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Introduction => The IHD Family - Our Members => Topic started by: Mimi on February 23, 2009, 11:19:17 PM
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Hi Guys............Just wanted to let you all know what is happening at my house.
My daughter Cindy has filed for divorce from her husband. We are all in shock
and soooo stressed out. I don't know how this is going to work out and how we are going to make it financially. I may not be on line as much for he has refused to pay the telephone bill, my youngest grandson paid it this month and he has already had the cable turned off. I am afraid we are in for some bitter times. He
is threatening to drag it out for as long as possible. Please everyone, say a prayer
for us. My thoughts and prayers will be with you all and please take care of yourselves.
Love, Mimi
TOPIC MOVED to appropriate Section - Bajanne, Moderator
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:grouphug; So sorry to hear this. I hope things don't get too bad. Please keep in touch when you can.
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So sorry to hear this Mimi, I pray you all we be OK :grouphug;
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Really sorry to hear this, Mimi. My caring thoughts and prayers are with you that this will all work out for the best in the end. :cuddle;
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Oh, Mimi,
Sorry to read this. Will be praying for
you and all of your family, that this will
all go smoothly and not cause alot of
stress for you all.
You will be in my thoughts,
Anne
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Sounds like he is an Ass Hole! I think she is doing the right thing. She better go get a job or go to school to get a job. She doesn't need that boat anchor around the rest of your lives. Support her in her decision and get through this.
There are support lawyers for free if you don't have income. You probably live in a community property state and she will get half plus child support. He will get to see the kids as he should, he is their father. Try to remember to put the kids first.
Divorce sucks and I think it is an action of last resort, but sometimes for the best in the long run.
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Oh Mimi sorry to read this.
You will be in my thoughts and i hope for the best outcome for all involved.
We will be here when you can get back to us.
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P&K
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Mimi, I am sorry for all of you. We were blind sided with the same situation 2 years ago and it is still a mess. Some one once told me "little kids, little problems--big kids, big problems" They were right. You can't just stick a bandaid on grown childrens troubles and fix them. The heartache is horrible and it is hard to see your child suffer (and grandchildren). I will keep all of you in my prayers. Let us know how you are when you can :grouphug;
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Paris is so right --- a trip to Just a Buck will not save this problem
good luck to you and I will pray
I know this is a hard time
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Oh Mimi you've always been so loving and caring to all of us, I am so sorry to read what is happening to you and those who you love. Of course I will keep you all in my thoughts. I hope it isn't all as bad as you fear. :cuddle;
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:grouphug; My prayers are with you!
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Oh Mimi, so sorry to hear that there are tough times ahead. Divorce is not pretty even when it's amicable. I pray this resolves quickly and everyone comes out better at the end (I'm sure you all will!).
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My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family immediately. I know to well what it's like to be held a financial hostage at the hands of pure evil. I hope you both come out of it quickly and unharmed. :grouphug;
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Divorce is not an easy emotional experience for anyone, just stand by her side and support her decisions. You will get through this and hopefully come out on top. :grouphug; :grouphug;
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He should be :Kit n Stik;. I'll keep you in my prayers, Mimi!
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Mimi,
So sorry to hear of this news. Keeping you, and your daughter in my thoughts, and sending the best of wishes and positive thoughts your way.
:cuddle;
Love,
MRR
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Mimi - Sorry to hear the news. I hope for you and your family that everything resolves very quickly and as painlessly as possible.
Sandyb
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Hi Mimi,
So sorry to hear about the divorce.
My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family.
Hope all turns out for the best. :grouphug;
Normie
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So sorry Mimi and as others have said, you have always been so sweet and loving to us, I hate this is happening to you! :cuddle;
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Hi Guys just got on to leave a update and saw that Glitter's husband had passed.
I feel so shocked and sorry for all of his family.
I wanted to let you all know that things are moving along with the divorce. My
son has been in town this past week and he is going to pay the lawyer. What a
relief. My grandchildren are all grown :-(, so there are no small children to worry
about and both of the boys think their Mom should get out of the marriage. He
has the meanest mouth of anyone I've ever come in contact with. However he has never talked ugly to me in these years I have lived with them. He did go for 4 months and not speak to me. And nobody knew why. I thank all of you for the
concern and advice. Rerun, Cindy had breast cancer 4 years ago and it was a stage 4, with a tumor on her back, too. So if she doesn't get enough money to survive she will have to try and get on disability. Thanks again to all of you for the concern and take care. Will talk later.
