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Title: How much do you tip?
Post by: Stoday on November 20, 2009, 04:35:25 PM
I came across this shocking newspaper report today: http://www.nbcphiladelphia.com/news/local-beat/Time-In-Prison--70426052.html?yhp=1 (http://www.nbcphiladelphia.com/news/local-beat/Time-In-Prison--70426052.html?yhp=1)

There seem to be very different customs in various countries, so I wondered how much you normally tip when dining out in a restaurant?

Here in the UK I normally tip 10% on the full bill, including wine & tax. Rarely, when the service is particularly bad, I tip nothing — once a year or so. I think I'm more generous than average.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Pam on November 20, 2009, 04:43:15 PM
We do not go out to eat very often any more. When we do. we tip on the quality of service. Usually about 20%. But less if service is poor.
Pam
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Post by: paris on November 20, 2009, 06:15:02 PM
20% for good service.  Waiters don't even make minimum wage. They really count on their tips.   It has been different in other countries we have visited. That is one thing I like to check before traveling. 
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Post by: galvo on November 20, 2009, 06:35:39 PM
Here in Oz, wait staff earn a living wage. Tipping is usually reserved for really good service.
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Post by: glitter on November 20, 2009, 06:48:58 PM
I tip 15 to 20%- unless the service is bad then I will tip somewhat less- depends on why it was bad- I used to be a waitress and back in 1990 - we only made $2.15 an hour-plus tips, they only make $3.50 now, I do not know of any waitresses in the US making more.... its all about the tips here- that being said- I made pretty good money
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Post by: YLGuy on November 20, 2009, 06:51:30 PM
20% of the bill before tax unless the service was bad, then less.
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Post by: Falkenbach on November 20, 2009, 06:58:02 PM
As pointed out by Galvo, tipping is not traditional in Australia. In recent times, they seem to have started placing tip jars on their service counters. I object to this, personally. I'll tip for very exceptional service, and I will do so at my discretion, not because of some expectation. I don't want to see the introduction/expectation of a custome we have never had before when it is already costly enough to enjoy a night out in this day and age.

I am aware that hospitality wages are not the highest - but then neither are mine!! They are on an hourly rate, as am I, and with the penalty rates that many of hospitality workers get, their hourly rate is usually higher than mine anyway.
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Post by: willowtreewren on November 20, 2009, 07:11:46 PM
I generally tip 20%. My daughter was a waitress for a while in college. I know how much servers rely on tips.

Aleta
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Post by: looneytunes on November 20, 2009, 07:13:12 PM
We normally tip 20% for good service, 10% for fair service and nothing if the service is just plain rotten. 
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Post by: rookiegirl on November 20, 2009, 07:24:21 PM
I like to tip at least 20% or more and with cash rather than my Debit card.
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Post by: Hanify on November 21, 2009, 12:44:54 AM
There's a big sign at Auckland airport telling visitors we are not a tipping nation.  I hope it stays away too.
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Post by: Slywalker on November 21, 2009, 07:55:25 AM
I tip at least 20%.  My son put himself through college waiting tables, usually two jobs or more.  He taught me the importance of tipping.  Unfortunately he is now very critical of wait staff when I go out to eat with him as he is putting all wait staff up again his standards.  Pretty funny sometimes.  During the holidays I usually tip a little more.


I wish that the States would adopt the Australia method of paying a livable wage to the wait staff.  It is pretty sad that this segment of workers aren't paid correctly for their work.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Poppylicious on November 21, 2009, 10:40:57 AM
... and with cash rather than my Debit card.

Absolutely!  For some odd reason I always think that cash will get where it's supposed to get, but having it added to the bill will just line the pockets of the big bosses.  I'd hate to think I could be arrested for not paying a tip like the couple in the link ... how terrible!

