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Off-Topic => Off-Topic: Talk about anything you want. => Topic started by: Stoday on April 22, 2010, 08:43:53 PM

Title: Into an abyss...
Post by: Stoday on April 22, 2010, 08:43:53 PM
This month has been really bad for me so I reckon it's my turn for a rant.  :rant;

I feel as though I'm walking into a deep and dark valley — into an abyss. Soon I shall no longer see even a glimmer of the sun and I'll struggle through gloom for the remainder of my life. MooseMom said she read a book when she felt down — I can't even motivate myself to do that.

Maybe I need to start the big D. Tyefly gives me hope — she got her fistula the same month as me and she seems to be doing well...
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: galvo on April 22, 2010, 09:47:44 PM
Get onto Dialysis, you old coot!
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: Rerun on April 23, 2010, 10:23:51 AM
Stoday, you are feeling dread and that is normal.  I think once your start D, the fear of the unknown will be over.  You will deal with what comes your way and get into a routine and be able to pick up that book.

Make some decisions.  You are in a rut.           :cuddle;
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: paris on April 23, 2010, 11:04:02 AM
I think we all understand the "dark valley" feeling. I have been heading down that path this month. I had a dream the other night and all I can remember is the phrase "impending doom".   Thank goodness for IHD and all the people here.  You are right about Tyefly. She is a great role model and seems to be doing so well.  I don't have any words of wisdom.  Just wanted you to know you aren't alone and we are here for you.   :cuddle;
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: MooseMom on April 23, 2010, 11:10:27 AM
Today can be your day to rant and ours to listen. :cuddle;  Tyefly gives me hope, too!  And books help me up to a point, usually up to when the main character fiinds out she has fsgs and will soon need a transplant. :rofl; 

When you say this month has been bad for you, what do you mean?  Has something bad happened, or is it just that you feel your health and your mood deteriorating?  If it is the latter, it might be an idea to discuss it with your neph.  I've read posts from so many people here on IHD that reflect this depression as a signal to start D.  It is a huge decision, one that might be made for you.  It's a crossing of the Rubicon, a physical admission that you have an incurable (though NOT untreatable) illness, and that is a difficult admission to make.

I know exactly how you are feeling, and I don't blame you one bit for feeling this way.  Rerun has made some good points.  Once you start D, it will become a part of your life and you will just get on with it.  It won't be easy, but it's amazing the stuff we get used to just because we have to.  But it IS a difficult first step to make.  Full of dread..."dreadful."
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: paul.karen on April 23, 2010, 12:01:53 PM
Well im thinking it could be your pet bird making you feel that way.  Them vultures come with a stigma even though they are pretty in there own way.

Hope you get to feeling yourself soon.  Could be time to start the big D.
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: monrein on April 23, 2010, 03:09:27 PM
 :grouphug;  Sorry you're down Stoday.   :grouphug;
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: kitkatz on April 24, 2010, 09:18:32 PM
I have dropped into that pit of despair, but there is light at the end of it all, I know there is, somewhere.
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: Mimi on April 24, 2010, 11:27:44 PM
I think everyone just starting D feels like they are falling into an abyss
and believe me those abyss's are the pits. 
Go on and get on D and I believe  everything will get better.  Your body and mind are reacting to all those toxins.  Listen to me and I haven't even started D yet.  But I have fallen into several abyss's during
my lifetime.
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: Stoday on April 26, 2010, 06:36:46 AM
Thanks for all your kind words.  :cuddle;

I'm feeling my old self again now. It just that in March I had one bad day a week or so but this month it's two or three a week.

I've got a consultation with my neph tomorrow, so I'll be having quite a chat I think.
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: paris on April 26, 2010, 07:20:13 AM
Glad today is better.  Let us know how the "chat" with the neph goes.   :2thumbsup;
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: MooseMom on April 26, 2010, 08:04:29 AM
I am VERY eager to hear about the big chat tomorrow.  It may well be a life-changing day, hopefully for the better.  You just hang in there.
Title: Re: Into an abyss...
Post by: looneytunes on April 26, 2010, 07:59:49 PM
Glad to see you're feeling more like yourself Stoday....hope the chat goes well!