Love, Mimi
Please continue to pray.
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Thanks Mimi for the update, prayers for smooth transitions. :grouphug;
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Dear Mimi, You are in my thoughts everyday. We miss your posts. I hope your family gets through all of this and can move forward. Take care of you during this stressful time. Come back when you can. I hope you can feel our cyber hugs :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug; :grouphug;
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Thinking about you Mimi. Hope you come back to us soon. :cuddle;
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Mimi I haven't been on in a while and I missed your post. But I am so sorry to hear about what is going on. You guys are in my prayers. I hope all goes smoothly. Keep us updated.
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:grouphug; Sorry about the troubles Mimi!
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Hi Gang:
Just a note and a prayer request. Cindy and Ron cannot agree
on how to split everything. They go before the judge on Friday.
Ron is getting more antsy and ugly as each day goes on.On Sunday morning Cindy was up at 5 am seeing about our new puppy. It was thundering, lightening, and pouring rain. She glanced out of the kitchen window and Ron was walking around
in the backyard with my youngest grandson's shotgun in his
hands. It frightened her to death and she quickly locked the
back door and called 911. The police asked him what he was
doing and he said he was going to shoot a crow that had been getting the bird seed. As you can see things are getting worse.I ask for your prayers that we all get through this alive and that there can be a fair settlement decided on.
I pray that all of you are doing OK and know that I am praying for all of you and that I love you.
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We love you too Mimi and miss you. Praying this is all resolved swiftly and fairly and you all come through it as well as you can. I'm sure your faith will give you strength. :grouphug;
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maybe after she adjusts to her single life she will feel that she is doing the right things -
he does not sound like a very nicer person
she can do better
and I hope she knows it
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Mimi you all have to be careful. Birds dont eat at night and especialy in thunder and rain?? I would consider hiding the shells for all your guns. Best safe then sorry.
I am saddened you are having to go through this.
Im my thoughts and prayers.
:cuddle; :grouphug;
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??? Yikes!
Mimi, I hope things get resolved soon. It sounds frightening. Please take care. :cuddle;
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I'll keep you all in my prayers for resolution, safety, and agreement. We miss you :grouphug;
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aaawww Mimi :cuddle; I do hope things do not get any "worser", bless you and your family!
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Mimi :grouphug;
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i miss you too :grouphug;
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Hi everyone, wanted to let you know what's going on here.
The divorce is almost final. Cindy got the house, and
he has to pay the housenote every month. Plus she will
get alimony, enough that she can scrape by on. Also she will get some medical assistance plus he has to keep some insurance up on the house and himself, in case he dies before she does.
All hell broke loose tonight so he will be leaving tomorrow or
she will get a restraining order. I will be disconnecting this
puter tonight and sitting it in the hall so he can take it with him.
But my son called today and said he will buy me another computer. So hopefully I will be back in 2 or 3 weeks.
Take care of yourselves and know that I will be thinking of you all and praying for you, too.
Until we meet again.
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You are missed Mimi - come back as soon as you can! :waving;
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Miss you Mimi, please take care till you get back. Good luck to you and your family, God Bless all of you :thumbup;
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I'm looking forward to seeing you back on here Mimi and I hope that life for Cindy and the rest of your family will settle down and become more peaceful.
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Please take care, Mimi. We will all be waiting anxiously for your return.
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We miss you :cuddle; It is good that things are getting finalized. Your daughter can start to move forward. Take good care of yourself and we will be waiting for you.
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Wow! The challenges that we have to face in life!! Mimi, you are such a caring person. I am sorry that you have had to go through this kind of experience. I can't wait until everything is settled and you are with us again.
Be assured of my caring thoughts and prayers. take care of yourself. :cuddle;
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Hi Everyone: Sorry to be so long checking in. I do hope you are all OK. Cindy and I have just gotten back from Memphis. We had to go up to see about Cindy's best friend since Jr. High. She had breast cancer 15 years ago and 3 weeks ago she was diagnosed with bone cancer. She is truly like a member of our family. We are trying to help her decide some things since she was divorced 2 years ago and her parents and brother have passed on. She has 2 grown sons but they are not much help at all. Her name is Laura and I ask for your prayers for her.
As I said in my last update, the divorce is final and things are settling down here, finally. Have to go to all my Drs. next week to find out how my body is doing. It's been a hard roe to hoe but thankfully it is almost finished.
Love to alll of U. Talk later.