I think that most people in the UK tip around 10%.  In October they made it illegal to use tips to make up staff wages here ... I don't know if that's affected staff negatively.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: dwcrawford on November 21, 2009, 11:14:02 AM
10 to 20% depending upon level of service and attitude of waitstaff.  Assume poor service is lack of experience so that rates 10 unless it is accompanied by rudeness or totally neglect (rarely) which  rates 0.  15 percen for average and 20 as a reward for extra attentatives, (except for regular people who wait on me and get extra at holiday times).  It's the Texas way!
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: thegrammalady on November 21, 2009, 11:22:40 AM
i usually tip 15% to 20%. having managed a restruant i'm aware that bad service isn't always the fault of the server. there was one time i tipped the bus boy, and not the server and told the manager exactly why i did it that way. most servers do make less than min wage, however i was told by an owner in oregon that by state law oregon wait staff must make min wage.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Hanify on November 21, 2009, 03:05:45 PM
The minimum wage for 16 and over in NZ is $12.50, and it's $10.00 an hour for 'new entrant' workers - so if you've got a job as a 15 year old in a supermarket or something.  Some places do put out a jar or something that you can put $$ in.  I prefer that to the system of putting it on a bill - I am always worried that'll just go to the owner not the staff.  Because we don't routinely do it here, it's a real extra surprise for the waiting staff if you leave something for them.
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Post by: jennyc on November 21, 2009, 11:50:35 PM
Out here tipping wasn't always a big issue but as service gets worse i think it is becoming much more of an issue. Tips are a gratuity out here, i worked in hospitality for almost 10 years before i had my son (restaurants and then pubs/hotels upto management level) and we learnt not to expect tips. the really good waitresses/waiters could walk out with maybe $50 at the end of the night.  (as i said 10 years ago, but could have changed now)

In Pubs, the only way to get really big tips was to do the poker machine payouts and in the places i worked it was only managers who did those becuase you were dealling with such large sums of cash, i got a few good tips with big payouts from regulars but that was it. The biggest was a 500 split between myself and the barmaid working.

anyway... Hubby is the type that if the service is good he'll tip well if it isn't he'll leave 5c to show he really wasn't happy.
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Post by: lizabee on November 22, 2009, 05:08:31 AM
20% for good service, 10% if the service was bad.  There have been a couple ocassions where I didn't tip at all, because the service was down right horrible
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: pelagia on November 22, 2009, 06:09:43 AM
I generally tip 20% of pre-tax bill at a restaurant (in US).  When I travel I always check on tipping practices in advance. 

How about tipping for other services?  I am always wondering what is appropriate.  Do you tip the hairdresser?  The guys who deliver a new mattress or appliance to the house?  The person who delivers the newspaper (at the holidays?)?  If so, how much?
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Post by: looneytunes on November 22, 2009, 06:25:24 AM
We used to travel extensively in our resepctive careers and tipping of hotel bellstaff, valets, etc depended on the level of service.  If they simply did their jobs, $2 to $3.  If they went beyond $5. 

I do tip my hairdresser $5 as she is a single mom and does a great job.  I do not tip the mail/delivery folks as they are paid a good living wage. 
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Post by: peleroja on November 22, 2009, 08:04:50 AM
It sure was easy when the standard tip was 10%!  When it went to 15%, I just got lazy and couldn't be bothered trying to figure out the extra 5%, so I invariably tip 20% and then raise it to the next dollar!  Maybe when I run out of money I won't be so generous.  For particularly bad service, I leave a penny with a note as to why the tip is just a penny.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: dwcrawford on November 22, 2009, 08:30:05 AM
The newpaper delivery people zoom down the street throwing papers aimlessly wherever they hit -- something they get it to the curb and other times actually make in the thr front part of the driveway.  I have no idea who they are as I pay annually by mail or online.  And yet each year at the beginning of the holiday  I get a preaddrewwed envelop in which to mail their Christmas tip.  It used to be prestamped, in which case I'd steam the stamp off and reuse it.  Now you're suppose to put on your own stamp.  Oh well, just an addition to the paper recycle box!
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Ken Shelmerdine on November 22, 2009, 12:11:20 PM
Here in the UK tipping mainly entirely disgressional and so it should be. I myself usally tip about 10% but there is an area of restaurants in Manchester called the Curry Mile where a large proportion of their clientel are university students who either leave a few pennies of loose change or nothing at all.

In countries where tipping is almost mandatory at a ridiculous 20% I say that in giving that level of tip you are subsidising a bad employer and as long as the general public continue this tradition then the remuneration paid to the staff will remain a pittance and mean minded rogues like these kind of employers will prosper.

