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Dialysis Discussion => Dialysis: Spouses and Caregivers => Topic started by: Auntie V on March 08, 2009, 02:46:41 PM
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The hospice nurse has confirmed that Mom is now in the active stage of dying. As of yesterday at 2PM she thought that she had less than 48 hours. We are keeping her comfortable with morphine and atavan at this point. My brother and SIL will be staying a couple extra days to be here and support me. I will keep you posted.
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:grouphug; I am praying for all of you.
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Sending prayers your way, for you and
all of your family
Anne
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Not sure what to say other than that I hope she goes peacefully and without pain.
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May God wrap His loving arms around your family and may His angels gather around your Mother and give her peace. You will all be in my prayers.
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:grouphug;
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:grouphug; my Prayers for a peaceful journey.
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Praying for you all. Be strong. Hold her hand. I read somewhere that the sense of hearing is the last thing to leave us. Talk to her, sing to her, pray aloud for her (if you believe in prayer), tell her how much she has meant to you, how much she has done for you, and how much you'll miss her.
My heart is really, really heavy for you at this time. Know that there are many people thinking of you, your mom, and your family at this time. We're here if you need to talk.
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I am so sorry for your family...I will be thinking of your family. Its hard-no matter what else it is. :'(
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God bless your mom and your family. :grouphug;
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May God take her into his hands. :grouphug;
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I hope you can be with her to the end and that it will be peaceful - you have been a wonderful daughter, no mother could ask for more. :grouphug;
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My thoughts are with you and your family.
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prayers-Thoughts & good wishes to all involved. :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle;
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:grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Sending love...
:grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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:grouphug; will keep your family in my thoughts
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Keep talking to her. Read to her. Just let her know you are there. God be with you all.
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:grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug; So sorry to hear that.
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May your Mom pass with no pain, no regrets and the utmost serenity. :cuddle; :grouphug; :cuddle;
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Just a little update 6PM Monday
Mom still is hanging on. I do not know how. It seems like she has taken her last breath several times today but always starts breathing again. This long goodbye is really hard but at least I have my brother from Wyoming here. She seems to be resting well so we are just here loving on her and being with her.
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:grouphug; God bless you and your Mom.
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:grouphug; :cuddle;
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We stayed all night with Goofynina - thinking each breath would be her last - I think I even counted between breaths - she was peaceful at the end - that's the best you can hope for.
I know it's hard Auntie V - you've done all you can - she's lucky to have had such a loving daughter.
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Tell her it is okay to go home. Maybe she needs to hear that. I hope she is comfortable and in peace soon.
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Just a little update 6PM Monday
Mom still is hanging on. I do not know how. It seems like she has taken her last breath several times today but always starts breathing again. This long goodbye is really hard but at least I have my brother from Wyoming here. She seems to be resting well so we are just here loving on her and being with her.
You are doing all the right things. Just being there has to be a big comfort for your mom. I remember when my mom passed on I thought she had died at one point. I had agreed to remove her oxygen as quick as possible because she didn't want the indentations on her face. So I thought she had taken her last breath and I removed the oxygen and all of a sudden she breathed in and out, I was so embarrassed, but you know she would have laughed about it in life, but I felt so bad. It's the hardest thing to do just waiting so my prayers are with you and your family in these last hours. :grouphug; :grouphug; Thank you for checking in with us through this difficult time.
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Mom joined Dad this morning at 2:50. It was very peaceful and she was with the ones that loved her. I know that she is in a better place and there will be nor more pain. Thank you all for your support and prayers. Having your support has helped me through this very difficult time. Now I am just going to give myself a couple days to rest up. I will keep in touch with my new friends here though.
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Hi Vicky...
I'm new to IHD...
I've been following your story about your mum... I am caring for my mum who's in ESRF too, so your journey has had a certain resonance for me... My turn to travel that road has yet to come...
May your dear mum rest in peace... As we say in Ireland, May God be good to her...
Please know that my thoughts are with you, and my prayers are for you and your family...
In your time of sorrow...
May God bless and protect you...
May you see God's light on the path ahead
When the road you walk is dark.
May you always hear,
Even in your hour of sorrow,
The gentle singing of the lark.
When times are hard may hardness
Never turn your heart to stone,
May you always remember
when the shadows fall—
You do not walk alone.
Love and hugs...
Carolyn/Darthvadar...
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Godbless you Aunti V.
Your mom is now an Angel back with her husband. A sad yet happy day.
Thank you for being so strong and agreeeing with your mothers wishes. It must have been very hard for you as i know it would have been for me.
BIG :grouphug; to you and yours.
P&K
Please dont be a stranger
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:grouphug; Godspeed mother.
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Your mother is safe now with no pain. God bless her and your loving family.
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:grouphug; Auntie V. You are in my thoughts and prayers. :cuddle;
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Your in my thoughts- I am sorry for your loss- I hope you have found some sense of peace. :'( :grouphug;
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She is on the otherside and we will meet again.
God Bless~ :grouphug;
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I hope that YOU have found a sense of peace also Auntie V. I found it very inspirational, the way in which you respected your Mom's wishes and helped her through this last phase in her life here on earth. :grouphug; :cuddle;
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God Bless you Mom and all your family for being there for Mom. :grouphug;
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This is a lesson in love and dignity. May your mother rest in peace. :grouphug;
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Rest peacefully your work here on earth is finished. Go now and reap your rewards for being a faithful servant.
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Just knowing you were with her in those last days here will be special to you for all time. God bless you and your family. :grouphug;
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:grouphug; I'm without words. It's so hard losing a Mother. God Bless.
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Vicky, I watched my own mother die while under hospice care. It's not an easything to do. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Alene and Rolando
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Thinking of you and all of your family in this most difficult time...
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Sending love and prayers your way. You have been the best daughter right until the end. Now take care of yourself and come here often :grouphug; May your Mum rest in peace with your Dad now.
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I am so thankful for the time you have had with her since she made her decision. This is indeed leaving with grace, dignity, and surrounded by love. Please know that we are with you in spirit as you deal with your loss.
We are expecting you back at IHD. You have lots to offer those going through a similar experience.
:grouphug;
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:grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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:grouphug; :grouphug; I am so sorry for your loss, Yvonne
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:grouphug;
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Sending love...
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You were such a blessing to your Mother. Thank you for sharing this part of her life with us. :grouphug;
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:grouphug; I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers today!
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My condolences to you and your family :grouphug;
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:grouphug; :grouphug; i never have the right words :grouphug; :grouphug;
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I hope your doing okay- having recently lost my husband, I do understand the grief. Its so tough. Hang in there. :grouphug; :grouphug; :cuddle;
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Sorry for your loss.
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:thx; I am just checking in to thank everyone for their prayers and well wishes and to let you all know that I am doing OK. :thx;
I have some good days and some bad days but I feel that is to be expected. After being a 24/7 caregiver for so long I am finding it very hard to switch gears and move into a "ME" mode though.
I will have plenty to do for awhile as I am going to be cleaning out the house and getting it ready to sell.
EDITED:Fixed smiley error - Sluff/Admin
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Hi V....
I'm thinking of, and praying for you....
Try to take a few days 'Me' time... I'm caring for my mum, and I know how demanding it is...
May God bless and protect you...
Love...
Darth...
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Thank you for checking back with us. This time in life will be so difficult. I had the worst struggle when we had to clean out our Mom's house. So many memories and such finality. Take care of yourself. And remember we are all thinking of you as you transition from caregiver to just being you. Lots of love :grouphug;