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I just listened to the song now. That is a good song. I would love to let my dad listen to it. Is that okay? His dad died when he was just a little boy.
Of course Angie that's why I posted it.
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I just listened to the song now. That is a good song. I would love to let my dad listen to it. Is that okay? His dad died when he was just a little boy.
Of course Angie that's why I posted it.
Thank you Sluff :) I know it will touch his heart like it has touched everyone's here.
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I just heard this song a moment ago and I must say sluff, I am very impressed. You managed to put your heart felt thoughts into words for a beautiful song where most people would struggle just to put their thoughts into words, let alone, create anything magical with them. Well done sir.
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I just heard this song a moment ago and I must say sluff, I am very impressed. You managed to put your heart felt thoughts into words for a beautiful song where most people would struggle just to put their thoughts into words, let alone, create anything magical with them. Well done sir.
Thanks Sandman and Angie I hope eveyone gets something special from this song.
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wow thank you sluff for sharing. That was beautiful :)
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I am selfishly bumping this, LOL, Fathers day is around the corner and we have a few new members who may not have heard this so here we go... thinking of my Dad again. :'(
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That was beautiful, Sluff. Thanks for sharing :2thumbsup;.
Adam
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I can empathize, especially today. My brother's first grandchild was born today and he is not alive to see her. I know his son has thought of him today and wished so hard that his dad was here to see her, and my parents have missed their son as well. A happy and sad day :'( Emma Rie(Ree) 6lbs 4 oz, 19 inches, and she looks like her dad when he was a baby. My brother would be so proud of his son and his granddaughter.
Thanks for the :bump; I wanted to share those thoughts but didn't want to start a new thread.
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Congratulations are in order! :thumbup;
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Congratulations are in order! :thumbup;
:thx; :thx; :thx; :thx; I still haven't figured out if I'm a Grandaunt or a Greataunt. :lol;
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Congratulations are in order! :thumbup;
:thx; :thx; :thx; :thx; I still haven't figured out if I'm a Grandaunt or a Greataunt. :lol;
You are both; grand and great.
Congratulations.
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:yahoo; Congrats, Black ! I am sure you will be a great auntie to your grandneice! :grouphug;
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Thanks for the kind words.
I lost my 52 year old brother to renal cell carcinoma in July of 2002. My parents lost their only son. But, more importantly my two nephews and my niece, lost their Dad. The youngest had not yet started her senior year of high school. Dad's are so important and it is extremely sad when the loss comes young. Epokid comes to mind. Even as an adult it is hard to bury a parent.
The birth of my niece, his first grandchild, poignantly reminded me of their loss, and the wonderful event he missed. He has been on my mind and I'm sure on the mind of his son and our parents. I am so fortunate to still have both of my parents. Wish I could be there with them and the rest of the family. ::sigh::
Thanks again Sluff. You were a good son and I'm sure your father was very proud of you.
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Sluff Otto and I just listened to the song and we give you 2 :2thumbsup;
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Thanks Lola and Otto, Epoman really liked the song because he thought of him and Nick. :bump; I thought I would bump this for the new members. :bump;
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Thank you for sharing this with us Sluff. It's very touching.
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Oh Sluff I hadn't heard this before, it's beautiful, thank you for sharing something so special Your daddy was very lucky to have such a caring son who clearly loved him so much. I would like my own sons to hear this (they were 17 and 19 when their dad died after a long battle with cancer) this could so be a tribute to him. Love ya Sluff (got to stop now, too many tears) xx
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Sluff
I have chills and tears
that is so beautiful
words can not do you justice
beautiful
what a tribute to your dad
and I know your son loves you as much
you are a wonderful person
glad to be your friend
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Thank you for the nice comments. :grouphug;
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Oh sluff,,,I just hear your song...omgggggg your made me cry...........
xoxoox
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Hi Sluff - I just ran into this thread. What a beautiful song you wrote. You are an inspiration.
Sandyb
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What a nice song and tribute.
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Thanks I was a little embarrassed at first but Epoman convinced me to have him post it. I'm glad he did.