In some of the high profile 'posh' caviar gusling restaurants in London visited by the rich and famous I know for a fact that the waiters work for nothing and rely purely on tips. Is this not a ridiculous state of affairs?
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: dwcrawford on November 22, 2009, 01:42:31 PM
When I eat at the "posh" expensive restaurants if they put caviar on my plate they don't get a tip.  Yuk, that stuff taste amazing like fish eggs.

But I do like the American way of tipping, as in choice.  You tip for good service and better service when you return to the same restaurant.  You can do the no tip, or the penny or nickel as others have suggested to hopefully improve the service fo the next time (or even the next patrons)...  It is like You Get What You Pay For in one sense or the other.  Kind of like in America if you want a better car or house, you pay a little more.

Oh my, its kind of like health care too.  Over the years people have paid for what they wanted.  Some went first class and want and get first class care whle others aren't that picky and go for HMO, etc. where their doctors, hospital, etc. are selected for them.  It all depends on what you pay and what you were willing to sacrifice to get it.  I want first class doctors and first class hospitals.  I don't want it all taken away from me now that I am in a position to have it all.  I know it is selfish but the wealtiest and working people have always paid for health care for the poor and under financed eldery.  I'm fine with that.  Though I'm a bloody liberal democrat in most things, I want to retain the level of care I've come to expect.

Oops, how'd I get here from TIPPING?  I apologize to the content police.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: jennyc on November 22, 2009, 02:33:06 PM
other places..... we generally don't tip except in restaurants/hotels. Bar staff keep a 'tips jar' on the counter, i do find i'll tip a good bar person a higher percentage than a waiter (i think having been both it's becuase of the waiters mentality, if they are being nice it is usually tip driven where as if a bar tender is being nice its just becuase they are really nice).
 
As to other services we leave a 6 pack of beer for the garbage truck drivers (the pickup closest to xmas, they leave their runs to later and then race around trying to beat the other driver to your street, i think they tally who gets the most beer.) It used to be common when i grew up to leave beer for the drivers on special occasions, it ensures a good garbo run each year, now we have 3 different bins and 3 different trucks so i'm not sure of the logic now, but hey i'm not one to break tradition.

But with other delivery drivers and tradesman i don't tip but i will usually offer them a cold drink or a can of coke or something, like the baxter guys, esp in summer like now when they are carting 30 days worth of supplies up my horrid driveway.

dwcrawford: i'd find that newspaper tipping envelope rather offensive, what we do with really annoying junk mail is pack it into any number of pre stamped junk mail envelopes (you know the ones) and post it back to them. So if a bank sends an annoying credit card offer and i'm in a bad mood i stuff it full of junk mail and send it to them.... sorry off topic
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: sutphendriver on November 22, 2009, 03:41:35 PM
20%(rounded up to nearest dollar) here too unless its a sushi bar, then a little more because the wait staff splits tips with the sushi chefs.  Bad service gets much less.  Hotels 2$ a day for the maid, 2$ a bag for the doorman and 2$ for the valet.  Strippers get a dollar a dance (up to 5$ depending on their ummmm "talent" or a mixed drink for a lap dance  :bandance;
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Zach on November 22, 2009, 04:18:35 PM

But I do like the American way of tipping, as in choice.  You tip for good service and better service when you return to the same restaurant.  You can do the no tip, or the penny or nickel as others have suggested to hopefully improve the service fo the next time (or even the next patrons)...


 :clap;
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: MIbarra on November 22, 2009, 04:19:27 PM
I tip 15% if service was standard and 20% or more if the service was better than expected at a restaurant. My husband always pulls out the tip calculator on his cell phone and figures it out to the penny - which annoys the heck out of me.

I'm always unsure how much I should tip the pedicurist/manicurist and the dog groomer.. Anyone have advice on them?
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Post by: Slywalker on November 23, 2009, 08:51:23 AM
I just read in today's paper that mail carriers cannot accept tips (unless it is something non-cash with a worth under $20).