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Welcome back Mimi! :cheer:
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:waving; Mimi :welcomesign; back
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Good to have you back, I hope things are settling down for you now. Laura will be in my prayers. :grouphug;
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Great to have you back, Mimi! :waving;
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yeah
you are back
and all your cute icons
I missed them
yeah
what icon will you use next
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Glad to hear things are settling down. :waving;
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:cuddle; Take care Mimi. :cuddle;
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:waving; Mimi!
Edited: Fixed smiley error -okarol/admin
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Glad you are back. :welcomesign;
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Mimi, so glad to see your post! You have been missed. Let us know how your doctors appointment goes.
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Mimi it was good to see your post. I'm glad to hear that things are settling down. Your friend with bone cancer is in my prayers.
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Surprise!!!! It's me ole Mimi. Sorry it's been so long. But you know the old saying 'Time Flies".
I have a problem and I need your thoughts. I went in yesterday to see my neph, I've been going to him about 3 years now. My GFR had
dropped from 22 down to 15 in the last few months. He started in immediately talking going on D, right now. I said I am not ready for D yet, in fact I may never be ready. He said then he cound not do anything more for me and it was only going to get worse. Then he said to Cindy, Such a good looking woman, what a shame????? I said maybe I should think about getting a graft put in place. He said
No I didn't need to do that, he would just put a catherter in my neck and go on with the D He acted like I was at death's door. I said I would have to think about all of this and he said fine but when you walk back in that door I want you to be ready to go on D. So it seems I am without a neph unless I want to start D immediately.
Am I nuts? Please give me your opinions.
Love and cares,
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It is not up to your neph as to when you start dialysis. It is up to you!
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Is PD an option?
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Sounds like he thinks he is in total control. Mimi, I have been at 12-15 for three years. He needs to give you more information. More numbers : creatinine, bun, etc. Can you ask to see your last labs? He may have good reason to think you need to start, but he needs to explain. And explain why he doesn't want you to get a fistula. Do you like him?
On another note ---- Hi Mimi!!! You have been missed :cuddle; :cuddle;
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It's truly great to see you posting again, Mimi! Don't stay away so long again.
As the others have said, it's your decision. However, I would make my decision based on how I feel and how my blood works are.
[I am moving this topic since it now a dialysis topic]
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Welcome back Mimi.
I have missed all your little photos/sayings you put in your tag lines.
Hanify had a good question. Is PD an option. It is easy to learn and you can do it at home.
Hope to see you posting often like in the past :-)
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Hi Mimi, welcome back!
Why to get a catheter... well, maybe if you're half dead and have arrived in the emergency room surprised by the rapid progression of your kidney failure, that would be a good reason.
No, Mimi, you are not in that situation. Get a graft or get a new nephrologist unless he can give you a damn good reason for suggesting a catheter. CATHETERS DAMAGE THE BLOOD VESSELS THEY ARE PLACED IN! There are only a limited number of good catheter sites and they can be used up AND the damage to the vessels can do away with the option of getting a graft/fistula peripherally to the damaged vessel. Catheters are a good option only when there is no other option due to the urgency of the need for dialysis.
(Such a good looking woman, what a shame? What, exactly is up with that??? Is a new neph an option?)
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Hi Everyone. Thanks so much for your thoughts. My labs were all
good. That's the reason I was so shocked when he said I didn't have time to get a graft, I would have to go with a catheter. I do have the option of changing Drs. and my son came in today and he
thinks I should go for a second opinon. This Dr. has gotten Cindy so upset and I hate it, because she has already been through so much. :Kit n Stik;
I don't think I am a candidate for PD because I am diabetic and I read somewhere that Nephs don't recommend PD for diabetics.
I will let you all know how it goes.
Love, MImi
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:waving; Hi Mimi. Like everyone said, talk to another Doctor. A good friend of mine had to see another Doctor in the same practise because hers was out. She stayed off dialysis. Her kidney failure was acute. I know that isn't the case for you. But a second opinion doesn't hurt.
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I changed doctors within the same practice. First one made the diagnosis and said I would be on dialysis in 6 months. Didn't like his attitude. He never explained anything. I asked the nurses which doctor in the practice was the most on top of the changes in the renal field, who did research and spent time with the patients. I loved my new one. He listens to me. I have held at 12-15% for three years, so the first doctor was totally wrong and didn't care. It would be a good idea to talk to another doctor, if possible. Let us know how things go. Good to see you posting. We worry about you. :cuddle;
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I guess PD might be a problem for diabetics cos of the sugar. What's everyone's experience?