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Title: Dealing with alzheimer's
Post by: del on November 18, 2010, 04:36:37 PM
We have been having a difficult time the past year.  Hubby's mom lived with us for about 25 years and has been showing signs of dementia for about the past 10 years but nothing too serious.  Last Christmas things really started to go downhill.  She got to the point where she couldn't find the washroom in our house!!  She is now in a nursing home and has steadily deteriorated.  She now sometimes doesn't know we are there, can't dress herself and she is losing the ability to feed herself.  Hubby is having a very difficult time because he has always been very close to his mom.  He is doing much better than he was - I think he is finally starting to accept the way things are.  I really wish there would be a cure found for this or someone would find out what causes it. It is so sad to watch!!
Title: Re: Dealing with alzheimer's
Post by: Mizar on November 18, 2010, 05:52:13 PM

 This is a Disease, that Affects, the Whole Family, like Kidney Disease. It Hurts. I have a Sister-In-Law, only 65 Years Old. She is a Graduate of the University of
  Michigan. She started showing signs of this, about 8 Years Ago. A Year Ago, My Brother-In-Law, came to Visit us. My Sister-In - Law, went into the Bathroom
 and when I didn't see the Door Closing, I went to check on Her. She was Standing in front of the Light Switch, trying to Work it. It made Me Sad. This is a
 Woman I have known, for 42 Years, but not the same Woman, I always knew.  Peace to You and Yours.
Title: Re: Dealing with alzheimer's
Post by: Jean on November 19, 2010, 01:19:40 AM
Alzheimers is a nasty insiduous disease. My BFF has it and it is like seeing her die before my very eyes. I have researched and have found a great site. www.bestfriendsapproach.com. It helps some, but it is just killing me to see her go downhill so fast. I am very patient with her, but, sometimes, I dont want to be, and then I feel so guilty. And then, sometimes I feel like the damned disease is contagious too!!!
Title: Re: Dealing with alzheimer's
Post by: thegrammalady on November 19, 2010, 10:46:08 AM
my dad , 89, has alzheimer's. my parents live in an assisted living center or my mom couldn't cope. daddy argues about everything from letting housekeeping in to clean the apartment to going to doctors appointments. most days he doesn't do anything but sit in his chair and sleep.  it's hard, especially since i can't be there more than 2 maybe 3 times a year.
Title: Re: Dealing with alzheimer's
Post by: del on November 19, 2010, 11:11:56 AM
Hubby's mother was always a very pleasant and easy to get along with but that changed drastically last year. Almost like she was paranoid and people were out to get her.  She even started getting really mad with hubby on times and she would never do that. It changes personalities completely. The mom that hubby knew and loved is no longer there except in body and that is so sad. 
Title: Re: Dealing with alzheimer's
Post by: Poppylicious on November 19, 2010, 12:01:38 PM
Oh, this is so sad.  I've never had to watch someone in my family suffer from dementia, but we do have a family friend who has it.  She's only in her mid-fifties.  Mumsy and I bumped into her at an old country house (she was with mum's friends - I hadn't seen her for a couple of years) and she recognised me, which was really lovely because mum had only just been saying how she was now at the stage where she couldn't recognise people and was needing to be told to do simple things, like have a drink or brush her hair. 

I think it would break my heart if my mumsy suffered from it.

*huggles*