The article did talk about hairdressers for the holiday seasons and advised to tip whatever the cost of a regular cut costs.  It didn't mention tipping hairdressers on a regular basis. 
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Hanify on November 23, 2009, 02:11:25 PM
I have no problem with tipping in a service industry, but when I was in Vegas I went to get a massage and there was the tip thing on the bill at the end.  A) the massage was incredibly expensive to start with and adding even 10% was a huge amount of money and b) a massage is a massage surely?  How do you give bad service for a massage?
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Post by: nursewratchet on November 23, 2009, 03:39:14 PM
My mom raised 2 kids alone on a waitress living.  We were poorer than anyone I have ever known, then or since.  I was a waitress, and my daughter was a waitress in college.  That having been said, I am a wonderful tipper.  I always tip 20% minimum.  If the service is bad, I report it to the manager, because he needs to know.  If it was just slow service, i still report it, and I still leave a good tip.  I leave 5. for the manicurist or hairdressor. 

My brother and I took my mom to lunch for Mothers day when I was a kid.  We saved our money, figured out to the penny.  We forgot to figure for a tip.  It came time to pay, and we were so proud of being able to pay for the meal.  Mom asked "where is your tip?" We said we forgot about that.  She splogized to the waitress, explaining the situation, then asked her "which tables do you have?".  The waitress told her where her tables were, and my mom told her to "get a glass of tea and have a break, the kids will clean your tables".  My brother and I bussed tables for what seemed like hours.  My mom did not play around, and though she is dead now, she would kick my butt if I didn't leave a tip.
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Post by: murf on December 08, 2009, 02:34:11 PM
Being an Ausie, I really don't know how to tip or how much I should give. In American movies, it seems you tip just about everyone. If I was to travel to the States, I would need instructions who and when to tip.
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Post by: RichardMEL on December 08, 2009, 05:08:55 PM
Agree with Hanify and the aussies - tipping here is really ONLY for great service - definitely not manditory.

I do however believe when I travel in following the local custom though, and tip appropriately (15-20%) when in the US. I never used to tip much in the UK as I always felt it was more like us... maybe I am wrong there.

Here's a situation I encountered some years ago that got my blood boiling though.

I've travelled to the United States many times in my life. I've been to around 25 or 26 states in my time, over probably 20-30 trips.

In I think 2001 or so I went with a local friend to a restaurant in Long Beach, CA (we were going to head to Catalina Island -"the island of romance, romance, romance!" but the weather was bad so no boats ran). Anyhoo we went to this Italian restaurant for dinner. Now they had set it up with a silver service kind of atmosphere so were going for up market... that's fine. We went in, sat down had an average sort of meal. Not horrible, but not fantastic - certainly didn't live up to the expectation that was set by the decor or snooty behaviour of the matre'd and staff.

Well so the bill comes out and even before we've picked it up or said or done anything the matre'd says to me (and not to my female companion, who, for all he knew could be paying!) "Sir does realise that in the United States we practice tipping." - I was absolutely incensed! My companion had an expression of "WTF?" on her face and was mortified on my behalf. I think I said something annoyed like "Yes, sir does realise this" - I was SO MAD.. just because he detected a foreign accent that I must be a moron or have no clue. I argued with my friend to leave ONE PENNY to show them just what I thought of their attitude, but she convinced me to pony up 10% (gee I was a softy!)... I couldn't believe it! (btw at another stage he suggested something that made me think he thought I was English, which may have had something to do with it).

Should have left the penny.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: dwcrawford on December 08, 2009, 05:28:51 PM
How cute, Nurse.  I should have liked your mom.

Richardmel, I'm sorry for your experience and I promise you that there are few restaurants here that would treat customers that way. 
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: RichardMEL on December 08, 2009, 05:38:14 PM
yep it's cool. I've been to lots of places in my travels and most are just fine. I've been given a few dirty looks for "only" giving 10% at some places, but it's my choice and I'm still following appropriate practice(that I think, anyway). I've never actually done the "one penny tip" yet, but a few times have been tempted to!

