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Title: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Des on January 24, 2011, 09:57:10 PM
Charmaine is a fellow D pasient at the unit and went to hospital for antibiotics. She was in a normal ward. She died in the early hours of yesterday morning. Diabetic coma. Her sugar went too low while she was sleeping and she never woke up.

My heart is breaking and the tears are streaming down my face as I sit here. She was going to get married in Feb.

Her fiance visited me at the unit last night and my chest was just aching with the hurt and sadness that he projected.

I am so sad.....  :'(

Why do bad things happen to good people? ??? :'(
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: galvo on January 24, 2011, 10:54:18 PM
Terrible news, Des. My condolences.
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: YLGuy on January 25, 2011, 12:42:25 AM
Des, I am so, so sorry.  It is so hard.  :grouphug;
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: okarol on January 25, 2011, 12:56:04 AM
 :'( So young. It's tragic. I don't have any answers. So very sorry Des.  :cuddle;
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: natnnnat on January 25, 2011, 04:16:39 AM
I just did a frantic search to find the name of your friend who joined IHD:  it was Charlene. Thank goodness it is not the same name.  But I'm really sorry to hear this Des.   :grouphug;
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: monrein on January 25, 2011, 05:21:29 AM
 :grouphug;  Very sad Des.   :grouphug;
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Cordelia on January 25, 2011, 10:25:58 AM
I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. :grouphug; My father passed away 25 years ago on the 24th of January, I still miss him so much 25 years later. :'( :(
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Poppylicious on January 25, 2011, 11:24:02 AM
So sorry Des.

*huggles*
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Darthvadar on January 25, 2011, 12:19:50 PM
Oh no!...

How sad.... May she rest in peace...

Darth...
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: KICKSTART on January 25, 2011, 02:47:08 PM
R.I.P. God Bless.
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Kay on January 25, 2011, 03:01:07 PM
Dear Des,
My heart goes out to you.
Try to imagine your friend in a good place - we are everyone of us going there - she just went a little bit sooner.
Life is full of sorrow - take time to grieve and then keep busy. I lost both of my brothers when they were young-
one in a car accident another with a brain tumour.  I always imagine them in another room -  I truly believe we will
meet again.
With deepest condolences,
Kay
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Lillupie on January 25, 2011, 03:21:38 PM
I am so sorry to that.  It makes me sad to hear someone who passed away.

Lisa
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Chris on January 25, 2011, 05:51:25 PM
Sorry to hear Des and from first hand knowledge, those diabetic lows are more dangerous in a hospital when I wasn't in the right ward. Luckily I was found on the floor by a aide walking by.
 
Hospital Idiots are universal.
 
Hoe you have had a better day.
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: del on January 25, 2011, 06:10:36 PM
 :cuddle; :cuddle;
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: boswife on January 25, 2011, 06:32:35 PM
heartbreaking..  Im so sorry for your sadness, and that of her man.  Im so sorry  and send my prayers..
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: kitkatz on January 25, 2011, 06:56:05 PM
That is so sad.  Prayers for her and for you!
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Jean on January 26, 2011, 12:05:29 AM
So sorry to hear this Des. Prayers for her and for you to help you thru this hard time.
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: rsudock on January 26, 2011, 02:57:30 AM
why do  bad things happen to good people?? I couldn't agree more...hang tough friend deepest sympathies!!!

xo,
R
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Des on January 27, 2011, 02:53:19 AM
Thankyou so much my friends.

I have just returned from the funeral. It was the saddest thing EVER.

I am going to take a while to recover from this one.

Thanks again.

Lov
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Rerun on January 27, 2011, 04:39:19 AM
Leave it to me to be pissed, but she was in the HOSPITAL.... and her blood sugar went too low?  Isn't anyone looking into that?  What was it SHIFT CHANGE????  Where were those people!  OMG!

What's done is done and my heart goes out to you and her family, but JESUS! 
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: carol1987 on January 27, 2011, 08:03:05 AM
 :cuddle; I am so sorry......
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Brightsky69 on January 27, 2011, 08:38:50 AM
 :'( So sorry....
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: ODAT on January 27, 2011, 01:12:06 PM
I am sorry for your loss. Rerun has some valid questions for sure. My mom is diabetic and I often worry about this happening to her. How low is low? We monitor my mom but how fast can bs fall that this could happen if she was checked regularly especially in the hospital.

 :grouphug;
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Rerun on January 27, 2011, 01:25:16 PM


bs = blood sugar   :secret;
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Chris on January 27, 2011, 03:34:23 PM
I am sorry for your loss. Rerun has some valid questions for sure. My mom is diabetic and I often worry about this happening to her. How low is low? We monitor my mom but how fast can bs fall that this could happen if she was checked regularly especially in the hospital.

 :grouphug;
A hospitalmost of the time just checks the blood sugar before meals and then at bedtime. On has to complain that they do not feel right to get their blood sugar checked, but if you are familiar with hospital stays, that call light is never answered in a timely matter at times or they come in 20 minutes later or even forget you.
 
Is your mom type one or type two diabetic ODAT?
With insulin, there are different types which allow bs to drop / maintain at different rates. Medication for type two diabetics acts on the same principle but reacts at a different rate. BS can drop at different rates due to activity, food, stress, other meds, body weight,so everyone has differences. Some people need to check their lood sugar more than 4 times a day. I was up to 10 times a day. How low is low, people react differently to which number is to low for them, but below 80 is time to start monitoring more or get some food. normal bs range is 80 to 140 mg/dl according to the ADA.
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Des on January 28, 2011, 10:22:14 AM
She was asleep at the time. It was 23 just before she went to bed. The nurse made her give herself some insulin.
She never would have injected her with a reading of 23 at night as she knows her sugar drops while she sleeps. Her fiance told me so.


When they woke her up the next morning with her tea, they could not wake her.
He decided not to investigate it as he felt like it would not bring her back.

6 is a relative ok reading but she has dropped to 1.1 and 0 at occasion. I think I mentioned on here of someone nearly dying in the unit not so long ago.....well that was her. (little did we know)

 :'(
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Chris on January 28, 2011, 11:21:40 AM
I forgot the conversion factor, but my thinking is that it should be investigated so it doesn't happen to someone else.. However since this just happened, it is to early to be thinking lawsuits in my mind, except that evidence would need to be collected.
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Sluff on January 28, 2011, 07:09:52 PM
My condolences Del on the loss of your friend.
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: tyefly on January 28, 2011, 07:13:43 PM
Des     Hoping life is getting better for you....
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: Des on January 31, 2011, 01:13:40 AM
Thanks, Not feeling good.

 :'(
Title: Re: My 33 year old friend Charmaine died the 24th Jan
Post by: kristina on January 31, 2011, 02:22:55 AM
Des, I am very sorry for the loss of your friend Charmaine.
I also lost a few good Lupus-friends over the years
and it was very very hurtful,
especially because I saw how very hard they tried to survive.

I send you my good wishes, :grouphug;

Kristina.