Hanify does this mean I don't have to tip you for our hot pool visit?  :rofl;
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Post by: mikey07840 on December 09, 2009, 01:02:30 AM
I tip the nurses or techs $1 per stick if they are successful, but nothing if it takes more than 4 tries to get me cannulated. I usually also tip $2 for the rinseback and $5 for removing the needles at the end of treatment.  :P
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Ken Shelmerdine on December 17, 2009, 05:48:30 AM
I tip the nurses or techs $1 per stick if they are successful, but nothing if it takes more than 4 tries to get me cannulated. I usually also tip $2 for the rinseback and $5 for removing the needles at the end of treatment.  :P

Let me get this right. You actually tip your dialysis techs??? Does this go on in all dialysis units in the US?
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: tyefly on December 17, 2009, 07:53:53 AM
  Gee    I was wondering how some people at D get more attention than others.....    LIke those tolls roads back East.....  I better start carrying a bucket of change with me and start giving.... it is the season of giving.......
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Post by: nursewratchet on December 17, 2009, 08:20:55 AM
No.  Dialysis techs or nurses DO NOT GET TIPPED.  Ever... not in the US anyway.
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Post by: cloud393 on December 17, 2009, 08:55:16 AM
usually 15%.  Depends on the service.
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Post by: cariad on December 17, 2009, 09:51:11 AM
Ack, Richard, that place in Long Beach sounds awful. (:secret; was it L'Opera?) The trouble with foreigners giving low tips in the US is that the staff will just assume that you really don't understand tipping custom. That's why people leave a single coin, which is well-known restaurant code for "I did not forget about the tip, and everyone knows that a tip would normally be more than this, but your service was terrible." So, I agree with you - next time leave the penny. Also tell the manager.

I have a horrifying tipping story. My husband and I took our final, pre-child holiday to St. Croix and we stayed at a marvelous resort where everyone was so friendly and accommodating. We booked a table at their swank restaurant for Christmas night. The server was a nightmare, in contrast to everyone else. She came over to take our order and when my husband tried to order she said they were out of what he wanted. I think his shoulders probably slumped a little out of disappointment, but she snapped at him (and I do mean 'snapped') "It's not my fault!" to which my husband calmly replied "Well, it's certainly not mine." We ordered something else, and she continued to be surly and just plain weird through the night. We received our bill, and she had added in her own 18% tip. My husband lost it, grabbed the bill, and marched straight over to reception. The reception manager immediately snapped into action, took the bill and found the restaurant manger.

My husband was fighting back his rage and said he wanted to leave her nothing. The restaurant manager was apologetic and then said "I hate to do this to you guys, but her mother died yesterday. I tried to convince her to stay home from work today, but she told me she just really needed to be around people. She should not have put in her own tip. Can I change it to 15%?"  :o

Normally, I tip around 20%. More if my kids are making extra work for the server and he or she handles it well. Less at a self-serve type place - not fast food, but cafes where we get our own drinks and order up at the counter.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: Ken Shelmerdine on December 19, 2009, 10:23:26 AM
I must admit I find the tipping culture in the US excessive to say the least but that's just my take on it maybe we are being a bit tight fisted here in the UK. But tell me is there a legal minimum wage in the US?
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: fc2821 on December 19, 2009, 12:12:44 PM
Ken this is usually something the individual states decide as a limit. Often it is not actally liveable. Also some people, particularly waitress, are paid less than the minimum wage as their employer considers their "tip money" as part of their wages. Poor tips results in substanual income for some. I have known many a waitress who was a single mother supporting childern on her income.  In some cases waitress are forced, by their employers to turn over a portion of their tips to the emplyer.
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: nursewratchet on January 14, 2010, 04:00:33 PM
In the US anyway, waitresses are always forced to tip a percentage to the bus boys and the bar staff.  The wage for waitresses is very low, they do survive on tips.  When my mom was a waitress,  her hourly wage was 1.05/hr.  She was a single parent, and that is the only work she did.  Minimum wage at the time was 5.15/hr in Texas.  We were very poor.  I'm a fabulous tipper to this day.
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Post by: mikey07840 on January 14, 2010, 04:16:04 PM
I tip the nurses or techs $1 per stick if they are successful, but nothing if it takes more than 4 tries to get me cannulated. I usually also tip $2 for the rinseback and $5 for removing the needles at the end of treatment.  :P

Let me get this right. You actually tip your dialysis techs??? Does this go on in all dialysis units in the US?

I was joking
Title: Re: How much do you tip?
Post by: dwcrawford on January 15, 2010, 07:11:59 AM
just as little as I can and expect to get service next time.  joking